My fiancee

Hi, my friend. I'm sorry to hear this, this is not a healthy sign for a relationship. It's good that you want to work it out. But it also needs your fiance's cooperation. What you need is try to talk to her again, in a good way, think of a way that won't get her into the defencive mode. Tell her frankly what hurts you now, and let her know that you discuss this with her not because of some one else. If the conversation cannot go on as she is always in that defencive mode, then you can try to write her a letter, it's also a good way to let her know your feelings. Let her know that it's good to dedicate herself into the church activities but you also need her to make the relationship better. And think about what will happen after the marriage life. If after trying all your efforts to maintain the relationship, she still ignores your feelings and needs, i think you should really think whether she is the one for you. All the best for you! Good Luck!

I can tell you that it isn't going to get any better once you are married. This may be a warning sign to you that she isn't really what you need. I would think long and hard before marrying this one...