What would you do if your friend asking for advice has started irritating you ?

India
November 15, 2008 9:50am CST
He/she calls you day in day out and asks his questions to you. The questions that he is supposed to think over. The questions that involve his private life which you dont wanna listen to. But he's your friend, one of your best friends. You have to listen and reply to him even if you wouldn't like interfering in such matters.. What would you do ???
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6 responses
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
you already mentioned it. "he is your best friends" why do you have to be irritated? that's is our roles to each other as a friend. and the best you can share with them is to listen especially they needed it the most. Listen and give your support to your friends, you don't have to give all advices from what you have heard. being there is a BIG plus to strengthen the bond that you have...
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• India
15 Nov 08
You are right buddy. Being there is a really very big thing. Ok i read my own question again and i would like to edit it a bit. You listen to your friend, his problems and find out its his fault. Now he's your best friend so you can just tell him that he's wrong but still he tries to get it out from you, something u dont wanna say about your best friend, something you want him to understand. Thanks for your reply.... Take care buddy...
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
you are ver much welcome buddy. take care too
@mowade (2)
• United States
15 Nov 08
I suggest before you become so irritated, you should picture yourself going through the same situation. Chances are, you will need the same type of attention that your friend is crying out for. You as a friend(best) have an important role. Friends depend on friends, for life instances that they feel they cant handle solely. Its up to you to help him/her get through it. Since you know that this is a reoccurring theme, I suggest you allocate time out of your life to assist your friend. I also suggest, as a solution, take your friend out exercising, or out enjoying some type of recreational activity. This way maybe his/her mind can become clear of the problem that is existing. Let him/her know that (time) will heal all wounds, and that you are willing to help as much as you can.
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• India
15 Nov 08
You know what buddy, after reading your response, I called up my friend up and said sorry to him. He asked why was i apologizing and i changed the topic.... Thanks a lot, I pictured myself in the same situation and felt really very guilty and in need of help... Take care buddy, thanks once again..
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
15 Nov 08
Well, when someone is in trouble and needs my help, I just can't say no. I want to be a psychologist, so I should get used to being cried on and told problems that I just can't fix. If the poor friend was really getting to me, though, I would give him really vague advice like "Look inside your heart" or lots of confusing metaphors like "Do like the birds do" so hopefully they will be able to expand their mind and learn to think for his or her self, instead of coming to me. They would probably be sick of my advice after a while.
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• India
15 Nov 08
Hey thats quite nice a reply you have given. I liked all of the ideas but i won't like him to be sick of my advice and stop asking me but the vague advice idea really rocks man. Hmmm, I can think of lots of vague ideas to give him right now but i dont want him to do something stupid. I mean what if he takes wrong meaning of my 'vague idea' after all it is vague. On one side i dont want him to irritate me and on the other i dont want him to do somethin stupid either. Hey but thanks for your wondrful reply, take care buddy....
• India
15 Nov 08
I guess if he is your best friend then you need to be patient and help him solve his problem. Just show him a way out of the trouble so that he may not have any questions in mind and also will not bother you thereafter. But anyhow you need to help him to solve his problem.
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• India
15 Nov 08
Yes he is my best friend. I listen to him with all the patience i have and till date i've never told him that i'm irritated cause somewhwer in my heart i know he's my friend but in this case He's the one who's wrong and I've told him and he doesn't want to listen to me. He wnts me to prove it to him again and again that he is not wrong, which i dont like. Man when will he understand.... Well anyway, thanks for your reply. It helped. Take care buddy, have a goodnight...
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
I will listen if one of my best friends is asking for such advice because he is my bestfriend and in trouble. A good friend is someone who is always there, ready to listen and help for whatever it is. If a certain person is confiding his most top secret and problems, that is he trusted you so much, so it is best to listen to him and give him sensible advices. A true friend is not irritated with matters relating to friendship.
• India
15 Nov 08
refer him or her ot another friend sometimes we jsut cant afford to be there for everyone
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• India
15 Nov 08
Hey nice idea !!! Know what i never thought of it. Thanks a lot friend.... But now I've to find someone who'd give him correct advice and not misguide him. Afterall he's my best friend.... Take care buddy, goodnight to you...