the perfect gift

my mom always used to send money for it was cheaper for her to mail card than send presents. and too she didnt know what we liked. So I didnt mind but if you are there in the same town I think its best to give presents than money I just dont know why just I think its better

Yeah, I used to think like that also now I am the one saying that it will be easier to give them gift cards so they can get what they want when they want and stuff they need. I would rather prefer cash and gift cards for places I frequent. To me that is the best well thought out gift nowadays.

I would take the money anytime over the gifts that I really have no use for, my sons g/f ask me last christmas what I wanted I said I really need a skillet to fry eggs in, she said that is not a gift. She bought this big picture to hang on the wall, while it is a very pretty picture, I can't fry an egg on it. They come and they ask you what you want, If there is something I need like the skillet I tell them, if they had given me money I could of bought me a skillet. Getting gifts are good and I appreciate everyone I get and glad that someone thought enough of me to buy me one, but I think when someone tells you that they really need such and such then you either buy that or give them the money to do it. Sometimes like this year I have a granddaughter that unless I spend way over a $100. for the gifts that she wants, and I can't afford that, I would rather give her money and let her get what she sees in the store she would want. She loves to go shopping and it gives her fun way past christmas. Some people like a friend of mine maybe you could say that about, because she gets cards put money in each one, because she don't like the shopping and it is easier for her that way. To me I think that is not thoughtful, she says I am just to lazy to go out and shop and this is the easy way. To me she isn't being a part of Christmas just trying to get throught it and out the easy way. Most kids love money. I think most people try to find gifts that suit the person, and then there are those that see gifts they like and they buy it and bring it to a person cause they like it and it doesn't fit any where in the house, would rather you just give money.

Well, I think it depends on the situation. What is important is the thought. There are people who are more pleased by receiving some material things rather than cash. There are also those that want cash. What is important is you based it on practicality. As you can see nowadays, people are in need of money. So if you are unsure of what to give, I think it would be better to give cash so that the person receiving will have the option on what to do with it.

I never thought money was an inappropriate gift, to give or receive. Everyone is always telling me I am hard to buy for, so money is the solution. Although I appreciate any gift given, I appreciate the fact that someone would give me money so that I can do with it what I feel is best. I feel that way about giving money as a gift, as well. Once in a great while something will practically jump off the shelf at me, screaming, I am perfect for so and so, buy me! In those cases, I do buy a gift. The other times, I give them the money I planned to spend on them, and let them do with it what they want. Naaaa, money is not an inappropriate gift at all.

Actually even I feel that giving money is not apt choice when it comes to gifting. I usually go choose and select some gift which I feel wud be perfect for them. But then in our country marriages involves a lot of cost so many people give cash gifts so that it will be of some help for the bride's dad Cheers

I don't like to give out money as a gift I prefer a gift certificate instead...If I know the person likes movies, or what ever I will get them a certificate for a movie store, or if I know they are short on groceries I will get them a gift certificate for a grocery store near them..

I think if someone specifically wishes for a specific gift and I can afford it I will try and get it for them. If I cannot get that then I think money is the next best thing.

too buy a gift for a person that have everything what i do is give cash and maybe they can use it to go out to eat are to a movie are do something they like to do.that way i don,t have to give them something they already have.

I do a bit of both. If I have time to buy a gift I will, and if not, then I would send cash or a gift card from a store or something like that. I think any kind of gift is thoughtful and sometimes I just can't think of anything nice enough to give them, so instead give them money so they can spend it on whatever they want.

It could be a good choice I guess. If you give money instead of another gift, the receiver can then choose or buy the things that he or she needed. That could be a great help to them already. Honestly, I prefer giving money that gifts nowadays.

It depends on the person and the situation. I have given money and I have given a gift along with money. Sometimes people are just so hard to buy for and some people can sure use the money for bills or even to buy gifts for their children.

I think if you do not know what the other person would like as a gift then money is a good idea so they can buy a gift that they like. surely it is better to give money than an unwanted gift. Also times have changed a lot and there is so much more choice of things in the shops, how do you choose something these days! I agree with youe comment about when you were growing up, cos that is also what I was led to believe. Its our daughter's 20th birthday tomorrow and she din't know what she wanted, she choose a book which we brought for her. We then brought her some vouchers for a shop where she can go and buy another book/dvd/cd or household things. We brought vouchers so she will spend them properly as if we give her money it will just go in her purse and get spend on nothing

Id rather send money so they can get something they truly want or need that a gift i may like but may not be what someone else would/

Gift cards/cash are always a welcomed gift. I have bought gift cards for certain stores as gifts as well as cards like Master Card gift cards good anywhere. I could always use cash or a card along those lines as a gift. Any gift I feel is thoughful no matter what it is in my eyes. I don't actually look at any gift as thoughtless. Giving is the thing not what it is. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

These days I think its very thoughtful given the rough circumstances we are living in. I was also taught like you that money was a poor excuse for a gift. They we got into the age of gift cards where it seemed that everybody gave them away. These days, its not feasible to do so as many stores going out of business will not honor them. It's best to give a gift card issued by a bank to make sure it will be honored. I was planning on giving some small gift cards this Christmas for groceries as many stores offer them now. Food is certainly something anyone would appreciate getting.

I was brought up the same way to believe that money was a lazy gift which is daft now I am older because for people like my grandma money would be the perfect gift. Last year I sent her some money and she never said a word but thanked me for her gifts, so I dont know whether she was happy with it or not, I would like to do the same for her this year as I know she struggles but I do not want to offend her it is crazy.

It depends on who you are giving it to. I am giving cash to all my older neices and nephews for Christmas this year, because let's face it young teens always want and need money, and they are not quite old enough to get a job to earn what they want. Also things that they want at that age are all high priced ticket items. I don't have the kind of cash to buy them all a gift costing $50.00 or more. Now if the person is an adult who has plenty of cash then giving them cash would be kind of strange, but if it is an adult that could certainly use the cash then it is appropriate. Cash is not really appropriate for young children. I also would have never given any of my grandparents money because they were both financially secure, and cash would have offended them. I find grandparents would rather have photos or something personal. I never would have given my parents cash until now, the economy is hurthing both of them terribly, but still I will give them gift cards rather than cash, so they can get things that they need. In these times there are many people that need cash and it might be appreciated more now than ever before. But I think keeping the person in mind is most important. Some people have to much pride to accept cash.

Hi Rose: Heck I was always thrilled to receive money anything of the year and most especially at Christmas....It sure beats getting something you didn't want or had to "fake" liking you know? I'm all for the money!!! Its fast and easy and you don't have to fight the crowds and traffic!!

I always say if you are in doubt give money, because they can buy whatever they like. You do not have to worry about if they liked the gift or not, if you got the right size or what is their favorite color etc. You know that they will like the gift because they picked it out.