How do you let go of the hate?
By kayree2002
@kayree2002 (259)
United States
November 17, 2008 12:59pm CST
I was just replying to someone's discussion that they started about forgiving and while typing I was venting about my hatred for someone that did something to be over 5 years ago. Not many things phase me like that and I can usually let go of something pretty quickly once I talk it out with the person. But this one person I just couldn't forgive and it has grown to the point that I really do hate this person for what they did to me. they really made 2 years of my life a living hell. I said that I forgave them and I try to be polite when they send me an IM message, but I really do still hate them and I want nothing to do with them or I just want them to hurt as badly as I hurt when they did what they did to me. How do I get over this, because it really is a sin to hate, but I just can't let go of it.
1 response
@chameleonsdream (1230)
• United States
17 Nov 08
I wish I could give you a more constructive answer than this but... you've already taken the first step by recognizing that your feelings toward this person is affecting you negatively. It's not easy to move beyond those negative feelings toward someone who has hurt you badly - sometimes time is the only thing that makes a difference. It may not help right now but honestly - 5 years is not that long a time for something that affected you this deeply. You sound religious - I'd suggest you pray about it and ask for the strength to forgive this person and truly move on. For the record? I'd also cut off all contact, including blocking them on your IM - it's not hateful, it's self-defense. It's hard to stop hating someone when they are still around to remind you of what they did to you.
