Do you thank someone for doing something wrong?
By reinydawn
@reinydawn (11643)
United States
November 16, 2008 7:34am CST
Actually, if you specifically asked someone not to do something, but they did it anyways, did it wrong and you had to redo it... Would you thank them for what they did?
I had a boyfriend once, who did a horrible job at washing his car, so when he offered to do mine (since I was kinda busy and didn't have time) I told him not to. And I told him that if he absolutely HAD to wash my car, DO NOT do the windows. His windows were always streaked and I didn't have the time to clean them as it was, but they weren't all that bad and if he "cleaned" them I would definitely have to take time I didn't have and redo them. Well, he just HAD to help me out, so he not only washed my car (most of it anyways, there were patches he missed) but also attempted to wash my windows. It was so bad that the next time I was driving at night I could barely see out of them because of the streaks. He was so angry with me for not thanking him for washing my car. I finally did thank him - for taking away time I didn't have because I had to fix something I asked him NOT to mess with in the first place. Fortunately, he never washed my car again and I tell people this story when they think they're helping me by doing something I am pretty sure I'd have to redo when they're done.
I'm sure this type of thing has happened to others. Would you have thanked someone for making things harder on you? Oh, and I don't mean you kids either, they're kinda exempt from this stuff!
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@wilmaaa (43)
• China
17 Nov 08
ehehe, u know what, i am the kind of person like your bf. of course, i made many mistakes and the result is out of my expectation. i can understand both of u and him. for him, he thinks, no matter he did well or bad, at first, u should thankful for his help. coz he cares u anyway, u will not do those things for all the people; for u, u will be angry coz u already told him NOT to do that, although u know his attention is good. so in this case. i guess the best way is, at first. u THANK him and appreciate what he did for u; then u should also tell him what u really think, coz it makes things worse. if u do not tell your real opinion, he will do that again and again. i guess he will understand;)
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
18 Nov 08
Oh, I definitely told him how I felt - that I was not thankful that he went against my wishes and caused me more work. If he would have respected my wishes I would have appreciated it much more!
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Like when i ask my husband to stay out of the kitchen =P he thinks that garlic is multi-purpose for everything and dumps a ton on anything and i hate garlic... or he somehow manages to break something when trying to "help" =P so no i don't thank him unless you count being stingingly sarcastic =P like "ohh thanks for breaking that second dish in the set now they aren't odd numbered" or something like that =P
They mean well but don't get it that sometimes the biggest help is when they DONT help. If im making burgers and have ground beef on the counter and am pulling out salt, pepper, and what not he dives for garlic... grates it right on the top and mashes it together so no real way to get it out =P lets just see he sits chomping away and i sit seethingly glaring at him eating something else because the overwhelming smell grosses me out =P
I totally understand lol hey maybe they will invent a sort of anklet for guys such as that when they approach a no no zone a beeper we have on us goes off =P (ok ok i'll stop...)
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
18 Nov 08
Oh, the kitchen is someplace I HATE to have 'help' in. All they do is get in the way and make the mess worse... You'd think they'd learn after a while that when I need help or for them to do something, I'll let them know :)
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
18 Nov 08
lol even when on the rare occasions you might ask for help they wont sometimes either too busy or are tired or some other clearly lame excuse =P
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@redzredula (466)
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
for me, it depends on what situation happened. if it's a rough one, then it it harder for me to accept and say thanks of what happened.
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
16 Nov 08
You are right, it does depend on the circumstances.
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