Will you love someone who makes fun of you when you were still kids?

Philippines
November 19, 2008 11:41pm CST
Got a friend who always makes fun of me when we were still kids. And as long as i can remember even when we were in high school. she always makes fun out of me. telling things to our friends about my not so nice experiences. it seems that she's really having a good time especially when she told stories about my shortcomings. One time she spilled some orange juice on my table and i was having a hard time on my drawing. She just laughs and says sorry. I really got mad and i tear down the paper and throw it at her face. it takes months for us to reconcile. But i was wondering eversince that thing happen she didnt make practical jokes about me. but i miss those times when all my friends laughs because of her antics. i dont know if i was falling in love with her. just missed those times when i saw her laughing in front of me teasing me everyday. Will you love someone like my friend who makes fun of you
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14 responses
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
Of course, it is not an excuse to hate them. Kids are kids, they never hold grudges; they can put them past behind, making their memories full of laughter. Certainly at a point that you love someone, you are no longer a kid; for emotions are already there. I could probably love someone who makes fun of me; I think it is a sign of recognition. Or at least put her to my list, she deserves it. No child grows up without experiencing being bullied or making fun with, that’s what childhood are; pretending who is more grown up. But in reality, people change. The one who makes fun of fun may be the one who will love you most. We can never really tell. That’s why we can never be sure with our emotions. That’s makes life more interesting.
@Galena (9110)
20 Nov 08
you're trying to make bullying sound like harmless fun. it's not. the very term "making fun of" is a kick in the teeth to me.
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
Maybe it's just because that you may have an unforgettable experience that is so extreme that you cannot get over it. All I am saying is that, it is possible FOR ME to love a person who once bullied me or made fun of me and I am way too old to be a kid now. At a certain point you and your 'bullier' collide after sometime. You would probably just laugh at it. I remember once, I was bullied way back elementary days, and then we met after several years in a school reunion, he got my number and asked me for a date. See, people change. Sometimes, for the better. Let's not generalize 'bullies' will always be 'bullies'.
@loxion (1553)
• India
20 Nov 08
Remember people do change when they grow up, sometimes when still young people can do crazy things but only realize them when they are grown. But now sounds strange because your friends has took this behavior even to the high school level. I think at high school all students are considered a bit matured and if someone still act this way...then you might think somehow they would hate or keep on disrespecting you till the end. Sometimes you can miss days like those, and i am not sure if they are happy or sad days , maybe you enjoyed the drama that was happening between the two of you and that's the reason why you missed them, but yes things like those do happen and we turn to miss those (sad happy) days
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
thanks for the reply i know that people change in the passing years. well, i guess that's what i missed about my friend she really did change a lot. and she dont make fun out of me at all. but i really missed those times its really fun.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
Loving someone who once or twice made fun of you is POSSIBLE. It always happen that LOVE and HATE COLLIDES, hence OPPOSITES ATTRACT. I can't remember if it happened to me, though my fiance and I were really opposites and are still going. When a person made fun of us is unforgettable. The things he/she did to you made a mark not only to your mind, but also to your heart. Until, it reaches to an instance and realize that, "I missed him/her". It really happens. A realization that despite of what he/she did to you, still you cannot say you hated him/her. That is LOVING...
• United States
21 Nov 08
HELL NO! "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." I've been made fun of, bullied and harassed throughout my school life one too many times for me to remember. Why, loving someone who made fun of me when I was little? I might as well make friends with a mean, backstabbing, traitorous, underhanded woman who might cheat on me just to see how I would react negatively all those years ago. ::sigh:: It's a good thing I keep the bad memories in my mind as experience. Always.
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
Well, this reminds me of someone quite related to your story, its a boy-girl thing which in many instances hate turns out love stories, my bestfriend usually tell me how much he hated a classmate of ours back then, today they become husband and wife and I just smiled when I looked back. To your question, we did silly things when we were kids well not necessarily that young but in our ways, we can forgive people and go on with life. Afterall, an old buddy would be a great company if we mesmerized good old days !
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
Yes, i also have a friend and a bestfriend who are like cats and dogs. but in the end they end up together. as the saying goes "you cannot hate someone unless you love someone".
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
well for me maybe that certain friend of yours have a big crush on you that time and doesn't know how to express her feelings for you
@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
hi mark! why not, i mean if he doesn't continue doing whta he did...i mean when we are kids things are different. we think differently. but i assume that the guy has matured and will also take care of me. hehe well, i am saying this coz i am a girl. i am not sure if it is the other way around. take care and God bless you! :D
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
The more you hate the more you love... hehe for a boy-girl thing... well, it was proven by a lot of stories all over the world, and sometimes even work stronger than any other relationships... WHo Knows! You are not a kids anymore! Go for it.. hehe ..
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
Yes! is the answer of your question.. In my opinion, I think she loves you.. Why?? Don't you see it, she always making fun at you when every time you were near to her.. Don't you ever realize why she was making those things to you? Don't you feel anything the way she look at you, the way she laughs at you and the way she talks to you?? I think she was just getting your attention.. Maybe the reason why she's doing all those things is because for you to look at her and for you to see her.. Maybe, she likes you when you were still kid.. Maybe, she was already making some move for you to know her feelings for you..But instead of seeing all those things, you see her as someone who just want to make fun of you.. I guess you like her too but because of being irritated and maybe you don't like her jokes you didn't able to realize earlier that you like her too.. I had saw this kind of love story in the movie many times already.. Its up the guy or the girl didn't realized earlier that she/he loves her/he already until she/he lose her/him.. Sometimes, we can feel that we love that person when she/he's far from us.. And it is not a good realization.. Why? Because there's a less chance of getting her/him back in your life since you've cause her/him pain already.. I know that she isn't funny when she spilled some orange juice in your table and you're drawing put into nothing.. Maybe you didn't saw the sincerity when she asked for an apology since she was laughing.. I understand what did you feel when that happened but maybe she didn't really planned to spilled the juice and destroy your drawing.. Maybe she was sincere in saying sorry but she doesn't know how to react on it.. Its all maybe! Try to think about what you feel for her and then try to examine what your heart really say... Then decide whether to reconcile to her so that everything will be ok... I hope you will able to solve your problem..
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 08
Well... I think the past is the past. When you were still a kid, you said anything you wanted and you never know the effects in the future. Kids do what kids do, but as an adult, that should not be a problem at all. I think it is possible that someone is falling in love with someone who made fun of you when you were still kids. When they drew up, they became someone different, they got mature, and they became someone you like. It is okay to be in love with this person, and I think it is silly if you choose not to love someone you really like just because they made fun of you long time ago. Even, it could be a good talk when you're married, "hey, do you remember when we were kids... you said I looked like a monkey!!" Funny isn't it?
@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I dont think i would fall in love with a person who made fun of me. it is more of an insult than showing her antics to people. He wanted to make others laugh and it was me they were laughing at.. I couldnt accept that. Had a friend that would always laught at my grades, yeah he was an honor student and I wasnt , eventually i found out he liked me, but sorry for him. Cant fall in love with him.
@dozhou (326)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Every one would want be a messer instead of a messee, but sometimes you have to accept it, although it is not so easy.
@jlovesbsb (243)
• United States
21 Nov 08
did you tell that she hurt your feelings when she did all those things to you?? i think you should go and talk to her and apologize and hopefully she wouls also say that she was sorry. And if her attitude changes then maybe she is a friend in deed if not and she continues to make fun of you and tell people stories about you then to hell with her. Friends are suppose to treat other friends that way.
• China
20 Nov 08
hey my friend, Just do what you should do to lead your own life, love may have various fashions. She makes fun of you and talk about you with her friends, So you feel embarrassed. NO,you needn't. That show she care you. you will make your angel your grilfriend . Good luck!