what are you supposed to do when you found out your son in law is cheating?

erssyl,first answer this question.are you completely sure that your son in law is cheating on your daughter?i didn't get the impression that you were sure about it.what would happen if you wrongly accuse your son-in-law when he may not be having any affair with some other girl?there may be a chance that your accusation might spoil the good life of your daughter.first make sure whether he is cheating or not.ask this same question after you confirm it.i will answer then.don't be hasty.good luck

Oh no giving him a punch would create more problems. This is a very sticky situation as being a mother in law does not allow us to poke in the marital affairs of our children. I think you should have heart to heart talk with your son in law and ask him his stand? Since the wife is pregnant and he as a doctor is accountable for causing her stress. Demand an explanation and don't go overboard being a busy body mother in law as this might have some bad effect on their marriage. Give your motherly advise no matter how angry you are with him. He might need some kind of counseling from people close to him.

DOnt know if you can file against him but I do beleive I would have a darn good talk with him and let him know you know and See if this scares him enough to stop you could threaten him with a law suit but think daughter wiouuld have to do it. Hope she will be ok in the long run

This is a delicate situation. I wouldn't punch him as one of the other responses said that could lead her to side with him. Something needs to be done. What you might suggest is that your daughter move back in with you so that you can keep an eye on her pregnancy. You mentioned she is having problems. She shouldn't be left alone. In the course of her staying with you you could find a way to gently let her know what is going on. No matter how gently you tell her she is going to be hurt. Don't tell her in anger. That is not a good way to tell someone what you need to tell her. Just give her the facts and I would make sure I have proof. Don't put him down or talk about him in anger. Doing that puts her in the position of defending him.

I would help my daughter to find out the truth. I know it would break her heart, but it would be better for her to know it as soon as possible. I would make her see with her own eyes, rather than me telling her about things. By seeing, she would believe what she sees. Or I think I should just let them go. I mean, when my daughter decided to get married, it means she is an adult and she knew what best for her. Because she is an adult, she has her own problems, and all I can do is offer my hand whenever she needs my help, but it is not me who is supposed to make the first move.

Okay at first i was screaming tell!tell tell tell!!!But then because of the pregnancy situation i say wait!Think of baby and moms best intrest...health and money.Yes money for sure,they are married and he should pay,he can afford it for the potential mother of his child.Get evidence!Between now and then gather as much as you can secretly.Private detective would be preffered,but there's nothing wrong with doing it yourself.As soon as the baby is born,tell!!!!She mine as well get over it as soon as possible and the new baby will keep her busy.Best of luck to her and baby.

I'm not sure what I would do at this moment. But maybe you can just drop subtle hints or at least approach him about the matter. Tell him he has a certain amount of time to fess up to her or you will approach the woman yourself and make her admit it to your daughter. At this time she really doesn't need the added stress but it will hurt her even more if she finds out you knew and didn't tell her.

Hi Erssyl. It is a difficult situation. It is a decision that cuts from both ends. Can you have a head to head discussion alone both of you. Can you explain how much he is hurting your and your daughter if she gets to know all about this? I would keep my daughter's pregnancy as a priority. I would not do anything that might jeopardise her health.

I so feel for you, I thought we were the only ones that had a rat in the family. He is now the ex and I say good. With us it was his ex girlfriend. Our daughter didnt want to admit to the signs either and stayed with him, at that time they had a little girl. When I started thinking things were going on, my daughter just said no. In the end he was but didnt decide to be honest or break-up until he too got her pregnant with twins! So now she is a single mom with a 2 year old and twin 1 year old boys. He of course moved in and married the other woman. They denied that they did anything and that their gil came 2 months early. Yeah whatever! In the end as much as we wanted to have a blanket party all you really can do is be there for your daughter and help out where possible. I do know how badly you would like to punch the scum thou as I feel the same!

Its none of your business if you son-in-law cheating. Who are you to decide how he should live? You raised your daughter as best you could. When she was of age she chose a husband and married him. Since when does a Parent have a say in the lives of his/her married children? Would you want your Parents interfering in your marriage? Well I should say NOT! It can be difficult to contain your feelings in such a situation but this will be a difficult fire to ignite without getting yourself burned. If I were you I'd stay well away from this one!

Hiya Erssyl, how awful to find yourself in this situation, I'm very tempted to say tell your daughter but her being pregnant then no, you can't do that it wouldn't be right. so your next option I feel is to tackle him, I'm angry now, typing this I have a daughter and if a man was doing this against my girl, I'd sort it one way or the other I know I would.

Kindly refrai from breaking the bad news to your daughter. Just use it as a blackmail tactic to make your son in law come around and care for your daughter more than ever. For example, men shall always be men,if handled well, he sure can keep your daughter and kid big time happy. Learn to turn the tables, congrats on about to be grandma who knows that a secure future is not parting but reworking.

Hi Erssyl ! I would suggest you not to do anything to your Son -in-law right now as your daughter needs him.Your daughter needs her childs father and anything husband will affect her and the child very badly.Secretly if you can collect evidences of his deeds but dont inform your daughter now.Wait till she delivers the child and see if he melts down after seeing his child.Just give him time. If still he doesnt change kick him out of your daughter's life,file a case against him do not leave him to escape financially. Take care

Your daughter is important to you, not this a$$ who lies to someone you love, fhim over big time, catch him in a lie, let your daughter know, shes having his kid, she deserves a good life, thats horrible, screw him for all its worth. it is just simply NOT k for a guy to be f ing another girl when there is an amazing one at home bearing his child. men are disgusting.

things might have been sorted out by now.and i think your daughter is sensible and mature enough to notice the tell-tale signs.it would be better if you calmed yourself down .

Your daughter is very vulnerable right at the present time so I certainly would not tell her because chances are that if you did, she would not believe you and it could cause a rift between you and her. In fact I do not think you should be the one who tells her at all, especially as she no doubt knows you were not happy that she stayed with him last year after she found out about the affair then. If you could find out where he is secretly living with this other woman, you might be able to do something. Is he no longer living at home with your daughter? If he isn't or comes home later regularly etc, then your daughter must have an idea that something is amiss and that there is a strong chance there is another woman involved. My ex-wife cheated on me and after a while my best friend pl;us another mate told me my wife was having an affair but I did not believe either of them and in fact I had a huge arguement with both of them. The arguements were so bad we did not speak for a very long time - even after I found out the truth. Then my mother said and did a few things which upset me although she didn't say anything about the affair. Eventually my mother told me she would continue loooking after our children, take them to and from school as well as after school activites, cook and wash for the children and me but not for my wife. My mum had given my then wife and I some money when we built our house which was to be part of my inheritance, so she had her solicitor send us a letter demanding the money. That was out of character for my mother and after thinking about the situation, I confronted my ex-wife. She denied it all of course but when my daughters (then aged 5 and 7) talked abouy this man who visited when I was away, I knew the truth. Yes it was a hard time and took me a long time to trust again plus of couse I had to make amends to my two friends who I had argued with. I have to say though that after over 10 years later our friendship is not as good as it once was. So do not tell your daughter what you know, but perhaps guide her in the direction so she finds out for herself. Then you can be there to pick up the pieces of her life because she wil be needing all your support.

Wow this is not a easy subject, I for one would tell my daughter what I know only because a mothers instinct is to protect her child, and afterwords she will need to make the decisions. My mother always told me she would never interfer in my love life, and I think you should do the same. Just be there and let her make the decision because in the end you don't want to be the cause of your daughter being un-happy. question is there real proof of him cheating or hear say... because that makes a difference also

I think it's alright. If I were you, I might have already given him that PUNCH! He's a jerk. Period. He deserves the Punch. After you Punch him, ask him to leave that woman. If he shows repentance and sincerity, you may want to help to reconcile the relationship between him and your daughter. No parents in the world want to see their kids divorce. However, if he shows no repentance or no sincerity. Such guys are better without. Since he's a professional, a divorce might hurt his career. He may pretend to be sincere so do be careful.

Hi Eryssyl, Your daughters health and that of the baby is of utmost importance now so even though she needs to know the truth perhaps not now would be a good time. Him though I would confront and tell him what you have discovered and ask him just how long he intends to pull the wool of your daughters eyes and when he will confess to her. Once a cheater nearly always a cheater so she was aware of the affair a year ago, it was only a matter of time I guess. I hope al works out and your daughter sees him for what he is and manages to move on with her life once the baby is born. Huggles. Ellie :D

I am angry for you right now! Who does he think he is?! I'd punch him alright..a couple of times! I don't know what you should do because in the end your daughter has to choose. The best thing I think is to be there for her and let her know if she wants rid of that jerk then you'll help her.