What would you do if you caught your father cheating with her best friend?

Cheating on your spouse/partner is NOT acceptable, but in this situation, you need to ask yourself; 'can i handle being in a broken family'? The answer must be, YES!!

Hello Ronnyb, Whilst jumping out the window to meet some friends one night ( in my younger days! ), I discovered my Dad was doing the same, at the same time I was making my getaway!...I kid you not!...Daughter jumping out of her window, hits the ground, hears the window from the guest room open, to see her Dad's butt. coming through the window...Anyway...I never told my Mum and he never scolded me or even bought it up...But the woman he was going to see that night, ended up taking my STUPID dad away from my Mum and crushing her world and I hated the fact that maybe I could have saved her the heartache, lawyers fee's and the down right disrespect, she was sujected to, by this S*** , Home******** cow!...This cow ended up dumping my STUPID Dad ( good job! ) but not till after she emptied his bank account and then my cheeky Dad thought Mum should take him back!...I don't think so...But after all this, my Mum found out I knew and when she did...My Mum disowned me and would not speak to me for three years...It took alot for me and my siblings to make Mum see I wasn't the one who wrecked her life, but she came round after a while...Its amazing what one will overlook when a grandchild is added to the family...She could not carry on with her life without knowing her grandchildren and the birth of my oldest son...

well for me, this is a hard to decision to make considering the factors you have just mentioned. But if that happens to me, I will do my best to stop the cheating, you can warn them that they have to stop it, or else, you will tell the truth to everyone. Talk to them, that what they are doing is not healthy and will cost a lot of trouble.

this is a very difficult question to answer.but if i was in that situation i would have to tell my mam no matter how much it hurt her because she has a right to know plus my dad would deserve to be punished for cheating on her.

if that happened i think it would be so wrong for the father to expect his child to keep this lousy secret. at that point he needs to step up and be man and admit to his wife what has been going on. if this is a true scenario you are putting forth then shame on both the man and woman who are doing the cheating. i think people who cheat on their spouses are cowards.

Hi there! I will not tell my mother about it cause I don't like to hurt her. It will surely cause her grief and I don't want that. My loyalty is to my dad is out of the questions cause its has already been broken since he is cheating on my mom. I don't care about my moms friends neither because she is also a cheater. But I will not tolerate so it I will tell the friend's family about it. And make it discreet enough to put an end to it. Ciao!

That would be a hard situation. My first thought as I was reading was that I would make him be the one to tell her. But then when i read about all the families that would be hurt by the truth coming out I reconsidered. I would want them to stop the affair but I don't think I would want them to tell anyone about it. Too many people would be hurt by the truth coming out. I probably would never forgive my father for doing that.

Indeed, it is a very hard decision to take. At this point, you should do what sounds righteous to you. You have to know that of course, you only have 1 path to choose from 2. The first one is if you pretend knowing nothing, this little circus of your dad and that woman might continue or not? And if you decide to not tell anyone, probably that your mom will be kept as a pupput from your father and she will be used as a fool. The second decision could turn this out good or bad. If your mom decides to forgive your father or if they come up with a clear conversation, maybe there will not be any break up. However, if your mom takes this badly, the family will be broken appart. What is important is that you understand what is important to you. As for me, I want don't want my family to be fake happiness. I wouldn't have this good conscious of not telling the truth. A family should help each other and not lie. That's what i believe. And if your mother discovers that you knew the truth, she would still love you but there will be a big disappointment. Trust and truth are both important to me in a relationship. I would tell my mom and she would take the decision. But if you hide this from your mom, she might think that you are taking your dad's side. Before you decide anything, think carefully and twice. You need to know what you need the most. What is the crucial thing in family? If you can't decide, why not asking someone who's in your family and that you really trust? Like your grandmother from your father side? Maybe his parents can make sens into him and he might stop. If not, go with what makes you feel good about it. Try to put yourself in the shoes of your mom and what would you like the most? Would you want your children to tell you the truth if they saw such thing? Goodluck

I would tell my Dad that I would give him a couple of days to come clean with Mom or else I will spill the beans on him. That's that, he made his bed now time to lay in it and deal with what shall happen. That's right, he and she, takes two to tango, never gave all the families a thought to be able to go this far into the affair. Otherwise, there would be some discussion before hand. To me, the woman that had an affair on her husband and supposedly best friend, well that's not a friend I would want.

Hi ronnyb, But none of those are your concerns they are your fathers and perhaps he should of thought about all this before cheating on your mother, incidently she where your loyalty should be.

Hi Ronnib, I will address your post as cicinctly as possible and hope it helps. The first thing that comes to mind is can you take yourself out of the middle? If this all falls apart, you don't want to be in the middle of it when it happens. That is no decision for you to have to make. Now, since the two families are so close, you have the consideration of both families. NOt only must you consider how your mom will react, but how will your friend's family react to this? This is sad because two families will be broken up if this secret is exposed which it probably will be. If you do nothing, and later it is found that you knew this, your mom will feel even more betrayed by her daighter and husband. I hate to say this, but damn you're screwed! Since this is probably going to be a fiasco, the longer you are forced to keep this confidence, the worse this will be for you and everyone involved. What if you just either arranged for them to get caught, or waited till everyone was there and just got the secret out in the open by telling what you saw with everyone together? Maybe you could call a meeting of the two families and just confront everyone? It would give you control, and everyone would be forced to confront everyone else, as bad as that sounds. They could deny it, but at least then there would be no more secret, and everybody could make their choice. I hope this helps, and pardon the rambling,

That situation is tough. In the case that you tell your mother about the cheating of your father, you are presumably accepting the situation of a broken family in the future. On the other hand, if you won't tackle and just leave your father at it then you are tolerating a disgrace and an untrustworthy in your family circle especially to your beloved mom. It is a very chaotic situation actually that sometimes we have to think harder if we can live with to the consequences.Just don't forget also to pray and ask enlightenment and guidance to whatever happenings and decisions to come about. For me, I would rather tell it to my mom asking in an indirect hints at first to see what her reactions are in cases. I could not bear it betraying my mom on not telling her. I am letting the cat out of the bag because the more the situation would get sickened if honesty and truth is delayed. I would not forgive my father for such a disgracing behavior.