Thin people have it 'better' ?!
By mommyboo
@mommyboo (13174)
United States
November 17, 2008 12:00am CST
I had to start this because I just posted in a discussion about how it's not fair to label thin people any more than it is fair to label larger people.
WHY do so many people just ASSUME that because someone is thin they have a better, easier, more successful, more enjoyable life? Why do people assume that someone who is thin never got made fun of and doesn't know how they feel? Why do so many people believe that a thin person NEVER struggled at any time with their weight?? Just because a thinner person never had to lose 100 lbs doesn't mean they didn't need to lose 15, and it may take them just as long if not LONGER for them to lose it.
I will tell you that those assumptions are false assumptions and to immediately think someone who is thin is stuck up or doesn't know what it's like to be hurt is silly. It IS easier to be thin because the majority of average things fit you, from clothing to seatbelts to chairs, things like that. It doesn't mean that everything is handed to us though or taht we never encounter difficulty.
In fact, thin people have to endure a lot of comments such as 'you're TOO thin' or 'don't you EVER eat' or 'gee, she must be anorexic or throw up'. I don't care about these comments any more but it used to be very hurtful. People open their mouths without thinking and then believe they can play it off as a joke if it offends somebody! Just like it is unkind and disrespectful to make fun of someone for being heavy, it is unkind and disrespectful to make fun of someone for being thin. You never know the reasons someone may be heavy or thin and it has no bearing on what kind of person they are either!
Off my soapbox now. Your thoughts? Keep it clean, people.
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25 responses
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Hey mommyboo! Nice speech, oops I mean discussion! Well now,
my turn to speak, rant oh whatever! I have been on both sides
of this fence! I have been both too thin and a bit too thick!
When I was too think I got those nasty "are you sick", "do
you throw up", "why don't you eat", "what's wrong with you",
"why don't you get some meat on your bones"! Nice things
to say to a 20 something year old! Then when I was too heavy,
I got the other nasty statements "why don't you go on a diet",
"why don't you stop eating so much", "why don't you workout",
"why don't you stop eating all that junk food". So it is very
hurtful for other people to butt in your life when they have
no idea what is going on with you or why you are too thin
or too heavy and it only makes matters worse! It did for me
because both times it was psychological along with physical
reasons! So when I hear this stuff it really pisses me off!
People need to mind their own business and keep their damn
mouthes shut because they have no idea what the weight gain
or loss is coming from. It can be from medication, an illness,
or a million different things that are none of their business.
And all they will end up doing is making the person feel worse
and possibly making the situation even more serious!
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
24 Dec 08
I quite agree with you. I have never been told I was too thin but I have been condemned more than once for being overweight. When I was younger the criticism just made me hide my chocolate biscuits and eat them in secret so I would not be harassed for eating them. It did nothing to help me lose my weight.
When I did lose it was because I worked hard to do it. When I lost it and got thin I got criticised for other things but I only ever got down to a size 12 so maybe that was not thin enough to be harassed over.
Still it should not happen. Harassing people does nothing but make them feel bad about themselves and that is the worst thing you can do to them. Unless they are very strong it destroys their self esteem and that is a crime.
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
17 Nov 08
yeah i can definitely understand that!! i was always severely underweight but for about 2-3 years i was overweight because of a medication and for the first time the harassment went towards how im too fat than being mean to me about being skinny.. both ways are horrible
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@fwidman (11514)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Anyone that thinks being thin is all that has never seen me on an amusement park ride holding the safety bar for dear life because I know that I can slip through that space easily and be off the ride in nothing flat 
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
17 Nov 08
omg i know!! i almost got killed at a fair ride when i was younger because i was sat alone and i was sliding under the safety bar while it was in motion
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
17 Nov 08
well my mom took me alone and she doesnt do rides and the place was a ghost town because it was during the day.. so i think there was like 2 other people if that on the same ride that could hold a lot of people
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@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I had my own share of teasing and ugly remarks just because i was super thin when i was growing up... and that was not a very nice experience... i even resented my own body because of how people looked at me... in my country... being thin does not mean you are in...
It was only when i finished college that i realized that being thin was a good thing... and that is because i got to word with people who did everything they could just to lose weight... and that was the time when i got a lot of praise because of how i look...
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Oh yes.. I was frustrated with my own body for not gaining weight, for not getting taller. I thought maybe there was something wrong and I needed growth hormone and protein shakes lol.
Being thin here in America is considered a good thing, but it must be in varying degrees because there is such a fine line between people praising you for being thin and people making fun of you for being thin. I don't think either one should happen!
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I AGREE!! i was teased constantly for being skinny and i even lost a JOB because i was skinny.. i had fainted at work and so my work decided that since im skinny i must be anorexic or bulimic there fore i could not work there.. i was fully time cut to 1 day a week if that after fainting.. turns out there was a medical reason and it was a one time thing only but they drove me off because they were convinced i wouldnt be able to work anymore.. they also gave me a hard time because i couldnt lift something there.. i was 90lbs at 5'7 so obviously i had no muscles and so every once in awhile something would need to be refilled by this huge couple of gallon thing of liquid and i couldnt lift it above my head and they were always mean to me when i asked for help.. then they started having people watch me on lunch to make sure i ate which i eat a ton for my size so then every time i went to the bathroom they thought i was throwing it up grrr!!!
people also feel they can manipulate and intimidate you because of your size..
and growing up i could not find any clothes that would fit.. my size was ZERO and only 2 stores in my town have that size so finding clothes was impossible unlike everyone figuring if your skinny then everything fits.. it doesnt!!
then you have doctors that harrass you and wanting you to gain X amount of weight in so much time etc when its not possible.. i tried eating everything fattening and could not gain anything growing up.. people tend to want to load your plate up with food you cant possibly eat and if you do they follow you to the bathroom to make sure your not getting rid of it..
then there is the verbal abuse from other kids and people saying something wrong with you.. your a freak.. your grotesque.. your dying.. or the people that are complaining because they arent as skinny as you when your trying to tell them that they are fine and not to want it..
need i mention that you look younger sometimes because less curves on girls they figure you are like a teen or preteen or something.. i just now look legal age haha
being skinny sucks.. i am skinny because of some health problems but my family is all skinny (growing up) so even healthy as a horse i would still be a stick and it sucks.. and having friends with other girls is hard especially if they are the stuck up kind about their looks and think they could never be skinny enough think your a threat and make them look fat.. and forget trying to play sports or anything where there is a weight restriction!!
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Well, I am sorry that you've experienced everything I went through also because it was HORRIBLE! I never lost a job but I have had coworkers sneaking around thinking that I was throwing up and following me, or people who made comments that I must have a hollow leg because they couldn't see anywhere else it would go, etc.
I am stronger now because I lift weights (it makes a difference in daily life too, now I can carry in 6 bags of groceries without having to make 2 trips!) but sometimes people still think 'oh how little and cute, I'm gonna go help her' and dammit, that isn't what I need sometimes.
As far as the size problem, there was a store at the mall where I grew up that carried size 0. When it went out of business, it was a chore to pick thru things. Old Navy btw has the small sizes up on the top racks, where you have to be like 6 feet tall to reach them. Since I'm 5'1 I had to keep finding an employee to pull things down. I asked them why they put size 16 on the bottom and size 0 and 1 on the top which seemed opposite and they said it was a marketing decision. Right on, Old Navy! Put your clothing for the mini people where we can barely even see it?
OH! And people always think it's cute to say 'hey, you can shop in the GIRLS dept'. Um no I can't, not really. I can shop in the juniors but most of the girls' clothing is not cut right for an adult body, even a thin adult body.
I have a friend right now who keeps saying she wishes she was 'thin like me'. The problem is, she IS thin!! So here I am telling her over and over that saying she wants to be 'thin like me' is silly. She also thinks that more people 'look' at me because I'm thin! What the heck?? And yes, people always think I'm younger, probably because I'm short as well as being thin. At least I think my daughter will be taller than me so maybe she won't experience what I went through to the same degree. I'm also planning to teach her to stick up for herself all the time though, when I was a kid, I didn't always which probably made it worse. You know, the whole 'pick on that girl, she'll let you get away with it'.
That must be what it is. Some people think I'm a threat and will make them look fat?! Gosh, it's like SORRY for living then, I'm not around to 'make anybody look fat'. I think that is their own perception of the matter and it's not my fault their perception is faulty lol.
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@23uday (2997)
• India
17 Nov 08
Hi frnds,
Thin people have it better?
Always fat persons will eat more food they likes more to eat.But if they eat like
that they will effect the body problems.The thin people is better people than
the fat people.I believe that thin people also very nice to see them.
Some of the thin people were so good lokking people.
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@marquitafox (333)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Hey nmice to meet you and thank's so much for this disscusion!I am always posting stuff about that vey issue.I too struggle with my weight,only it's not to loose ot,it's to gain it.There is all this help for overweight people and none for underweight people!I have managed to get up to 135 lbs, but have just lost 5 of it already.I have to watch when i exercise because even though i gain mussle i appear smaller.And i eat very good!I love food.And no i have never had an eating disorder.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Nov 08
It must be a much smaller percentage, the group of people who are underweight and struggle with gaining. When I was a kid I could eat whatever I wanted and not gain, but that also meant I had to eat a LOT if I was playing sports in order to not lose. When I was a little kid, I don't think I really ate a lot and when I lost all my baby chubbiness, I guess my parents' neighbors thought my parents were not feeding me, so they would give me snacks when my parents were not watching! It didn't seem to change anything except that eventually my mom caught them and put a stop to it.
It's also interesting what doctors and nutritionists will tell you when you're underweight. I was really underweight when I was first pregnant with my daughter, I was down to 87 lbs I think. I almost bawled and told them the scale was defective - I was 12 weeks pregnant at the time and that didn't make any sense. However I had been sick sick sick, throwing up everything for the past 6 weeks. The nutritionist told my husband to get me milkshakes and donuts - I remember HEARING her say this. As much as those sounded GOOD to me, I knew they'd just wind up being flushed later as nothing would stay down. Doctors also tell you to eat more AND more frequently. I honestly can say that some extremely thin people get too busy and don't eat when they should. I fell into that trap at one point because when you'r busy and not hungry, why stop to eat? When you have kids though, they remind you when it's time to eat!
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
22 Dec 08
I don't judge a person by his weight whether he is thin or fat. A person's dignity and respect should not be measured according to their psychical characteristics.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I honestly want to know from someone who believes all those assumptions whether or not they make comments out of true belief that someone thin gets life handed to them on a silver platter OR if they just make nasty comments because they are jealous or insecure or a plain old mean person who can't see life from a different viewpoint. I don't understand either way because I have just stated the first thing isn't true, and for the record I can't figure why so many people are THAT insecure either. How does someone thin 'threaten' someone not thin? Seriously, in the case of a physical threat, I might put my dukes up if I HAD to but someone twice as big as me could probably sit on me to avoid the fight.
I do know that we all make judgements about other people, which is not a bad thing as long as we don't allow those judgements to pop out of our mouths, especially within hearing distance of other people. I mean I don't care if someone who doesn't know me happens to 'wonder' something, I just don't want them to poke their friend and say 'I bet she hasn't eaten in 3 days, heh heh'.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I'd rather be told, geez, don't you ever eat, then have people laughing at me because they see a fat person that, according to most people shouldn't even have the right to exist. People don't look at skinny people and say, wow they're disgusting! And they don't think, wow they should stop eating when a skinny person eats in a restaurant.
I just don't see why being called skinny, compared to being made fun of for being a larger person compare.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Have you ever experienced this? If you had people constantly laugh at you - to your face - and call you anorexic or bullimic when you clearly were not, hover over you to see WHAT you were eating and HOW MUCH, make jokes about how you probably only eat salad (when in fact you had a gigantic sandwich from Subway) etc etc, then maybe you'd see the other side.
When I was 5 months pregnant, I didn't even LOOK pregnant yet. People were surprised that I was 28 AND pregnant. They figured I was just some skinny kid - not fair. People do indeed make rude assumptions about thin people - and while you are probably correct in saying people don't think we don't have the right to exist, people are sure free with the comments thinking we are ILL or SICK or that we have a problem with food. I LOVE to eat and I love to cook, and I never turn down a good meal or something tasty. I do know better than to just eat and eat and eat and not balance it out though. Just to give you an example, I would compare the whole 'you shouldn't exist' to 'gee, do you throw up everything you eat' because BOTH are horrific and nasty equally.
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
18 Nov 08
Well coming from a thicker than most girl I can understand your fustrations from a logical point. people are people and we all have feelings and although it may look ok from the outside its not ok on the inside
I think more thicker people have a greater issue because fat people are blasted in the world as being nasty and foregin. nobody wants to be fat, and if people had to choose one or the other they would choose to be skinny. but like you said its not fair to judge or assume. I believe it comes from inner strength and what I mean by that is I've always been a thicker girl growing up was the worst, I felt ugly, I felt un wanted, and I felt like an out cast and many times I looked at the skinny girls and wished i was more like them at least I thought I did. I felt like their life couldn't be as hard as mine (on the outside looking in)
but as I got older I started to grown into me, learning to love me for who I am, and realizing I had the ability to change, and if I really wanted to change I could so blaming skinny people was silly.
But everyone has there own share of issues and its not fair to assume the rich is happy and the poor is sad
Thanks for the discussion more people need to look at it from both sides
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
18 Nov 08
Thank you for your thoughts. As much as people want to be logical, I don't think most are, especially kids and teens which is where the majority of teasing takes place. The more I learn, the more I can never assume that someone should be happy for having something I wish I had. It may not mean to them what it means to me.
@ladybug565 (2216)
• United States
18 Nov 08
thank you. I am thin and you are so right. I struggle just to keep weight on and not because I dont eat (I eat alot) I have a high metabolism. any way another issue that I have is when I get sick I cant afford to lose weight and then it is hard to put the weight back on. I just dropped 20 lbs in like 2 weeks because i have been sick and I think I look horrible. I have been called anorexic and picked on like yu described and it does hurt.
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@ladybug565 (2216)
• United States
19 Nov 08
I know, sometimes people are really insensative. I try not to let it bother me but sometimes it still makes you feel bad.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
18 Nov 08
I got super sick when I was first pregnant, and I went down to 87 lbs. That was scary on top of being pregnant. I think another time after I had my wisdom teeth out I dropped a little too because I couldn't eat except for liquid things. I have to say if I'm sick I look miserable anyway, and if I feel like crap, the last thing I want is to be picked on too lol.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
17 Nov 08
I remember being called anorexic in high school/junior high by girls who wanted to be mean but were less than creative. You can either call a girl you don't like a fatty or label them anorexic, bulimic etc - size is the most visible aspect to attack. I can't say if it hurts more to be called down for being fat than for being thin because I've always been in the thin bracket. But I do remember not taking any of those comments to heart because I knew I wasn't anorexic. If you are heavy then you don't always have that luxury.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
18 Nov 08
This is the THIRD time I have tried to respond to you! It is so weird to me to attack size, that must be why people are oversensitive to it as adults, they have to hear it over and over as kids. I mean everybody says 'oh I was the thin one' or 'I was the fat one' or 'I was the beanpole'. Maybe we do it to ourselves as well?
I know I'm not anorexic either but people who don't know you will believe what they want, and if you can't sit there and prove it, it bugs me to have them believe something of that nature. It's not just a physical issue, it's psychological and often stems back to control. Anorexic people cannot control something else in their lives, so they starve themselves. Sometimes it's not even about them believing they are fat, although they will SAY that's why. It's a horrible affliction to have someone believe you have JUST because you're thin.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
18 Nov 08
Mean people generally aren't very creative - or smart - so they use the easiest insults like size, acne etc. because they're usually guaranteed to hurt. And there's no winning sometimes no matter what you do or say, people will believe what they want. I agree that it isn't right no matter which way it's going and that it can cause body issues no matter what your size. I was lucky that I could just let it roll off my back and then go home and have a huge double cheeseburger!
@JulianaRose (378)
• United States
17 Nov 08
i lost 60 pounds and actually became attractive and there is a huge difference in how i get treated now and what i can get with a simple flick of the hair or twirl, especially in the restaurant biz, chefs do more for the prettier girls, cook faster, do extra stuff, waitresses get better tips if their attractive, etc. sad but true, and i speak not just for that atmosphere, but so much in general.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
18 Nov 08
I think it's a society slant as far as that. EVERYBODY is nicer or more attracted to more attractive people. Even little kids will choose the prettier and more symmetrical faces out of a lineup for someone they prefer to be around. I think it's something hardwired into us to prefer.
That doesn't mean it's okay to make fun of someone thin though to take aggression out for having been fat, for being 'average', or for whatever reason someone might not like that person. Would you want someone tearing you down for being thin and attractive after what you went through to get there? That person may have NO IDEA that you lost 60 pounds and how hard it might have been. They might just see you and assume you have it good, how dare you, know what I mean?
I don't understand how people can't just not like somebody without having to pick on them about something they have no control over. Most of the people I don't like act like hellions and are irresponsible - and these are ADULTS. I couldn't even begin to tell you how tall they are or how much they weigh, their poor attitudes are all I can think of to describe them at this moment. 
@Ajaykhande (94)
• India
17 Nov 08
Thinner people enjoy more than thick people because they dont have heath problem like higher dieseas like diabetes. Thicker people have joint problem also.Thinner people maintain his health very easily.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Plenty of people who appear thin still have medical problems. I COULD have continued to eat terribly and been a non-exerciser but my doctor had told me my bp was inching up and my cholesterol was bad and that if you have a lot of unhealthy habits (even if you are not overweight) you can be at greater risk for diabetes, kidney problems, etc.
I am very healthy now, no problems any more, but it isn't always as easy as it looks, which was the point I was trying to make with this discussion. It's not fun or decent as a thin person to have to always field comments like 'it must be so easy' because I know quite well it isn't. I was terrified that I would have to go on chronic medication, which is what motivated me to drag myself to the gym every day. I started spending more on groceries to buy fresh foods for my family, and that's not terribly hard - until you see your grocery bill. It took me about a year to get everything squared away healthwise and now I just make sure I keep it up.
I also have to mention that there are lots of people who are not thin that ARE healthy and also fit - in good shape. So.. I don't think people should aspire to much to be thin or ever believe that it's this wonderful thing they think it is. It doesn't get you more money. It doesn't get you more dates. It doesn't ensure you are more talented at anything. It doesn't make you a better parent or a better friend. It doesn't - in and of itself - make you love yourself any more. The key is to stop listening to crap whether you are thin or heavy, to stop feeling guilty over what anybody else thinks. Guilt is a great motivator. Sometimes guilt motivates people to die!
Sorry for ranting but sometimes it's hard not to.
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 08
Being thin myself, I can understand how thin people feel when the comments like "why are you so thin?" or "are you sick?". These remarks may come from people who are genuinely concern or people who are just envious to see thin people. For me, I was even called names which used to hurt my feelings. But now I don't care anymore. I always say to those people that as long as I am healthy, I don't care how thin I am.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I agree, and especially as I've gotten older, it is WAY more important to be healthy than strictly to be thin or average weight. I would even put on weight if I could if it was still considered healthy. My body seems to have a plateau point though and if I go above or below it I can tell the difference in my energy level.
@cassandralynn (1084)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Well it seems like SOME people are not happy with anyone being thin or fat, if you're fat you get told " You need to lose weight, stop eating so much!" and if you're skinny they say " Don't you eat? stop starving yourself!".. I even had thin friend once who had a boyfriend that use to call her " fat" and asked her if she was pregnant and made her feel bad about her body and she was only 5'4 & 120 lbs! I felt so bad for her and told her to leave him because he was being verbally abusing to her and things would only get worse being with a guy like that long term. Luckily they are no longer together.Some people are just jerks sometimes regardless if your skinny or thin and if you look normal or so called perfect looking they will pick on your for being flat chested or having acne or making fun of you over something else. Just be strong within yourself and tell people like this to get lost because you don't need their negativity in you're life.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I'm pretty happy with myself now but I still see a lot of this behavior going on and it definitely hurts people. I have a little girl who will be in kindergarten next year and I don't want HER having to deal with it. Kids are so mean - my best friend said people called her daddy long legs for being tall! Meanwhile people called me 'shrimp' or 'smurf' because I was short. It just seems we can't get away from classification. It seems like most of this is brought on by insecurity which is so sad. If people could be ultimately happier with themselves, then they wouldn't have this evil desire to trash other people.
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
I agree with you. Our society places so much importance on one's weight. I few people I've met have already told me that I'm pretty and that I would be prettier if I lost weight! Now that I've lost weight because of diet and exercise, people start telling me that I'm blooming! Ugh! I hate how superficial people are. But I cannot help but bend a little to their will. Not only will losing weight help me become healthier, at least I also become more desirable to other people. It sucks having to deal with this kind of scrutiny though. And it really sucks when my slim friends claim to be too fat to eat another scoop of ice cream when I'm chubbier than they are! It makes me not want to eat another scoop of ice cream myself. :(
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Nov 08
That is one of the worst things I have ever heard - you would be prettier IF you lost/gained weight. What sort of message is this giving people?? I have also heard people say 'you have a pretty face' but then they don't go on and friends have said if they are heavy and a GUY says that, he is purposely leaving out 'but I don't like the rest of you'. Talk about a blow to your confidence.
I actually DO compliment friends who I notice lost weight because they do look great and generally they are more cheerful which means they feel better. I am more excited about how they feel because when I first started to exercise again, I felt better immediately while nothing else seemed to change. I also try to be careful what sorts of comments I make around other people, normally if I am somewhere where there's lots to nibble on or we are having desserts, it's a treat day for me so I let myself nibble and enjoy. I would hate to make someone feel bad because I think EVERYBODY deserves a treat now and then!
I actually DO compliment friends who I notice lost weight because they do look great and generally they are more cheerful which means they feel better. I am more excited about how they feel because when I first started to exercise again, I felt better immediately while nothing else seemed to change. I also try to be careful what sorts of comments I make around other people, normally if I am somewhere where there's lots to nibble on or we are having desserts, it's a treat day for me so I let myself nibble and enjoy. I would hate to make someone feel bad because I think EVERYBODY deserves a treat now and then!
@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
23 Dec 08
You must know someone like him, he was tall and strong and lean,
Got a body like a greyhound, and a mind so sharp and keen.
But his heart's just like a laurel, so twisted on itself
That almost evrything he does brings pain to someone else.
(Si Kahn)
Not so much making fun. And obviously not applicable to all thin people. But I can't help thinking, "Thin people are bad people are ...." lol.
This message is brought to you by the president of F@GS (Fatsos Are Great Stuff)
Lash
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@mapi26 (549)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
it's a misconception for them. it's not easy to be thin either & i just hope too that those who comment on it experience what we are experiencing. i have been thin all my life & have been hearing a lot of both positive & negative comments about it like "i'm too thin for my age" or like "i look malnoourished" and all other hurtful words that's also a likewise feeling for those who are "big". i don't like calling them fat but i think it's better if we term them as vertically challeged & for us horizontally challenged. when i was a growing up it was such big a deal for others whereas i get most negative comments. but then lately it has become a more positive comment but still i think it's inappropriate. some of my firends would comment "it's good that you don't get big or you don't get fat even if you eat a lot". i mean yes now they comment about it but they have become envious of how we/i look like. but they don't know that as much as i want to be at least look bigger for my age, i can't! i would want to blame it to my metabolism but it's that unfair too..? as much as they're having a hard time to get clothes, i am also having hard time getting right pants, shirts & shoes for my age you know.. well indeed it's a dirty mouth & mind we are dealing with because they don't even think before they speak. they only think that it'll be convenient for them to comment & not think of other's feelings or look into the situation deeper. all we need is r-e-s-p-e-c-t.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I really try to focus on things that are not differences. I dislike the word 'skinny' and I dislike the word 'fat'. Technically speaking, I usually say thin, average, and overweight and I don't think there's anything bad about any of them - except in the case where there are medical problems because of it. People seem to be TERRIFIED of being fat, even people who have never even been overweight. I guess they praise people who are thin as good examples or something? I have to be enough of an example in life for my kids, I don't like being an example for other people lol.
I've had people comment that I can probably eat just about anything and it doesn't make a difference. It wouldn't right away but it's not healthy so I really try to limit that. I also don't want my daughter thinking - oh mommy can eat lots of junk, so can I, because that's just not a good habit for her to be learning when she's four.
No, people do not think before they speak and that is evident not just in the weight or appearance category but also as far as being an over or underachiever (like size or appearance, there can be reasons nobody knows) etc.
@JulianaRose (378)
• United States
17 Nov 08
i lost 60 pounds and there is a remarkable difference in how i get treated
