What would you do?
By lexishantell
@lexishantell (57)
United States
November 17, 2008 10:06pm CST
I have this ex that I have a child to. Long story short he left when my son was born and came back when he was 13months old and he had another child on the way. My son is now 20months old. He was around for 7 months everyday with both of us and wanted to be with me. His birthday was the 1st I took him out and stuff like that then he wanted to go with his ex that he has a kid to to eat the next day without Me and our son. So I told him how I felt and he said he was going no matter what and thats it so I needed to drop it. Well I told him to get out. Then the next day he was talking to his ex ex and had her out to his house and everything else yet he still tells me he loves me and hopes things work out with us and he wants to be with me and everything else. I dont know what to do anymore. I love him and want to be with him but how can he sit there and say he feels the same if hes talking to his exx girlfriend that he doesnt have a kid with. I wish I never took him back and just kept standing on my own taking care of my son. I feel like a failure tho because it went sour between us again but I did everything for him atleast I tried. What would you do?
2 responses
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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19 Nov 08
What would I do? Stop feeling guilty. Someone who walks out on a woman JUST as she gives birth, then comes back a year later is not worth feeling bad about. Tell him that if he wants to come back, he owes you 13 months' child maintenance and you expect him to pay.
It sounds harsh, but imagine just how difficult it would be for you to get up and leave a person you (purportedly) love with your baby. You couldn't do it, I'll bet, because you're responsible and nice. He did that. You owe him NOTHING: he must ask YOUR permission for everything from now on.
Oh, and if he's still seeing his ex-ex-girlfriend, I'd suggest you make it clear that you don't like two-timers. He can be with her and see his kid, but you expect maintenance from him and won't be taking him back just so he can vary his partner whenever he feels like it. Sounds like he needs to wake up and smell the coffee (or at least realise that the days of Mr Macho are loooooooong gone).
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
18 Nov 08
Dump him and don't feel guilty about it. Until this guy is mature enough to commit to one person you're going to continue to play this game with him. He is responsible for helping you to support your child financially and should be a part of your child's life but don't...don't...don't try to depend on having a relationship with him at this point because you will only end up hurt again.
