Are you a good listener?
By vidhyagowri
@vidhyagowri (1973)
United States
November 16, 2008 5:25pm CST
We usually ask our kids to listen to what we are telling them. I think most of the parents do that. But when our kids tell us something, some of us never bother to listen. This was an incident yesterday happened. I usually listen to what my girls tell me or what they talk to each other. Yesterday I was reading an article online. Just then one of my twin came next to me and told something which I didn't concentrate properly. She screamed after 3 mts and told me "Mom I am not going to give you a sticker today. because You are not a good listener". I felt like somebody slapped. All the moms and dads out there, do you guys listen to your kids when they want to tell you something?
10 responses
@pooh08 (671)
• Vietnam
17 Nov 08
Sometimes we are too busy to listen to what the children talk. We should balance our time for listen to children. Because children still are children, they want to know what it is surround them and what's happen. We have had a childhood, so we will understand what the children need. I think they need a friend for listen to them more than a mom or dad.
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@smukherjee_on_line (578)
• India
17 Nov 08
It depends on the situation.Sometimes I am a good listeners and sometimes I am not a good listeners...................
@adapots (82)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
parents must be a good listener to their kids! on that way you can gain the full trust of your kids and thats a good communication between parents and chldren.
so they can tell what they feel what their views in life. and they are also open of your suggestion.
we must also a good listener to each other espicially friends, family, husband, wife and to our self also. if we are a good listener we are a good communicator.
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I am a good listener, but I'm sure that I need improvement with my kids. Sometimes I don't hear what they want me to hear. I'm more focused on my own agenda during the conversation. Like how I can correct what they are telling me or how I can let them know where they went wrong. Sometimes kids just need a listening ear. I'm an adult, and sometimes I just want my mom to hear me without being overly critical of what I am saying.
@arunmails (3011)
• India
17 Nov 08
I am not married....so, I don't want to bother about this discussion..... yet, from my part, I can say that I will be a good listener....coz, I believe in "a small incident makes a mighty change in life".....
@JulianaRose (378)
• United States
17 Nov 08
i dont have kids but im sure in every day things is easy to miss something they say
@newtondak (3946)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I think we all have times when we get focused on something else that we "tune out" the kids - of course, not a good thing to do since they might just go ahead and do whatever it was that they were going to ask to do - and it turn out to be something that you don't want them doing!
We do have to realize that if we want THEM to be good listeners that WE have to be good listeners!
@DonnyBrav (78)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I have a four year old son. I always try to listen to what he is saying. It's hard sometimes when we are consumed in something and they are just rambling. It doesn't seem as if what they are talking about is as important. But in their mind... what is consuming us is not as important either... so I always try to be patient and listen. If needed I will explain to him that I have a little work to do for a while.
@alyssa_c (440)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I'd like to think of myself as a really good listener. I don't have kids although soon I'll have one. I have lots of friends though who think of me as their soundboard. Mostly, its about heartaches and stuff. They like telling me their stories because they know I could keep the secret and they tell me that they feel relieved after they've talked to me. It's flattering, I think, to be the one your friends go to whenver they feel down. It makes you feel that they really value you.
@brenbelmonte (113)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I believe listening is a virtue. It has to be learned and practiced.
I have a son who is now seventeen years old, and i remember telling him when he was younger, to always talk to me... share to me his thoughts... about anything under the sun. I wanted to be a part of his life ... his growing up years. I want to be his best friend and the only way to achieve that is to learn to listen...
