think and talk or talk then think.....

Good one there! Luckily for me those frustrations do not come easy since I talk very less. The advantage of talking softly and talking less help in the long process. But that doesn't mean that I always necessarily THINK AND TALK. I am highly driven by instincts and talk my heart when I do. I am not calculative and very transparent and like people who are thus as well. I feel, our tongue is the most sharp instrument. It can BUILD or KILL and we must take care of the words that come out of it. Your post is specially pertinent today, where we are living on the edge, fast living, fast thinking and fast gestures. And when things are such, we MUST take care of what e speak. For at the end of the day that what identifies us.

Hi Cupud,I thonk you should follow Aps 's advise and be more careful how you deal with people,to prevent unnecessary misunderstandings,and TOUGH TIMES.......

Hi Apsara nice discussion well i must say that i follow Both GOLDEN rules. At office, with customers or official meeting I think and then talk but with family and friends, i am just like u, just talk and talk(alike friends) and only thing if get any thing BOUNCE BACK And some times friends assume and perceive it wrong and trust me thats TOUGH time LOL Take care

Hi Apsara, Don't worry; all human beings are doing the same at least once in their life. Some people are more careful while talk. If we talk without thinking it may hurt others because at that time our mind is speaking. If we think before talk then we can be avoid the hurting words or can change the way of talking. For me it depends on the situation. If I am in office I have to think before talk. But at home or around with closed one then we have some more liberties. I think when we felt angry we talk without thinking. It is really true for me and later regretting on the same. But most of the time I am careful while talking. Have a Nice day!

I very often talk and then think and then again think of what to talk to rectify what I have spoken before.....When I am angry or upset I say a lot of things without thinking and then repent ....

Hi Aps.....Of course I always think before I talk.I dont like to make silly mistakes by talking in haste.See even while mylotting I have to think carefully before I give my answers..And I have always felt that this is one area where we are different ,but compliment each other beautifully...You always mylot with your heart,I with my mind......And together we compliment each other's short comings,and this explain why we vibe so well,deary..........We think on similar lines but express ourselves differently.....And I always feel its the heart that wins over the head,and that's why ]ou are always one up over me...............

Same here Apsara…I am very very indiscreet person and blurt out at the most inappropriate moments. Later I repent and try to make up by saying something but I know that nobody is a fool. At 36 I’m still trying to control my urge to speak…I think I may master it by the time I turn 70

Same here, most of the time I talk and think back. But while at work I always think a lot before talking

Same here most of the time I talk and then think, but when I'm out in my work I always think a lot before talking

I think i am more of a thinker than talker. When i really get angry i usyally stop talking.You know when u are angry u tend to speak what u ought not to.

yes.ur quite right. iam also one of the persons like that.i think that i should not do like that. but every time i fail.if u know the solution pl. tell me.

I tried to think before writing here but I did not get any perfect answer so, I have stoped thinking and just statrted typing. so this is what iam.If I try to think than I cannot talk or write what i wanted. I also belive that I think before talking or writing Than my words are fabricated and the the honest one. I Do not or very little in favour of thinking or fabricating words before talking. Pranaam.

Usually, some people just talk, they do not think, it's too hard to do both things at the same time :)

when i was younger, i would just talk away without thinking. after coming to work and handling several big projects and assignments, now is the opposite and i think it is always better to gather your thoughts first before speaking out. now i always do so. i would look at the pp around me and think first cos i do not want to sound offensive, rude or hurt others unknowingly with my fast talking. Also it is a sign of maturity i think on my side.

I always try to think before I talk.But my Arian impulsiveness takes the lead always.Anyhow it has earned me a good name as person who doesn't hold any grudges and an open hearted person.Blessing in disguise Huh?

Before when I was young I talk first before thinking. It is always emotion over mind but now I got matured I always keep in mind that you have to think first before talking to avoid someone get hurt unintentionally.

generally in my view it depends on the person who you are with and the relationship you have with that person. if he is close and very much dear to heart, i dont thinks before talk. i will as i am. i will try or hide my words or felling. if you relation is not so close, then i will think before i talk. if the person is related to business or some higher authority, then i will very choosy with my words

Good discussion, I am really thinking about this a lot..... when, I am in a good and calm mood, I always think and then talk with the person who is questioning me...... but, when I am in a hurry burry mood, I use to talk and then later on think about the conversation.... then only I will think that, I should not talk in that way...... But, from this response, I control myself to think and then talk...... thanks for this discussion.......

hello my fellow myLotter, i always think before i talk because i never want to hurt anyone's feelings or say something to upset someone. happy posting!

good question, i try to do the first, but a lot of the time i blurt out whats on my tounge, bad bad habit