The first year is the hardest?

The first year of assimilating your lives together is difficult and since a lot of people won't move in together until they're married, that's when the problems happen. My first year living with my husband was very difficult. However, I haven't noticed any change in the relationship in the 5 months we've been married. No better or worse, which I think is the way it should be. Marriage shouldn't change anything.

In my experience the first year of marriage is definitely the hardest. My husband and I have been married 4 1/2 years and I do not even want to think about the first year. It was awful. But somehow we got through it. I think it is hardest because you are just beginning to build your life with someone else. It is hard in the beginning but it gets easier as time goes by.

you must be very lucky. I hope so. it is that reason you are still feeling very good. in general the initial years are needed for adjustments.

Well, it depends on when you start counting. I lived with my husband for a year before we got married. That year was kind of rough, but that was mainly due to me getting used to not living with my parents and some hormonal problems caused by birth control. The first year of our marriage was fine. Honestly, things haven't gotten really rocky until this year, our 7th year of marriage.

in my case it was a bit easy because we are engaged 3 yrs then getting married but it was not enough to know each other well.

Hi tiff. I have also been married for four years. I have heard the same thing about the first year. I have also heard the first five years can be hard. I think it all depends on each relationship. I had lived with my husband for a few years already. It felt like we were married already before it became official. I would have to say that the beginning of my relationship with my husband things were kind of a struggle with getting to know each other and the things we needed to accept and tolerate. It is not always easy once you choose to live together in matrimony or any other way.

Being in the second year of my marriage, I cannot say for sure if the first year is the hardest. I would say the year leading up to the marriage is the busiest though. I guess most people say the first year is the hardest due to the fact that the two people who got married, are living together under the same roof for the first time. And during this first year, the habits of each is slowly being discovered. And if there are disagreements due to conflicts of habits, then accommodating to each other would be a difficult time for both. As me and my wife see many thing eye to eye, we do not have much to adjust for during that first year under the same roof. And being in a marriage is about giving in to a love one, we make many givings to each other. For mistakes we make that irritate the other, we are quick to forgive and accommodate. Which is not that much to begin with.