Christmas is coming ...for some

I know where you live from your profile. I lived most of my life not too far from where you live. I know how hellish it can be to try to find a good job at all, let alone one when you do not have a car and a newborn baby. Have you though about moving to a different area? I know without any money it would be hard, but do you have any family that could help you out with the moving expenses and getting a new place closer to more jobs? I would also look into TANF and child care subsidy.

I have a similar experience with you when I lost my husband due to kidney malfunction. Only that my children are quite older than yours, ages 12, 10 and 7. My sister was selling fruits and vegetable and did help me much on food while my mom stayed with me to take care of my children while am away earning a living. I worked from morning to evening as i'm in sales. There are times that I run for help to some friends for just to make both ends meet. I keep on calling the Lord God Almighty up there to guide me and bless my family to get over what ever problems we encounter along the way. Sixteen years after of being a single mom, am very grateful to see my children all grown ups, with quite stable jobs and now I feel they're taking good care of me. Make God your partner and everything will be okey.

Just because you got divorced and sucked down doesn't mean you don't hold your head up high and move on. There are thousands of people who have gone through divorce with 4 kids and have held their head up high and moved on. That is what you have to do. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and pick yourself back up. Work on getting a job, getting a car etc. You are the only person that is going to make this change. And if you leave it any longer you are just going to get sucked down harder and it will be harder to get out of that slump. Think of it this way tomorrow will be better and the following day will be even better. As for not getting presents etc for your kids. Sorry but Christmas is not all about gifts. Get them things that they need and that they will use. Make it special by doing little things for them. So pick yourself up and get out there and make your life better not only for you but for your children and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

In my country, there is a few of people who have a holiday in Christmas. Because almost of people in here are Buddhist and they only have vacation on New Year's holiday. But I wish everybody have a smooth life, successful career, and lucky more.

I hear ya! I used to have a great paying job and a car and all that stuff. Now, I have a tiny retirement check because of a bad back and no car. I walk or take the bus to get places. I only have one kid, but she wants expensive things for Christmas. Ugh! But, don't let other people bring you down! Look them in the eye and smile. You are just as good as they are, probably better than that! People that look down their noses at others should be ashamed of themselves. Nobody is perfect! And, in these tough economic times, they may soon become one of us, then how will they survive?

The sad thing is that it is the norm to spend spend spend at Christmas time. My mother told me that she'd often spend all of her savings at Christmas time to buy my brother and I all the toys that she could. My thoughts on it now are that I wish she wouldn't have. Christmas is not about toys, it's not about spending money, and I think you should teach your children that this Christmas. Instead of giving them presents, make them something that shows how much you appreciate them. Do a fun craft or activity on Christmas morning. But don't feel bad about not being able to buy them toys and fancy decorations and the like... yes, all of that stuff seems magical when you're a kid, but it's all about materialism. I think this Christmas might be a good opportunity for you to teach your children a better lesson. :) But if you would like to give your children something, have you thought about applying for toys for tots or another local charity? There are plenty of them out there.

I agree. there are alot of things that could bring us down. Divorce is one of them. Health and financial issues are a couple more also.

there is help. first of all i am not sure if you have it in your state but in nj we have the WIC program. it stands for women, infants and children and they provide help with food for children under 5. also many towns have food banks run by the state or county and with 4 children and no income you would certainly qualify for help. you can check and see if your town has a social worker assigned and they can point you in the right direction. also call your electric, gas and water company as they have programs in place for low income families that need help with their energy bills. in addtion, if you have a computer you can sign up for many surveys and make some money from home. if you want to contact me personally i can send you the links and you can get started. also the salvation army helps with food and has a toy drive each christmas as do most local fire depts. try your local churches for help as well. many catholic churches have a society in place called st. vincent depaul and they can help you with food and other things. there is a website called wish upon a hero and you can list up to three wishes and people try to help by granting those wishes. i hope i have helped you. i have learned that you have to help yourself. no one is going to drop on the doorstep and offer. there are things you can do and i do all of the above as we struggle too. good luck to you and your family. and by the way, all those people asking you questions should be told nicely that it is none of their business why you do anything or have 4 kids.

Remember that Christmas is not about the lavish feasts and merrymaking rather it's about remembering that because of this day mankind was given hope again. Before Christmas mankind has no direction, seeking but ending up nowhere, but when the promise of a savior was fulfilled and that was during Christmas, men found it's direction through the birth of Jesus Christ. So to sum it up Christmas is to remind us that hope is there and the promise of God's grace will never be broken. Have faith and don't lose hope. Just remember that because of Christmas mankind learned to trust and hope for better futures.

i was where you are a few years ago but i only had one child tothinkbout.that was bad enough.with four to think about it seems alot worse.i made it through that xmas with my families help.they bought her a few extra prezzies that they gave to me to give to her.they helped me to make things for her.a present my parrents got me before xmas was my cupboards stocked up with food and stuff like that.it seems bleak at the mo but belive me it does get better over time.no matter what you manage to get the kids they will love it.because they love you.so keep your head held high and say stuff it to the ex

Sounds like you qualify for welfare, TANF, which will help you get a job and even provide transportation. I believe they also assist with childcare (you find it, they pay for it) but I'm not sure. It's only good for 24 months during your entire lifetime though, but that's just enough time for your newborn to get a little bigger. You may also want to look into sterilization for yourself. My best friend got herself fixed after her 4th child (and 4th ex-husband). Ask your local women's clinic about it. People are critical of others because for some reason it makes them feel better to put other people down. If there is even a small city nearby, you may want to consider relocating to it, so that things you need are closer. You can apply for housing assistance too, which will help out. I've heard some people have to pay as little as $20 for a place to live. You do have to have some income though, to prove that you can pay your utilities. If you have any child support coming in, that counts. Best of luck you you! Happy MyLotting!

hi all, yes christmas is coming and its the most exciting months of the entire year. but this year i think it will be little different than theprevious year because of the recission in the economy around the world. because experts say that the recession yet to be unfoldded hope santa gives us some good news next year. since christmas is near i am planning not much though this year. but there are certainly few thngs which i cant miss also. like i have to take my life(gf)to some place for holiday. and a wonderful canle light dinner and some christmas presents for the loved ones. so wut are your plans this year guys?