When does it become Official?
By Mikyoo12
@Mikyoo12 (187)
United States
November 16, 2008 9:48pm CST
Hello Mylotters. I recently started dating this young woman.
It has only been two weeks so far. We get along very well and we enjoy each others company very much. we love to laugh together play around and just act silly with each other. Its as though we are great for one another. I was thinking that when we made a month that i would ask her to be my girlfriend.Do any of my mylotter friends think that is to soon or if the chemistry is right then it shouldnt matter?
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11 responses
@cathya (704)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
i guess its too soon to do that. why don't you give yourselves more chance to know each other any way according to you you both enjoy each others company right? so why not just enjoy your moments together first then if you think you are already on the proper timing then you can clarify everything to her
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Hi mikyoo! I think that only you would know the answer to this
question. You certainly are old enough to have had enough
experience. And being that you are a NY you sure should know!
(I'm a NY too). I would not be in a real rush to make a
committment until you are sure that you know each other
really well and that you know what each other is really looking
for. If you have had all those kinds of conversations then again
only you would know if the time is right. I think that you need
to really make sure that you know what kind of person she
really is and if she is interested in something a bit more
serious before you open yourself up to possibly getting you
may not want to hear. I think you should get to know each
other better. Two weeks is not long enough to know anyone
at all. Be careful!
@ghazal2k5 (920)
• India
18 Nov 08
I guess if the chemistry is right then you should go for it. Sometimes its too late to wait for the right time. So just go ahead and ask her.
@trillan_20 (183)
• Canada
17 Nov 08
Ask her if she is ready to see you exclusivley. If she doesnt want to see anyone else while she is with you then you know she is ready. Timing to become official isnt really a big thing, whether you have known each other a day or a year, if the chemistry is there then there is no denying it.
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@scarletrose_2000 (192)
• United States
17 Nov 08
You will need to talk to her about the relationship. Ask her if she is ready or willing to commit to an exclusive relationship. If she is ready to advance continue on the path you are on. If she is not ready to commit then you have to make the decision what you want from the relationship and continue dating until she is ready to commit or look else where for what you want to find.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
17 Nov 08
In my opinion 2 weeks isn't really very long to get to know another person. In the first place you both are putting your best foot froward and really haven't had the change to see what the other person is really like. Take your time. It's better to go slow and not have regrets later. Besides your only 22 years old and you have a lot of growing and maturing to do.
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
For me as long as you both know that you love each other and are both ready to accept the responsibilities in a relationship then you could go on and call it official for both of you. Good luck to you!
@dookie03 (578)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Truthfully if the chemistry is right it don't matter. Just keep doin what your doin and after a while like a month or two i'd say you pretty much are boyfriend girlfriend kinda thing. I'd say after a few months like 4 months or more you could really start making the calls. LOL. good luck.
@trinsmom21 (75)
• United States
18 Nov 08
I don't think that how long has anything to do with how you feel about each other. My ex and I became 'exclusive' after 2 day long dates. And don't let the ex part scare you away from the idea...we lasted for a year and a half, and were very much in love. We had issues due to our families. If she's not ready for it though, don't push it. Reassure her that it's fine, you'll wait, and in the mean time you still enjoy spending time with her.