I know A secret should I tell

I have been in that kind of situation before. But try to weigh the things. Since you know your friend, if you tell her the truth you think she will react negatively or vice versa? I know its hard to keep that kind of secret, but if you think that your friend is over him already and she's not affected at all maybe that's the right time you tell her. but say it in nice and a clear way that she would understand and would not think that you fooled her for not saying a thing before.

ah you should havetold her before, now shell just be angry and think your a bad friend for not helping her rid herself of a bad man sooner

I wouldn't say anything at all it's over an done with and it's time for her to move on. Maybe if you had told her back when she was with him she may not have listened to you because as they say love is blind. I would just keep quiet and not stir up sleeping dogs.

Remember the old adage "Let sleeping dogs lie". She's not with him anymore and he has apparently moved on. I don't see any good coming form this being revealed. When it comes to romantic relationships, friends of either party are best left out of it, at least in all of my experiences. If she were marrying him, then maybe I could understand why you'd want her to know, but seeing that's not the case, I'd let it go. Good luck, whatever you decide!

honestly i think that you should have told her he was cheating when they were together. real friends tell the truth regardless. how would you feel if the roles were reversed? since you didn't tell her before and he's about to get married i would keep it quiet. has she moved on?

I think you might be better saying nothing to your friend. She might be really annoyed with you for not telling her before. You know your friend best, but I would personaly not say a word. I am so glad she spilt with her old boyfriend also.

That is a hard one to call. I would be afraid of making her mad because I didn't tell sooner so I don't know if I would tell now. Follow your heart and do what it tells you to do. You will find it is the right thing in the end.

if you didn tell her when it happened, i would not say anything now. besides they are not together. he is about to get married, at this point is it really even important any more? i say let it go, and move on.

I think it's better not to say anything and let them discover and solve the problem by themselves. If she gets mad at you for keeping the secret you could explain that you don't want that you meddle with her romantic affairs even she's your friend because romantic affairs should be solved first and foremost by the couples themselves.

I would not tell her especially if she does not feel responsible for the break up. She has a right to move on with her life and so does he. However, I would suggest that you tell her exboyfriend that you know about the affair and that it was not easy not to tell your friend and that things like that could ruien his new marrage.

I wouldn't say absolutely anything. This won't change a thing apart from what you mentioned, that is, your friend will know that you knew about the situation... Leave it as it is. Be happy that the guy is gone and will not hurt your friend anymore - and support her with her decisions. That's what you can do to help. Telling her won't do any good...

With the STDs floating around I would probably open my mouth and say something. I mean I don't know about everyone else but to me a persons life is more important than trying to protect their emotions. Now if you know for 100% certain (which I doubt) that your friends bf is sexually transmitted disease free, then there probably isn't any point in bringing it up. They aren't together any longer and he plans to be with someone else so let the past be the past.

Well in my opinion, You should take that secret to the grave with you. If you were to tell your friend now about what happened back then it will cause more than just some congusion. Your not sure how she will react so I would just keep my mouth shut. Your friend may get really upset with you for being her friend and not telling her that secret. She might end up saying that she doesn't want to be your friend anymoresince that trust is now broken. But since she doesn't know just leave it be and kepp living your life as if nothing happened. Besides it happened in the past.

well if u think in thhe long run it will b okay.. then u shud

I would say just hold tha thought. You know your friend. How do you think she would respond. If you had of told her while she was with him, that could have turned out ugly. What would be the point in telling her now? Other than to indicate she is not missing anything good. Wait a while. Good friends don't like to hurt good friends. It would have hurt then, and it will hurt now....... Tell her 10 years from now when she is really over this person that wasn't for her anyway.

i think you are the better judge of this situation. when she is no more with the guy, she should not get offended that much. but still. if you want you can say judging the sitaution

I think that you are in the best position to judge. Start by simply thinking about i and asking yourself things like how would your friend react, what purpose would it serve, and such. Think about it, judge the situation and see how you feel about it afterwards.

I thinks it better to hold it forever in your hands. Lets by gone be by gone. this certainly will make matters much worse as you friend will know that she will no longer trust in you later as you knew something that she was supposed to know.

I agree with the majority, there isn't really much point in saying anything to her now. All it would do is just open up old wounds and make her question her trust in you. Now that he's about to marry someone else, so they're separated for good, it's really just a moot point. Just keep it under your hat and focus on being a good friend in the future.

I would say to go ahead and just hold it. If you have not told her already then it is too late and will only cause pain on that person with no good to come out of it.