How do you deal with an unruly child who is only 3 yrs. old?

Your voice has to be stern and calm with an ounce of shock that he would have the nerve to talk back to you. Send him to a corner the second he talks back, before he can even finish the sentence. He'll cry, he'll scream. Just keep him there for 3 minutes and don't lose your cool. Then explain to him when it's over why you sent him there and that absolutely under no circumstances will it be tolerated. Consistency is key. Within a month, i think it'll correct the behavior. Did with mine.

Oh wow that's really tough. I think you should start calling Nanny 911 :)

I would suggest to discipline your son. If wooping is the option, I would suggest you to do that now to correct your son. Children learn it from some TV programs and friends too. Find the cause and nip it at the bud. If TV program is the cause, you must find some good channel for him.

Try "1-2-3 Magic," its worked for a lot of people! One of the things that I like about 1-2-3 Magic is that it asks you to put the child in a separate room. So he's not with you still, watching what you're doing... he's in another room, isolated from everyone else. It has to be a room with nothing breakable in it. Using his own room is fine, even if he plays with toys in there, as long as he's not breaking things or hurting himself. And the Time Out doesn't start until he's quiet and calm. So if he screams for ten minutes, then quiets down, three minutes later you'd let him out. You'd have to do it IMMEDIATELY, EVERY time that he says something rude or doesn't listen. If it was his doing something, he needs to stop doing it before you get to three, or its in the corner. But being mean, rude and disrespectful should mean being immediately taken to his time out room and the door shut, no discussions or anything, just "You're outta here."

Well, let put it this way... A kids only act like their environments did! I mean did you use that words he said when you angry? Did you live in a good neighborhood or bad one that always use such word in dealing with something? All I can suggest is that you speak face to face with him. Tell him the meaning of every words that he speaks. Tell him that such words is inappropriate and rude. But kindly never speak in high voice when you did that, as if you speak in high voice (anger) he will rise his temper too. There's many thing cause this problematic dilemma... I think you can try to go to psychologist near you to find its root problem and solve it in the best way it can be.

First things first... Where did your child learn the words stupid, crazy, mean and the idea of calling the cops? Is he watching too much TV or is he mixing too much with the wrong set of kids in the playground? If he does, then better try to change that pattern. From experience, most kids will really try their best to outsmart us parents and to try to get their way around things. That's why they have tantrums. If you give in, you lose. And if you always lose, they'll get it as a sign that they can always get away with it. If my kids start calling me stupid or crazy, I would most definitely whoop their butts. Instilling discipline at a very young age is really important. Believe me, things aren't going to be any easier when he gets into the puberty stage. You don't have to go around whooping his butt everytime he gets a toe out of line. Sometimes, it helps to explain things to him and not just say "Do it because I say so." If you think, it is something beyond your control, i suggest you seek out the help of a child psychologist and ask about ADHD. A lot can be done to change your kids behavior now while he's only 3. The longer you put things off, soon enough, you might find that it cannot be undone anymore.