friend or girlfriend?

China
November 16, 2008 6:11am CST
I keep in touch with my friend abroad every day.More or less, I become few, if not the only, of his friends who get such a intimate connection with him. Since we've been classmates, especially desk-mate for several years, there seems to be chemical between us now. But telling the truth, I used not to consider this guy my type and more worse I knew exactly how he ran after another girl-his first love at that time we were just friends and I even gave him some advice of winning the girl's heart. I do miss him all the days he is far away from me, as we shared lots of experience, laughters and sorrows. He told me he likes me and that girl has been to past time. However,he called that girl recently and told this to another friend, a friend of both of us, telling this friend not to let me know what happened in case that I might feel uncomfortable. This friend,also my roomy, told me about this, thinking I wouldn't care about that, for I usually pretend to be care little about him and open-mind. Frankly speaking, I am not that kind of girl who tight her boyfriend nor be so mean to prohibit boyfriend to have other female friends. He calls other girls who are also my friends; I know that quiet well and I have not a bit of unease. Maybe he was considerate to conceal this, but it is strange as there usede to be something between them. Sometimes I think he likes me because we are really best friends and have lot to say. I am not the exact type of girl, I think. So is he with me. That he was declined by that girl was part of the reason I think that we could have the chance. I always don't care about that, as I think the most important thing between friends or lovers is happiness and I try to be generous and not that dendend on the guy. But when my roomy told me and said she knew I wouldn't care, though I replied of course not, I acrually felt so bad. Sonmetimes I think if that girl returns to him or gives a bit of cue to him, he will still keep his love for her, if not ragard me just be a friend again. Sad. I console myself that he doesn't my type either and what was matters was now, was we keeping in touch everyday, was we missed each other every minute. However, I have put next to none of his miss to his special situation-alone abroad but our "friendship". Maybe we'd better be friends,as neither of us is perfect to each other. I don't just want to be the lover only for sharing experience, for same interest, for happiness together, but Miss Right, the exact type. As he still asks to be his girlfriend, what should I do? Telling him I have had boy friend?
1 response
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
well, you guys have to talk things over,. in a good manner. And anyway, whats the reason of keeping his being friends with other girls a secret? Like you said you are open minded then tell him there is no reason to keep secrets from you. :) Hope things will get better to you :)