How do you solve issues when they are gone?

I know I'm responding a few months later than when you wrote this, but I just got back on here after being gone from here for about 6 months. I am an army wife and I know exactly how you feel. I used to feel the same exact way when my husband deployed the first time after we were married. When these issues come up though and you really feel that you need to talk to him, but you don't want to due to the thoughts you have, you need to talk about them anyways. They won't always end up in an argument. There where so many times that if I had just talked with my husband things would have been so much better not only for me, in feeling better about things, but for him as well. A lot of times, when you don't talk to them about how your feeling or what's bothering you, they start thinking that you just don't care anymore and start to get insecure about not only the two of you but also about him not being what you want anymore. This is my husband's third deployment now since we've been married and any issues that arise, we talk about it immediately and either get it resolved or work on fixing as soon as we possibly can. It's never easy when they are gone, but we have come to terms that we both have things we need to talk about and we can't always assume that it's bad or that our feelings are gonna be hurt. Talk to him, don't keep it bottled up inside. it does nothing but hurts you more and eventually it will come out and when it does it's gonna be alot worse than if you would have just talked about it while it was bothering you. if you need anything or any advice just yell at me. I feel i have become a pro at this deployment thing now. lol!!! my husband and i have been married for almost five years and he's now on his third deployment since we've been married. we had and still do have to rely on phone calls and all that, so we've come to terms with the fact that talking is all we have whether good or bad. good luck and keep us posted. i'll be praying for you through this time. i know how difficult it is. God bless