Are you friends with your ex?

@ausnikki (4054)
Brisbane, Australia
November 7, 2006 8:41pm CST
My ex husband and I are very good friends and alot of people find that very unusual.So,my question is..are you friends with your ex?If not what has made it this way?How does it affect your kids?
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@denax1 (708)
• United States
8 Nov 06
My ex husband (and now current husband again) were able to put our difference aside and become friends for our childs sake when we got divorced. We were divorced for 7 years and then ended up getting remarried 6 years ago. Everyone thougt we were strange for being friends and insane for getting married again.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
Wow,that's great.Congratulations!
@jade17901 (597)
• United States
8 Nov 06
Sometimes we get along great and he's my best friend, sometimes though we want to kill each other haha! No matter what though I love him, he's a good guy but I guess we just haave a brother sister type of relationship
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
lol I know that feeling!
@pookie92 (1714)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I actually don't have an ex but if we were to divorce I would at least pretend to still be friends for the kids' sake. I think kids need both parents. Just because the adults can't get along, doesn't mean that the kids should pay. When you decide to have kids you have a lot of sacrifices, this would be one of them. Sacrifice your pride and hatred too.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
I agree with you totally!
@caramello (4377)
• Australia
8 Nov 06
Not any more, but should see, as daughters' wedding coming up and will HAVE to face each other then! My children have accepted my feelings, as they know I did try, but he blew it once too often!
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
Good luck!
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• United States
8 Nov 06
Yes I'am,and this came this way from being separated for years before we got a divorce and it has not affected my daughter at.
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
That's fantastic,it is good for the kids
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• Singapore
8 Nov 06
It depends on how we broke it off, it's its mutual or on a bad note. if it's mutual, yeah, no problem to keep in close contact and vice versa. In fact, I'm very close to one of my ex-bf cos he understands me the most, just that circumstances doesnt allow us to be together
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
Thanks for responding
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• United States
8 Nov 06
I am friends with a few of my ex's and my boyfriend finds it strange that I still have close relationships with them! He said if your couple relationship didnt last what makes you think that your FRIENDship relationship will last because when you are with someone you are suppose to be each others best friends! But I think its nice to stay friends!
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
I agree with you,it's a shame others don't see it that way!
10 Nov 06
I was with my ex partner for 14 years and we broke up a couple of years ago. After a year of breaking up we became friends as this seemed a lot better for our 2 children. It is a lot better to be friends instead of hating one another. Makes life that little bit easier
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
10 Nov 06
I agree,it does make life easier
@firelight (1858)
• Australia
8 Nov 06
Eric - eric
I'm not as he cheated on me, physically abused me and threatened to serve my head on a platter to my parents. Not very nice terms to part on. My kids didn't handle it very well for quite sometime as he kept telling them nasty things about me and that I was going to get shot. Now he's calmed down quite a bit and has stopped saying the nasty stuff to the kids, but I think it's best for them that we stay away from each other so as to prevent further incidents happening in front of them. My daughter still remembers him running over me in the car when she was 18 months old, it breaks my heart when she speaks of it:( ***I seem to have eric stuck in this post and I can't delete him, I think I'm being stalked LOL
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
I'm sorry to hear you went through all that .I'm glad he has finally calmed down.LOL about eric the stalker:)
@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
8 Nov 06
well i don't have ex's i've been with my husband since 14, and we both said no matter the terms of the break up if that were to ever happen, we said we'll try and remain friends!!
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
Thanks for your response,that's a good attitude to have!
@hotgyrl79 (204)
• United States
8 Nov 06
Im trying to be but he still pisses me off.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
They tend to do that lol
• United States
8 Nov 06
I'm not friends with any of my exes, but my parents are divorced and still communicate on a friendly basis.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
That's good
@Violette13 (1048)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I wouldn't say me and my ex are FRIENDS, but we aren't screaming at each other when we see the other. We get along because it's for the betterment of our son.
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
That's a good way to be
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• United States
8 Nov 06
Well, my ex and I are on good terms. I think it has been so long that I no longer hold a "grudge" and we do have children together. Of course, I am married to the "man of my dreams" and therefore should actually thank my ex husband for running off. LOL
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
What a great attitude!
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
10 Nov 06
fair enough
• Canada
10 Nov 06
Yea that's the set up I have with my ex also. I dont really want to be around her though, she is involved in stuff I dont agree with or accept and would rather not get caught up in her life.
@caribe (2465)
• United States
8 Nov 06
Yes, I was friends with my ex until he passed away a few months ago and my husband is friends with his ex also. I see no reason for us to be enemies. The ex and I would probably have been great friends had we met under different circumstances.
@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
Thanks for responding,that is sad
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@ali136 (199)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I don't have an ex husband, and don't think I'll ever have one. But...I'm not friends with any of my ex boyfriends. I don't even talk to them or see them around, actually.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
Thanks for responding
@keriwebb (294)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I am not friends with my ex, but we don't have any children together. My fiancee is somewhat friends with his ex. They share a child together, so they need to have a friendly relationship for the child. I have to admit there are some conversations they have that really shouldn't happen now that they are no longer together in my opinion and that is weird for me.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
Thanks for responding
@kesfylstra (1868)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I don't have an ex-husband, but of my two serious relationships before him, I am online friends with one, and if I never see the other one again it will be too soon. My husband agrees with that sentiment. They were best friends in high school, but this guy really turned out to be a jerk, and we all hate him now.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
fair enough
@pendragon (3349)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I have two ex's, both of which I never wish to see, hear or talk to ever again.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
It can't always happen
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@tjmoola (1859)
• United States
8 Nov 06
No im not friends with my ex.
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@ausnikki (4054)
• Brisbane, Australia
8 Nov 06
It can't always happen