Honesty is Still the BEST Policy in Relationships...

If we can't be honest in a relationship, then I don't believe we have a very strong relationship. As a therapist I have done a lot of counselling with couples and it nearly always was about mistrust and the biggest problem tended to be one or other of the partners had got caught out in a lie. Coming clean and then staying honest nearly always improved that relationship. Although I got to say that some people are just not meant to be together because there is such a clash of personalities and different goals.

Most definitely! Dishonesty always comes back to bite you in the butt! There are those who hate to hear the truth and will react in a not-so-nice manner when faced with it, but that's an issue that they have to deal with themselves. Honesty can be handled with tact and diplomacy (sugar-coated) if the truth might be painful to someone. I see nothing wrong with that since you are still telling the truth and a lie can be even more painful somewhere down the line. This applies in marriage, friendship, business, strangers, any situation where people are involved. Dishonesty only hurts people.

I agree with you 350 percent. If you can't talk open and honestly, what is the point in having a relationship with anyone cuz after awhile it would be hard to keep the lies straight. Don't you think? Plus, it would also be a false relationship.

I agree.Not just in love relationships but also among your family and friends.It is important so that you'll know wh's really going on and fix it if it has to be.

I absolutely agree with you. Its imperative to be honest and to say your LIKES/DISLIKES regarding any matter, and if a relation doesn't work, than the best choice is to speak with your partner and if possible with no remorse, break up on the easy way, not getting caught while cheating and stuff like that.

I think you are right. Honesty is the best answer. Everytime I lie or try to hide something I always make it worse than if I told the truth. As I am engaged I have learned if I am honest it is easier and builds a better relationship so I just be honest and even if it is not good news to my fiancee she thanks me for being honest even though it is hard sometimes.

I agree with you 100 % .. Honesty should be a characteristic everyone would have.Sadly in this day and age, there are many deviations from the truth in so many areas. Try buying a used car; not too many car salesmen are going to tell you everything they know about a used car. They are going to tell you the minimum amount of information so that you will buy the car. In Marriage honesty is so important because you promised to live forever with him/her. If one or the other begins hiding things and depriving one's spouse of what they should know, a rift begins to form. Each time the action is repeated the rift grows larger and large and soon the rift beteen the couple is so large that there is no way the two can get back together on the same page. In work dishonesty creates many problems.. it causes coworker to distrust one another and when their is no trust of one another within the workplace the company is sure to fail. Honesty is always the best policy.

If the relationship is based on truth , then honesty Is very important.But , unfortunately, there are many realtionships that aren't based on honesty.

I think honesty is almost always the best policy. I say almost because there is always an acceptation to that rule. But 99% of the time, I feel like that is the best policy. It's hard for a lot of people (me included) when it's hard to be honest, especially in situations when being honest might hurt someone's feelings.

I agree. Honesty is the best policy all the way around always. In personal and work relationships alike. I don't believe anyone is ever totally 100% honest. I mean there are many things I don't tell people about myself or my life. I guess some would call that lying by omission. But lying and people who lie often (I have relatives and friends who do this constantly) is one of my pet peeves. I do NOT like it!

honesty is the only way to go. i hate dishonest people. i catch someone in a lie i'm about through w/them. there is no good reason tolie.

I totally agree with you.As long as there is honesty between two parties everything will o on smoothly.It's a necessity in a relationship for you to have trust with each other.

Honesty is the best policy any where any time. Should someone ask how a garment that is very unbecoming looks, I'd try hard to find something positive to say about it without lying.

I am so glad to here someone say that. It'S so refreshing. you know when I first got married 34 years ago. I WAS married before.and had to hide every thing from him. he was a control freek. it wasn't anything big.you know, if I got a ten cent raise. "oh" boy a coke-cola that week. all my own.living in the south with thirteen in a two bed room shack,and I do mean a shack. you gaurd everthing with your life.I findly went home to my family. Milk real milk.food real food.I got so tired of eating a bisket with may-o just sirve.and lucky to have that. It take's quit a while to get over that. I met a man and fell in love. it's been thirty four years I never have seen a hungery day. he loves me so much. and is so faithful and I love him more then life. I would never be untrue to him. we didn't have much when we met. but when I laid my eye's on him. I just knew. at first I did'nt tell him everthing. but then I realised I could trust him no matter what.so please keep your home a honest one. or it will never be a home. only a house.and you will grow apart .when trust and honest start to go it's all down hill from there. like you said.good girl.love is your foundation you build on. firemountain.

Honesty is always the best policy. I think when there is dishonesty, there is no trust and there can be no friendship or relationship without either trust or honesty. One thing that keeps people together is being honest with each other. Even if it means not saying something as opposed to lying. In the end the other person will appreciate that you were honest to them even if it is something they don't want to hear.

Yeah, I agree to you 100% not only in relationship but in every aspect of our life. There is a Filipino saying "Ang pagsasabi ng tapat ay pagsasama ng maluwat" it means being honest leads to a good relationship.

You say honesty is still the best policy there by implying that you are not sure about the future whether it will remain the best policy. ha ha ha Just joking. Well i believe that honesty isok but sometimes all of us make mistakes and then if we go and admit the mistake it creates a furore. Once a dent has been made in a relationship, it is very difficult to get it back on the rails. Certain reas are better not touched and shoud remian hidden or under covers for the sake of harmony.

Well, honesty is really important in almost everything we do not just in relationships. I have been cheated by my past boyfriend and it really felt disappointing. Though I gave him many chances, I just ended up leaving him. It is very painful to be cheated by someone dear to you. It affects the trust that you have built and such may not be brought back again. I believe that if all of us will practise honesty, broken hearts will be lessened.

It should be actually. I cant continue any relationship If I am doubting. It wont work and will never be.

Honesty is a must for sure. If a couple can't even be honest with each other, what's the point?