Do you suddently go blank or lost of words..............
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
November 17, 2008 1:27am CST
...when you come across certain discussion or reply to your responders? Is there a tingling feeling that is unexplainable which freeze the mind and create a momentum lapse of memory. You feel as though you are in wilderness and your ideas just refuses to flow freely as you normally does. What would you do? Skip the discussion and move on, since you are not obligated to response to everyone but that leaves you guilty as you have not done justice to your friends. Alright, that can be compensated in some other topics. But when it comes to your own discussions would you not feel compelled to reply to your responders? This is the biggest nightmare as it needs some form of head cracking to get a sound reply to the response. The response cannot be left un-replied, it is unethical. But how do you deal with situation where you are lost for words and just can't seem to come up with a comment? share with us your experience.
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20 responses
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
Somehow I've experienced going blank a bit but perhaps it's more appropriate to say tired...so when it happens...all I'd do is just to take a break so as to freshen up my mind a bit. I feel obligated though to respond to the posts of my supportive friends. I do respond to them by all means in whatever little way I can because I feel guilty when I don't return the good favor they've been giving to me. And yes I also am obligated to comment back and in fact enjoying this because I love to read their opinion and from there comment back. I love to create a healthy discussion. It is through this that I gain good friends around.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 08
Yes when we are mentally tired we tend to lose sight of many good points. The thing is, it is better to get a good rest only then the mind is refreshed. I share the same sentiment like you. I would try to respond to as many as possible from my friends list if I can relate to their posts before moving somewhere else. There should be a give and take here. This will prolong good conversations if we all support each other.
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@rinkumeher (38)
• India
17 Nov 08
when i got my yelder friend or friend of yers ago i have left in my home town then i lost my word i can't tell any things. not a single word come from my mouth only ia single word comes from my heart that i can't express in word it will happen and its happen in my life.
I don't get you dear.
@madlees (1377)
• India
18 Nov 08
No Zandi, I don't feel like that. If I cannot reply and am at loss of words, then I just leave it. Sometimes it happens, how long I tend to wait for those missing words I will not be able to get them. So I just leave it and get on with the next.
It has happened many times with me. I have left it, to try out a day later. Even then I was never able to continue with it.
I have learnt that when I am not able to respond to one discussion, even if they are from friends, I have to leave it. No other way.
So My policy is to do only the questions and discussions which I am comfortable with. There is no point in just writing a line or two for the sake of writing. And I always believe my friends understand me and do not expect me to do that either.
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@yangshuai (136)
• China
18 Nov 08
yup.if i were in a public place,facing and speaking to so many people,adding my tensity,i probably go blank,i can't speak nothing.and sometimes,when i am gonna utter a word,but suddenly can't memory it,and it just as if slip my lip.like this situation always happen to me.i tried to change the embarrassed thing,but most time failed,so i have no idea ,how could i do?
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@deeeky (3667)
• Edinburgh, Scotland
18 Nov 08
The words are there most of the time so I reckon it is tiredness or too much going through the brain to sort out the chiff from the chaff to put it down on to sentences of meaning.
Its having the will to respond to the discussion in hand with the thoughts that come to mind maybe.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
This is an interesting place here in mylot. With so many people with different level of knowledge, it is a real testing ground to how far our intelligence can correspond to theirs. Coming from a non engish speaking environment it has really made my brain work to come up with a clear and meaningful sentences. Tiredness may contribute to some blockages in the smooth flow of words.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I would probably just leave the discussion and answer someothers and then think about it for a while till i could come up with something more to saythan just to ramble on for an hour. I do like to answer most discussions when i can and when they are good discussions it is easier to do.
@Carolyn63 (1403)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I do actually go blank from time to time. It is due to being abused as a child. If I didn't know the correct answer to a question immediately, for example math, I would be given 10 swats with a 1x4 board. This causes panic issues now. I can simply be thinking about where I need to go and what I need to do for the day and suddenly I can't think how to get where I am going. I have to tell myself to relax. No one is going to hurt me. I've been there a thousand times. I can do it.
It's frustrating when someone asks me a simple question and I can't answer it. Not because I don't know the answer, but because I go blank. It doesn't occur as often as it used to but it does still happen from time to time.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Yes, this has happened to me quite a bit. When it does, I will not post a response to the discussion. That way, I will not put the wrong comment there. I like to know what I want to say to an discussion, rather than just giving my opinion without thinking of what I am writing. I become very blank to many discussions.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
17 Nov 08
it happens quite often to me. i either sit here & rack my p-brain for the word i'm looking for or find another word to use. i think ebverybody has that problem every now & then.we just have to do the best we can & hope everybody understands. if not , oh wel. it comes to everybody.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
We can't always fathom what the poster is trying to relate in her discussion and that I sometimes go blank or don't know what to say but write what comes to my head at the spur of the moment. Well as you say to do the best. And I am trying to do the best I can.
@Mikyoo12 (187)
• United States
18 Nov 08
This happens to me most of the time.
This just lets me know that I need to start
reading more. lol. But usually when im writing back
and i know exactly what i want to say but somehow
I cant ever manage to get the right word out. and it sometimes frustrates me
that I know exactly what I want to say but cant seem to find the correct
wording to put in that place, I have to find a word that is not as interesting as the word i
wanted to use.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
It is real frustrating not able to come up with the right words at the right time. But it is made worse for people like us where english come only as a second language, though we can write in this language ,understand it but may not be as eloquent as the native speakers of this language
@anjotorotoro (82)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
I always this when I go on with a speech unprepared, I guess it comes from all the nervousness and anxiety you feel being unprepared and fearing that the audience might get bored from it, that's all I gotta say about that.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
29 Nov 08
This happens to me a lot and is why I do not make many responses in a day. Sometimes it is the topic and if it is then I move on as there is no point in replying to a post if I have nothing I can say.
More often than not it is the confusion in my mind that is one of the symptoms of my illness. If it happens I go away for a while and come back. I do like to reply to my friends topics but it can take me so long to make a response that it can take me weeks to find the topics.
@YamiKiba (937)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Oh definately I've encountered that a lot. When that happens to me, I unfortunately feel compelled to reply with one-liners, since to me its better than responding with nothing at all. . .though when I do thing of a more detailed, well-thoughtout response later in the day when my mind is working more effectively, I either reply again with my new thoughts or just get frustrated over not being able to type out the better response earlier.
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
Yup it happens to me especially when I have answered a lot of other discussions. Before I used to reply to all responses to my discussions but now I don't do it anymore because I can't find time for it already. Instead I just rate it and when I find it interesting to answer I reply to that response.
@miraclefreebies (3043)
• United States
29 Nov 08
Hi zandi. This only happens when I'm really overly tired and pooped out, which is often because I live to be busy. When this happens to me, I just think of something nice to say, like "I appreciate your reply" or something like that. A lot of times I'll wait until I get some rest, even if it's just an hour of sleep.
@indie416alvin (52)
• China
17 Nov 08
for me, yep, I always go blank. Maybe it is the memory problem, maybe it's because it's hard for me to concentrate. I will think about many things Mostly I will think about what should I say, and what I wanna say, if I cann't, I will just give up, skip to another topic or do other things. As you said that could be compansated in some other topics. I will not feel guilty as I have not done justice to my friends, 'cause my friends are used to it, they know I will reponse them sooner or later. This can be discussed in 2 ways: one, for youself; another, for your friends. Now, it may become one of my style,haha,just kidding~ but hey, be optimistic, you know sometimes it's not your idea refuses to flow freely, but it does flow so freely that you cannot catch the related information.
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well said. you made a good comment here.