me and my wife just got married and my lil brother want to come live with us

wow! congratulations! you're such a nice big brother to have.. anyway, your situation is kinda hard.. hmm... maybe you can find him a place near yours so you can have the privacy of a married couple in your own home and at the same time, if your brother lives near your place, you can still be able to help/guide/assist him.

What a good bro you are! Just by taking the idea in consideration shows what a good person you are! Talk to your wife. But even if she says yes, because probably she will, you need to do some thinking; by raising the question you have probably been doing so. Not just newly weds need some space, every body needs space and three people in a one bed/Appt is tide. And even the best intentions will need to go thru the window when things would get rough. After 8 month you already know not every day is a honeymoon, make a mental exercise and imaging your lil bro caught in the middle of one of those days, even in one of those very good days. Get the picture? You are full of good intentions but your intentions could bring you some unnecessary circumstances. Wait for a while maybe the Universe send you some help and you can find a deal in a 2/bed Appt and every body could feel just Great helping each other. Iam positive your lil bro will understand because if he wants to go to live with you, that means he loves you too! Take care, Best of luck to you!

As you know, this is something for you and your wife to discuss together because you married her and she is your partner. If you do include him in there, you may have to move so he can have his space, some ground rules, etc so things can stay on an even keel and and everyone comes out of the deal with some boundaries. You didn't mention how old this brother was, so I cannot say much behind that but you need to talk to your wife.

I personally think you should wait awhile before you bring your brother into your house hold if possible. your marriage is new and you don't need added problems. your brother should visit time to time but staying no. especially if you guys only have a one bedroom. it would be to crowed and cramped. this time is you and your wife time so enjoy it while you can...