i have an 18 year old step son
By koikoikeiji
@koikoikeiji (356)
Japan
November 20, 2008 7:39pm CST
He is very quite person and always playing PS or inside his room. We dont see each other that much. I just want to ask you friends and my lotters to give me some advice to how to approach him. I dont want to be his mom but I do want to be his friend. Hope you can help me on this..............
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6 responses
@littleowl (7157)
•
21 Nov 08
Hi koiko' the only way I would do it is to actually ask to sit and talk to him about it or to talk to him about his likes and dislikes etc..that way you can slowly let yourself into his 'world' and slowly become friends..am sorry I can't be of more help blessings littleowl
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@koikoikeiji (356)
• Japan
21 Nov 08
Hi there littleowl. I will really do try my best to to sit and talk to him. He is not the kind of person that do open up right away, but I will do try my very best. Thanks for the response and blessing to you too and your family.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
21 Nov 08
Hi koikoikeiji, My suggestion would be to let it happen slowly and not try to rush things. Always be pleasant and helpful to him but also be relaxed in his company. It would be best if he was the one to open up to you and that will likely happen if you give it time. Patience is what you need most now, that and a friendly pleasant personality. Blessings.
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@koikoikeiji (356)
• Japan
21 Nov 08
thank you for responsing, your advice will be a great help to me. Yes i agree that patience is one of the key to have a good relationship, and a friendly pleasant personality. Blessing to you too.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
30 Nov 08
He needs a mum in his life despite being 18 yrs old. How long have you been in contact with this person. Try to build a step by step relationship. Don't impose yourself on him but spending a whole day playing PS in his room does not help him or you to build a relationship. © ronaldinu 2008
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
21 Nov 08
[i]Hi koi,
I have no idea but how about observing what sports he loves and invite him to a gym or park where there are actual game and watch with him like soccer etc, or invite him to eat out and bring him to a place where he loves the food, just to start breaking the wall between you since as I have imagine, he is a loner or an aloof individual, I'm not sure maybe he is just shy to you![/i]
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@koikoikeiji (356)
• Japan
22 Nov 08
Hi there checapricorn? He love to watch soccer so much, and he used to play baseball. Me, I love baseball. I guess I have to watch baseball with him and talk about whats happening. And also food is the best. Have to know what his favorite so bring some of it from work............ Hope it works. Thanks for dropping by. Have a nice day.
@Shar1979 (2722)
• United States
21 Nov 08
I suggest that you take things slow. Maybe he isn't really ready yet to have a second mom. My husband has 2 daughters and I'm glad that before we got married, I was able to chat with them for a while and eventually, they liked me. So when we got married, they're happy with us too.
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@koikoikeiji (356)
• Japan
21 Nov 08
Hi there shar1979. That is nice to hear that your husband daughters like you. Lucky for them to have you. I guess I have to make things slow. I cant force thought to like me, but I hope someday he will. Thank you very much for responding. Have a nice day.
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
21 Nov 08
its simple. play video games with him. you don't need to have any discussion. just find a good two player game that he likes, and get it for him and play it. he'll think you're pretty cool. but he won't say it.
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@koikoikeiji (356)
• Japan
21 Nov 08
Hi there redhotpogo. Thank you very much for your response. I myself do play PS too, and that is a very nice idea. I would definitely look for a two player game for us to play, I do hope he would play with me. Have a very nice day.
