which is your favorite,a son or a daughter?
By aringwi
@aringwi (136)
China
November 19, 2008 1:11am CST
Today I got a phone call that one of my best friend has been a father whose child is a son.When he called me,he was so excited that I can feel his joy and he invited me to have a drink after work.In China,having a son is the family dream for most young men.when someone's wife give birth a son to him ,he will hand out red eggs to his workmates and friends.If he gets a daughter,he won't do that.However having a son means that you should prepare a house for the son to get married,which is a big amount of money and a heavy burden for the fathers.If you have a daughter,you just need to give her enough money to buy the household appliance.30000 to 40000 yuan is just OK.Which is your favorite,a son or a daughter?
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4 responses
@pitulica (56)
• Romania
19 Nov 08
I remember that I allway want to have a daughter but when i was 5 monthes pregnant, doctor told me that i have one boy. And i just cried. I thought i`ll be dissapointed but i wasn`t. Because you wish something while you still planning but when they become real, it doesn`t matter anymore if you`ll have a boy or a girl. At least, this happened to me.
@aringwi (136)
• China
19 Nov 08
when my wife is pregnant,her favorite child is a daughter,but at last we had a son which is beyond her imagination.when our son is growing up day by day,he is lovely,smart,naughty and hardy.she loves him so much that she sacrifice all her time to play with him and listen to music with him.we are thinking of all means to earn more money to bring up him as we know the expense of culturing him is large.
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@silverjam (969)
• United States
26 Nov 08
I respect some of the cultural practices in some areas of the world like where you are right now (I guess you're in China) who displays very high regard in having a son instead of daughter in childbirth. However, since this is a discussion I have to express my own personal viewpoint in this issue.
I don't have a child yet but it doesn't matter to me what I have in the future; be it a son or a daughter. Every human being has the right to be born in this world and obviously displaying favoritism over the other gender is a plain descrimination.
I cannot imagine how a parent can do such? otherwise there should only be one gender for children (only boys/son) if everybody prefers to have son instead of a daughter. Everyone is created equal and should be treated equaly specially inside the house.
@sivanj (1263)
• India
19 Nov 08
Nobody looks at money when it comes to favorite. it is love and affection that decides this. also let us not forget that this is a bad way to look at this. men and women a re equal and we can't discretise like the way you have done.
i think this is a problem especially looking at average earning family. but lets have a broader perspective.