What would you do if your spouse cheated?

My husband and have both been cheated on in previous relationships and made an agreement when we got together. If either of us ever felt we were falling in love with someone else, we would be truthful to the other. We made a promise to each other that if the other cheated the one who was cheated on would get everything in the divorce:the kids, the house, and one of the vehicles. I WILL NOT BE WITHOUT MY KIDS so I will not even venture to stray. Also I think I am more in love with my husband now than when we 1st got together. We have been together for just over 5 years and married for almost 2 years. We have 2 babies that will be 1 and 2 in December and he is a great dad and he says I am a great mom. We believe that together we can get through anything together but this is the one thing that neither of us will put up with.

My husband cheated on me a few months ago while I was away on vacation with our son. He told me about the day after it happened and he felt really bad. I know how much he loves me and I know this is the first time this has happened. It wasn't like he was having an affair or anything. It was a drunken, one night stand. I was upset for a few weeks, but I forgave him. 10 years ago, I would have told any woman to leave a man who cheated on her, but when I was in the situation, I wasn't going to throw away 8 years together over a stupid mistake. It just seemed like a waste to me. I also don't want to leave our 4 year old son with 2 separate families. He knows he screwed up and I told him not to do it again. I'm sure he knows that if it happens again, I might not be so forgiving. Things haven't been quite the way they were before it happened, but what can I really expect?

i'm not yet married but i already experienced in which my partner cheated on me. well, at first i'm so mad at him because i've been so honest and caring about him but seems not enough for him to be loyal. i tried to move on with my life without him but if you really love a person, you'll always find a reason to give him second chances. it's really hard to let go of someone whom you loved especially to married women. aside from loving their husbands so much, they don't want to have a broken family for the sake of their children. it's a tough decision and i always appreciate those women who fight 'til the end for the happiness of their children.

Lets see what would I do? I party and say lets get a divorce. Or maybe not. But it be my chance to see how I feel, lately I feel uneasy about her relationship and want a break to understand whether it is stress from working and caring for autistic child and my resentment towards my husband or has the love ended? Not sure because I tried to talk to him and he does not care Long story short, I wish he had the chance for him to to cheat and I can figure out what I am feeling. If he cheat at least I get a break from my duty as a wife… ha ha. Sounds horrible. ! I guess when you are under the stress like me, it may be the last on your worry list.

mine did. about 3 years ago i found out that he had carried on a relationship with a "friend" of mine for the past 3 years. talk about betrayl. it was terrible. i asked for a divorce and we actually did get one, but im still there. we went thru alot of tears, yelling, fighting and me hating alot of people. but we have 2 daughters and i do love this man very much. its still hard and i dont trust him still 100% and maybe never will, but i stayed because i cant imagine my life without him. its wasnt easy and still has its days. but im a stronger person because of it and he kows if it ever happens again, things will not go so much in his favor! its a choice that no one can make for you and its not up to anyone else to understand. its a choice that only you can make when in that situation.

it depends greatly on the situation and how you feel for the partner and stuff

it would have been very bad. its hurts to know your spouse is cheating you, better I would confront him. if he can't clear me i will leave him.

Well I haven't into that situation myself. Actually I could not find an answer to that but right now maybe I could give her another chance of reviving everything if she is truly repentant to her actuation. But I guess I cannot forget that she betrayed me and the pain and trust would definitely be scarred and the healing process might not be that fast too. Forgetting the past is the most difficult to do in situations like this.

My first husband cheated...which is why he's now my ex-husband. We were young...he was stupid...but he destroyed the trust in our relationship and I could not stay with someone I could not depend on or trust.

I can't honestly say how I would react if my husband cheated (of course, I really don't think he ever would- he's just not that kind of man). I think its hard for any of us to know how we would react to such a thing. I would hope that I would be strong enough to work through it with my spouse but I don't know. Of course I don't believe in divorce unless there is abuse going on- that's just me. I do know that I would rely heavily on my faith to help me through as I have many times in my life. That coupled with a great support system I would like to think I could overcome anything. Thanks for the question and happy mylotting.

I wouldn't know what to do if I come into that situation. It would surely hurt a lot and it is too difficult to heal.He would surely loose my trust. The first thing that comes in mind is that I would leave him,but then I think that for me that would be impossible,as how can you leave a person you love so much!I think when somone passes from this situation it would seem like the world is falling apart. I think then that we will try to work it through and hope everything works out fine and that he would try ,at least, to earn his trust again.I hope that I will never come into that situation and I wish that no one goes through these experiences but in todays world it is very difficult,because all we see around us is cheating and broken families.Today you have to work really hard to try to keep your marriage intact. I feel this even though we have been married for 17 years!

So far, I never felt yet that my husband cheated on me. I am a very suspicious person and sometimes I do have a strong instincts or shall i say that I believe in my instinct. If ever my husband would do it to me and there is really a clear evidence that he cheated on me. One thing is for sure, I can't live with a man who kissed other woman and then kiss me or intimate to other woman and go to me afterwards.

I will dump him for sure. There are many others out there for me. If I don't find one, I have my house, my car, my son and my career to support. What more could I ask for.

In all honesty I do not know what I would do if I found out my husband of almost 10 years were cheating. We all say we would do this or that but until you are put in that type of situation you really do not know what you would do. I can tell you I would be very hurt and angry and at the time walking away would seem to be the decision I would make but once everything was said and done I have a 4 year old son who loves both his mommy and daddy so would I let it destroy my family? The decision would lay between many factors of why he did it, if he plans to do it again, and is he planning on leaving me in the long run any way. All in all I would have to be there to know what I would really do and I had just as soon not be I had rather just stipulate on what I think I would do.

I have been cheated on by a partner and I must say it changes a person forever. I was a very trusting person, probably too trusting, I used to bring a single girlfriend along with me and my partner all the time, and then she secretly set her sights on him and ended up working both of us to an extent they ended up having a moment together, I tried to give second chances but there is always doubts...I am afraid especially when it involves best friends it ruins trust forever....

If my husband cheated, I'd probably leave him. We've been together for 12 years and we have always talked about what we would do if one cheated. He knows not to mess with me because he knows my capability. LOL! Also, since this is so rampant in their family, he and his cousins have learned not to even follow the "examples" of their fathers and uncles. In fact, they loathe them for being like that to their moms and aunts.