i have a 125 friends and you know who you are how come i can,t get any response?

Hey first we should understand the fact that our friends can have different interest than ours. Only if the discussion is of their interest they will open the discussion. Or they will just skip it. And all your friends won't get the chance to view your discussion. People don't prefer searching in 2nd or 3rd pages for good discussion. They just view the first page and if yours is not there, you may miss some responses. This just happens yar. Even we can't respond to each and every discussion of our friends. Happy mylotting.

As vidhyavini pointed out we all have different interests and we should also not forget preferences. I usually respond to discussions which are close to heart. Clearing our friends' list of who we assume to be deadbeats may work against us. Some people have time to answer only a few discussions per day. Some may be busy with personal commitments. Some may have limited opportunity to be online. Some may be forced offline to unforeseen circumstances. All of my friends have their alert on. But I did not reply to all the discussions they started because some are way out of my league like the one on Chelsea losing a soccer match. and some are not relevant to me like the one on glasses and contact lenses ( I do not need either).

I know we're all different but I really don't let this bother me, mind you I'm like everyone I love to see the responses, but most of my people on my friends list already know I fight some very bad health battles and I just do what I can when I can and I try to remind my friends when the opportunity arises I love you all very much. Thank You for giving me the chance once again to just say Thank You for your patience and your love. The only posts I can't and don't answer is much to do with movies or television shows. I have never been a person to enjoy TV or movies so in that area I'm useless. Take Care and please know I'm happy to have you on my friends list always.

I would ask an apology if I wasnt able to respond to all your discussions annjilena, for personal reasons like staying online just a couple of hours (2 or 3) and that is not everyday for job reasons, whenever I get online, I usually choose and select discussions I can easily relate with and had something to share. In same manner, like yourself, I can also rant that not all my 330 friends are responding to my post as well, for this reason, I usually choose mylotters that are active in mylot. Its a good thing though that there are still a plenty who did give the effort to respond at times. Happy Sunday !

Hi annji, I understand how you feel. I have spent the last 3 or 4 days answering the 80 or so responses I received from my last post. It has been very time consuming because I try to answer with a minimum of 3 to 4 lines and with a quality answer. 1 or 2 lines are not acceptable to the guidelines. Besides I"m here to answer quality posts as well as answer with a quality answer. Right now I'm exhausted but I read your post and wanted to reply. Because I have so many friends, I have found it necessary to try and pick at least 1 post from each friend to respond to. I have had to limit myself like that because it all takes so much time and I have to take care of other personal obligations, and responsibilities. Hugs leenie

I try to respond to discussions that my friends start however I spend very little time on MyLot so though I do respond I imagine I miss a lot of the discussions that they start. I also tend to go for things that are in my interests as well. I mean if someone is talking about something you do not know or care about you most likely are going to skip that discussion and move onto the next. I do feel your frustration though when you have that many in your friends list especially if you are responding to their discussions it would be nice for them to return the favor. Well if I see any of your discussions up I will try and respond if I happen to catch them. Best of luck to you annjilena!

Probably because 95% of your friends are all inactive users. You should go clean up your list.

hon I am hardly ever hear so I do not make many discussions anymore or I do I answer a whole lot of them. I try when I can to divide my time with my friends and answer some of the discussions at least.

I don't know if I am on your friend list or not. I don't always get here on Mylot it has taken me so far over 2 years to reach my goal as a result. I too get very few responses to most my posts. So understand the frusteration. I accept all friends that request unless there is some wierdo pervert and that only happened once. LOL. Hope things pick up for you.

I havent counted how many friends I have on here but what I think happens is they have turned thier notify off or havent got it on. So they dont see the posts to respond. I sugjest to all if you ask for a friend and the accept turn your notify on so you get to see all the post from those friends I have all mine on and still have some I never hear from at all so they atrent posting!

Maybe ty adding more fiends. I have nearly 600 friends and only get about 30 to 40 responses on the average. Lately it also seems more members prefer to respond only as mine have increased. There is also members whom do only discussion starting. The members vary greatly in their ways. I say add more friends and see what transpires really. I add friends all the time as I love respondiong to things that interest me here. Have a great day/evening and good luck in the future as well. I have many on my list that have NEVER responded to mine. Yet I keep them mostly to read and or respond to theirs. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

They are only friends in name but not friends in deed. I am saying this because I have many friends in my list but only a handful comes to my discussion to response. My discussions might not interest them but I am jack of all trade as my interest covers all aspects that is not an excuse any more. But I understand some have no interest at heart to be involve in discussions but merely take the opportunity to widen their personal interest of getting more referrals which I think they are in the wrong place. I do that too but I as I said covers all aspects yet do not get good result. But this is human nature 'do as they like' and we have to accept that in good faith. The only option now is to recruit as many friends as possible to get a wide coverage.

well there are people who doesn't care about you here... SOME... but they are few. about you getting no responses even if you have a very good topic, maybe they just cant relate and has nothing good to say so they rather pass by the topic and look for another that wil interest them.. But sometimes showing concern on your friends is nice like going on to the zero responses so they will credit with their discussion. But we cannot blame anyone for we have different interestes and I think thats the main reason.

i am so gald, happy and high hope that you started this discussion. i myself wonder about this too. i've been absent for two weeks and my email was filled up of 500+ of notifications of started discussions of my friends. that was a lot but when i was the one who started the discussion some only took time to welcome me back and even greated me happy birthday. i dont know why this is happening but i think i will start to eliminate them on my list were all they are doing is to expect people to response on their discussion witout giving the time to response on their friends discussions. that is really very selfish i think.

Hello, Sometimes I notice that some friends are not on MyLots daily and they can't always reply to their friends discussion. And if you don't have a lot of friends on you're list then sometimes you don't get as many reply's. I really don't have too many friends because I don't actively have time to add new friends. But if I see somebody on MyLot that has some good discussions I would like to respond to in the future then I usually add them as a friend or if If I replied to their discussions more then a few time then I like to add them as a friend because I like their topics. Actually I think it's great to even get a few reply's on your discussion instead of none because there are a lot of topics here on myLot that don't even get one single reply. I often visit the No-reply section here and view them and I often find a lot of good discussions that have "0" reply's and I reply to them. I think the key to getting more reply's to you're discussion is to have more friends then you already have now. Like having 400 + more friends will result in having more people responding to you're discussions. The more friends you have the greater chance of your discussion being seen. I have seen some great discussions from new people who just joined and they don't get one single reply because they have only 1-10 friends and they get discourage and stop coming to mylot daily because nobody reply's to their discussions. If these people on you're friends list annoy you too much just delete them, they won't be missed if they can't even respond to any of you're discussions once in awhile. I also suspect some mylot users are unfairly biased regarding certain mylot users, like if you are different or have a uniquely different type of picture you use as a avatar they don't like, or if you have different spiritual or political beliefs then them,then they won't go near you're topic even if it's the most interesting and intelligent discussion currently on mylot. I doubt most mylot users are like this but I know there are some that are this petty.

My dear Ann welcome to the club. I have this problems and since them I have trim my friendlist. There are persons who likes you to come to his/her discussions but when it is their times to come to at least one there are excuses such as 'I don't know what you are talking about no experiences'. This is MYLOT if you can't join them then delete.

Before I tried my very best to answer all the posts of my friends for as long as I have something to share. But when I finally noticed that most of them are not doing the same support to me I stop burdening myself with the posts I received through notification. I only turned on those that come from friends who are really very supportive and I tell you I never miss a single post of them because they also do not miss any single post of me. That is but natural. Support begets support if you are supporting the right people. If you want to be supported you also have to be supportive but not because you are supporting friends all of them will become 100% supportive. Now it is up for you to choose among your friends who are those reciprocating and mark them. Be 100%$ supportive to them as well. That way, you can be assured that there are people who will respond to your post and will not get zero responses at all. Me...I don't except all my friends will respond to all my post although my post are but few because it's either some of them are busy somewhere else, some are busy with their own post and selfishly just posting and posting without responding, some don't really have the knowledge about my topic and various reasons I may not know. I however know those who although are absent for one day or few will always make it a point to still respond even if late and I also do the same to them. There are so many good topics that never get good number of responses simply because what is good to you may not be good to others and what is bad or senseless to you makes sense to others. We have different interests here so we can't say Oh my topic is very good why is it that they are not responding to me? There is only one way of getting sure responses...start gaining and keeping supportive friends.

hi! nice to know..you've got a lot of friends here in mylot site, unlike me my shoes is just counted. It's not necessary that your friend would gotta response in every discussion you have., Do you responsed a lot too? or find more interesting topic? I am conscious topic, i don't join discussion which talk non-sense.