Was it really wrong of me?

I agree, i was just writing the similar thing in the upper comment. He just didnt think of it at that moment. You're right men are from mars hehe. i sometimes want to send them back to mars and set on fire the whole planet Nah, I do love them..its just that sometimes they just piss me off lol

yes send them back

Men are strange. I always said they dont think in advance. They just see the problem and fix it but dont consider what gonna come out of it. I never thought they were mean or anything, they just dont see the whole picture. Like this situation..I wanted him to take a day off, because its our anniversary and I really wanted to go away for a few days. it wouldnt matter if it was even this week, but he knows we cant do it this week as we have some family things we have to go to. But Im sure what happened was that his boss came and told him he could be free now and he was all happy thinking yes we can go this week, without considering that we already have plans. When he realized this, after seeing my reaction, he felt bad and so reacted the way he did. Now I know this, its common sense but understanding the situation still doesnt stop me from hurting...emotions dont act on logic as mind do. I guess all men are somehow the same when it comes to these things :) Thanks Hildas!

Thats no problem.

Yes i agree, its not always like that, but you are right women will more often think of others aswll and try to find the best solution for all people involved, while men will not. Its the same situation when men complain things have to be the way we want it. But its not true. here's the example: A man and a woman are going out for a drink. A man knows a woman dislikes plastic chairs, but he doesnt think of it when he shows a place where he thinks would be ok. Of course a woman complains, saying she doesnt like plastic chairs. And then she shows another place, which has good chairs and she knows that place would be good for her and him. So what happens is that a woman decides where they are going, but thats only because she considerd both of their wishes, and man feels like he didnt get his way, but thats only because he didnt consider...anything. So now we have a women getting her way and a man complaining it always have to be what she says, of course not admiting she chose a better place and thats why she 'won'. LOL Why do we even bother hehehehehehe

Well he is not a butthole lol. He is great,but sometiomes he just dont think....like every man I guess. Maybe my first reaction was as it was exactly beacuse I thought what you have written. He doesnt want to spend time with me. That wasnt my mind talking, but my emotions I know now its not why he has days off and that it has nothing to do with him not wanting to be with me, but my first reaction didnt even considerd that. I reacted as any other women would...emotionaly. And I dont see a reason why I shouldnt have. And him being upset about it is just as absurd as my reaction was :))

Thank you. You're right people need to talk. but still first reaction will always be there and we cant control them. Its good that way actually at least its not borring. Imagine how the world would be if we only acted reasonable and not emotionaly? Just a cold, cold place.

Thank you for your words, I agree free moments are so rare, thats why I reacted that way. I really wanted to be free next week as this week i cant be. Now he is free this week and Im the next??? WHat a mess lol

yeah try to understand that its not his fault. hmm we need to be reasonable sometimes ;)

Yes they are like us, they just dont want to admit it hehe. We wont argue about that thets for sure, but it just doesnt seem fair, that he could be free this week but not the next. I cant be free this week..grrrr im scheduled for next... I guess I gonna need to find something to amuse me next week when Im free...facial and manicure here I come Thanks for your response.

My point exactly. I dont mind him beeing home now, of course not. Im happy for him, but he did say he CANT. And now all of the sudden he can just not when I wanted to. Just not fair. Its not like its a major problem, I just think I had the right to point this out.

This is a typical male answer lol I was not all over him, I did however say i do not appreciate it. Why should women keep quiet, when its obvious men do not think of what they are doing?

well Im sure we both did overreact. But just as you, I see no reason why I shouldnt. I was angry for things working out the way they did and when Im angry I say it. i dont just swallow down my emotions and put on a happy smile, just because we wouldnt argue. I think men sometimes still have that prehistoric look on the world lol thank god its only sometimes hehe thanks for your respond.

LOL heheheh thanks for the laugh :) But he's not a zero...no way!

Hehe well either 2 things could have happened. He might not have known he was going to be off or he simply forgot to tell you. My friend always wants me to take off but I'm the type that just likes to go to work and get things done. I hate to call out or take days off unless they are days I've already picked. I dont think you were wrong in what you did cause if I put myself in your shoes I would of been upset. Alot of times I never know I'm off till the week when we actually have the day off. I guess I tend to just not think of those things. I would just talk to him and see what he has to say and just tell him the truth. Don't accuse him of doing it on purpose or anything, maybe just ask him to take off the day you want him too again. Good luck

lol Are you a man? then nothing Men stick together anyway hehe.

How could U? nice tongue!

Sorry :(