Meeting People

i think you do have a few friends,it is always better to have some good friends than having a lot of fairweather friends.it is always better to mind your buisiness .happy posting.

Hey, you sound more like me than I do. I am invisible when I am with people. They talk around me, look past me. I don't go to groups other then with my husband, all eyes are always on him. He can converse on anything with anyone. He is bold and very sure of himself, and I must say a very, very good faker. Shy people can seek help if they want to, but as long as we're not depressed over it. We can live with it. I have to admit, I wish things were different. I get lonely, and think life is passing me by at times. It goes as far as this with me, my husband jumps on the phone and talks to people that call to talk to me. After that they call him more than me. The same thing with people I introduce him to. You noticed I said PEOPLE. I find it hard to get close enough to people for us to become real friends. Mylot helps me to express myself.

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. I myself am very shy. I have some friends but not that i see or talk to daily. I am a stay at home mom and my husband takes the car so I can't leave the house to meet new people unless it within walking distance or a friend calls me up. I do make an effort to go out and do things with people i don't know if the opportunity comes up simply because i do feel uncomfortable. I know i need to expand my small horizons. It is hard and scary to put you trust into people you just meet so I just go slow. Also i think once your daughter gets older she'll want play dates and that is a good opportunity at least to chat with other moms. Also you are your daughters role model. She's going to look at the world the same way you do. That's why i push myself i want my kids to not be as introverted as me. I want them to learn how to make friends and be involved in the world around them.

i can understand your feelings,well,it is uncomfortable if no one else is willing to confide anything to you. to make friends ,first of all ,needs to open your heart and ready to share your mind with them spontaniously,no matter all of the individual viewpoints differ from each other. according to what you have exposed ,the reason why find it hard for you to be a bosom friend within your friends ,might be that you get accustomed to keep yourself from someone esle unconsciously, inevitably leaving sorta language barrier in between.

There is nothing wrong with you. Being shy is not a mental problem or anything like that, it is just a part of your personality. I have had the same problem my whole life. I am never the one to start a conversation. After a girl I know tried to get me to go everywhere under the sun to try to get me out and I refused, she stopped coming to see me. I finally got up the nearve to ask and she said it was because I am anti social. I thought you *****, I am not. But I think she was right. Not that I tried to be but... After that I just sort of forced myself to go places, the same way we all force ourselves out of bed or to do our homework. After a while it got easier an now I am starting to enjoy socializing. I am not saying you ar anti social, but maybe you could try the forcing yourself thing.

Just want to start with a disclaimer that I'm not a professional, just someone who's shy like you. I want to be in the "there's nothing wrong with you" camp, but if this is bothering you so much,then something is wrong. There just isn't anything wrong WITH you. I haven't met you but I doubt you're driving people away. Odds are you're not very talkative, and people think that you're not interested in them! I used to have that problem and thought I wasn't interesting or likeable until one of my friends commented that some of her other friends thought that I didn't like them because I didn't talk to them very much. I'm an introvert and I used to be very shy, and something that I find irritating about society is this perception that if you aren't a super gregarious, extremely social extroverted person then there must be something wrong with you. Not everyone wants to be around throngs of people 24/7, and that's ok. Not everyone can be a social butterfly, and not everyone should. Could you imagine a world full of only extremely outgoing people? There will always need to be a few quiet people around to actually get things done while the social butterflies are chattering away;-) Anyway, someone gave me a book as a gift a few years ago, and I read it and felt a lot better about things. It was called "The Introvert Advantage". It helped me understand my personality better, and offered some actually useful coping techniques. But the bottom line is that if this is bothering you, if it's upsetting you, if you're unhappy with how you are, you need to deal with those feelings and change those things, even if it ultimately means you end up going to a counselor.

I don't think anything is wrong with you. Maybe the people you know are just used to sharing secrets with certain individuals. It might not have anything to do with you at all. I'm the same with friends thing. . .I get shy around most people, but I think I'm making progress lol. Most of the friends I had from middle and high school was because I had met them through my brother. . .and some of them had sisters so I tried to be friends with them too if they were around the same age. And I also try to make friends through my current friends, but they only end up being acquaintances in the end, which is fine with me since I think the more close friendships you have, the more drama you'll be experiencing. I think I'd rather have a lot of casual friendships than a bunch of close friendships, at least when I'm not online.