Going to work again or not?
By Hailey2008
@Hailey2008 (47)
Philippines
November 18, 2008 9:25am CST
Hi! I am a fulltime housewife and a mother to a 9 month old baby. Do you think it's ok for me to go back to work again? I just feel guilty having to leave my child on the care of other people. Sometimes I just get bored at home, and I really want to go back to work again. I am so confused.
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@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
This is really a dilemma for you. But it depends on what you really want. Taking care of your own baby is very important. So you won't have to worry about your baby during working hour. My parents have tried their best to take of me even they both are working. If it happened that they are busy at the same time, I will be taken cared by my grandparents. So, you might work out some options so that you can continue working, while taking care of your own child after work.
@Hailey2008 (47)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
thank you guys! your words gave me a lot of confidence in whatever decision that will make. I am actually of getting a nanny next year after my daughter turns 1. My mother in law lives with us so she can supervise and help take care of my baby while im away. Thank you again!:)
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@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
19 Nov 08
Hiring a nanny is a great idea too. But taking care of your baby yourself is the best. Accompanying your kids to grow and learn is the most precious moments you can have with them. Since your mother in-law is living with you, I think she can help a lot too. Compared to those working couples who is not staying together with their parents, you are quite lucky. Just need to note that, when your baby is growing up, grandparents tend to pamper them. So, taking of your own kids is therefore very important.
@PlantBuddy (183)
• Canada
4 Feb 09
Hi Hailey,
Definitely, do go out and get a part-time job doing something you like. You will feel so much better and more fulfilled and then have so much more to offer to your family. Even if it's a volunteer job, if you don't need the pocket change.
There are some nice telemarketing jobs for charities like the museum or art gallery where you can work in the afternoon or evening two or three times a week or on a weekend.
Or you could sign up for a course in the evening and upgrade your skills or learn something new.
Arrange for someone in your family to babysit. Just tell them this is something you have decided to try out, and ask them to pitch in and support you.
@chameleonsdream (1230)
• United States
18 Nov 08
Obviously, your decision has to be a very personal one based on what you feel is best for you and your family. I handled it differently with each child based on our circumstances at the time. Mostly, when I worked I made a point of working hours that allowed me to be home when my children were awake and at home, but I've never condemned mothers who choose to return to work thanks to something my mother told me when I was trying to make the same decision myself - she said "Your children deserve a mother who is happy with herself. Do what makes you happy."
