Men make things so complicated

@suspenseful (40192)
Canada
November 19, 2008 7:24pm CST
My husband has arthritis and his hands are not as good, and he also had a stroke, so I have to do things to make it easier. So this morning, I was changing the table cloth, and they are a bit too large, so he gave me a complicated instruction such as lift up the end of the table cloth, now fold it back, and by the time he finished, I was more complicated then ever. Then we had the new railing in and I had to take the extension cord downstairs and he gave me complicated instructions and of course, what looked right for him was entirely backwards for me. So why do when men give instructions, do they make it so complicated?
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15 responses
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Because they are men, they think different then we do. I sell on ebay, I recently sold a 600TC 100% Egyptian Cotton sheet set, they are brand new and nice. Really good price too. The guy just emailed me and said he got the sheets, but they are not cotton. Duh, They are Egyptian Cotton just like my listing says. Who can explain men, but then they probably say that about us.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
20 Nov 08
He just emailed me, he said it was his mistake, they were nice sheets and he gave me good feedback. He must have talked to somebody, he got a good deal. They are very nice sheets with a good price. I wish they would fit on my bed.
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• Canada
20 Nov 08
OOOHhhh fussy what he's layed on. hehehe
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@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I swear its a power thing for them. they think if they make it too hard we'll let them do it - but they don't understand that the job can be done more easily they've convinced themselves it has to be hard.
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
20 Nov 08
Trouble is he cannot do much himself, but he should know that when he gives me directions, he is making it harder for me.
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@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
20 Nov 08
do what I do with men, ignore them when they don't make sense!
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I guess that is how some are. My step-dad is that way. Always making things more complicated then they need to be. Also when he wants tools he doesn't tell you all that he needs so you can get them all at once nope he likes to have you running back and forth then gets mad if something goes wrong that hes done even if you didn't do it. I had always thought that the "alpha" male done these things. But I am not sure. My husband usually grabs what he needs and does it I might have to go once for a tool he may have forgotten or gotten the wrong size he says it is easier to just get it himself instead of explaining it to me by the times he is done explaining he says he could already have the tool..
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• United States
20 Nov 08
I think it is to try and impress you with their superior knowledge...however it has never impressed me as I have definitely more common sense.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
20 Nov 08
Oh I don't know maybe he thinks he'd like to take some control???
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• India
20 Nov 08
" oh ya i too feel, that by nature they made things complicated, may be not intentionaly.."
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I would like to know the answer to that too.. I remember one time I was backing the car that had broke down and my husband was pushing on the left side..He said to turn the wheel left, so I did, which he actually meant right because he was facing me and should have said right..Then he had the nerve to get mad at me..
• United States
22 Nov 08
Thanks for the BR, I guess the humiliation I got, (because he did yell at me in front of some friends) is worth getting a BR for it..
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
20 Nov 08
THey arent good planners or layout people! my hubby was very good at getting things out right and easy as that was part of his job when he worked . He always thought of the best way to do things before hand! Also invented little thngs around the house to make it all go easir for me and I use them all the time now he is gone!
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
20 Nov 08
My husband is the same way. I ask him all of the time why he wants to do things the hard way, when I clearly see an easier way that would work as good, if not better than his idea.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Men have so many ways so different from us women its not even funny...They will explain something very simple to explain but when they get done it feels like a very difficult task...It varies too from man to man..Some men are so simple in explaining that they leave out the most important parts...You really cannot go by me these days,i am so off of men right now...
@jammyt (2818)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
I know just what you mean! LOL! I think it is in their nature to be undecisive (more than girls) and more complicated. We women know the shortcut to stuff where they would complicate it yet come up with the same and product. LOL! My husband and I often have a good laugh over these things.
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@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
Men are stubborn most of the time. They keep on insisting things we, women, can do in simple ways. But we can do nothing with it. For men and women lives together. It just a matter of being patient and understand most of the times.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
20 Nov 08
hmmmm i thought women makes more complicated hehehe.well i gues he is doing it because he is not satisfied or his brain is working hard but his body cannot do what brain says i gues.
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@mariposaman (2959)
• Canada
21 Nov 08
I thought it was women who made things more complicated. They spend half their life acting helpless to attract a man then after they are married they finally fess up to the truth they can do it themselves, differently, but do it none the less. Poor Buddy has been brought up to help and do things expected of a man, so be patient with us.
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• Philippines
20 Nov 08
If it's any consolation, men think women are the same...
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@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
22 Nov 08
Hello, suspenseful. I don't think that men make it any more complicated. Men are usually pretty simple, they try to explain things in a way that they understand. So, if your husband gave complicated instructions, it is just because he thinks it is complicated to fold the cloth. Perhaps he will give really easy explanations when it comes to other subjects. Try asking his advice at different things, and you will find out. Usually, women make things more complicated than they are. They are giving advices about different stuff in a language that nobody understand, making it hard for anyone to learn and to do what they are asking. Respectfully, Munhozmib.