Would you date your best friend ex girfriend ?
By ronnyb
@ronnyb (6113)
Jamaica
November 21, 2008 8:20am CST
I have a personal rule never to date anyone that my friends have dated for fear of a strain in the relationship with my friends.However,what if you got to know the girl during the time when your best friend and her were dating .You liked her then however you didnt pursue her on the grounds of loyalty for your fiend.
This situation now begs the question , would you have picked her out of a crowd if you didnt get to know her through her association with your best friend ?.And is it just the intrique of wanting what your best friend has ?And how would you feel if the tables were turned ? Should you miss out on true love because she was with your friend ?.How would your friend now feel?.Should your actions be motivated by your best friend feelings ?
Ever been in a situation like this ?
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14 responses
@jhhayes777 (46)
• United States
21 Nov 08
Truth is I have the same rule you do. I do not date girls that my true friends have dated. This only applies to my real friends and not acquintances. I also seen as an experience not to date your friends ex. My best friend in high school did that and we are still friends but it is still wierd to us 14 years later. Our friendship has never been the same. We both tried but the chemistry we had just does not exist and there is a same strain from him since I think he feels guilty of doing this and I told I forgave him since she meant nothing to me anyways but we stil struggle to keep a close friendship. So rule is no to dating friend's ex.
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@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
21 Nov 08
Well maybe depend on the situation lol ... of course a normal date is ok yea ,not thoese into something bad to your friend
@iamfine (740)
• China
22 Nov 08
Haha, not to date friends bf is also my golden rule. and the most I can do is try not to know more about them. just know their name and their appearance, is enough. But there are still some ocassion, very seldom happend, that me and my friend's bf have to leave alone together, the situation would make me feel wierd. I don't know why. but it is surely not love...
@kapilforhyip (24)
• India
21 Nov 08
yah i have met my girl friend tommorow and i live my gf
it is a thinking of college
@mintymint (47)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
21 Nov 08
o no i wont date her ex boyfriend. its not fer and i know that my friends would do the same thing for me. Even i hade one situation when my friend met someone that i liked before and she didnt wanted to go to meet him better because i liked him once, even i told her to go.
But shes happy now with nice guy and im happy for her;o)
@zeeterman (1066)
• United States
21 Nov 08
Well, I did exactly what you describe. And we were together for over 4 years. In fact, her and I stayed friends and we still talk alot. Unfortunately, my friend hates me for seeing her and hasn't spoken to me for years.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
21 Nov 08
I think yours is a golden rule. Ifyou date someone your friends have dated I believe that you will risk losing their relationship and friendship as well.
@megaplaza (1441)
• Nigeria
21 Nov 08
it all depends on the individual, some people will not want to date someone that their best friend used to date, no matter the level of the love they have for them, it is a question of the individual principles.
@norrisl4 (65)
• Zimbabwe
21 Nov 08
You can create very awkward situations. What if she becomes your girlfriend and you together attend a party being hosted by your friend. What if your girlfriend and your friend(her ex-boyfriend) leave the room and go to the verandah for a 'little friendly chat'. Will you feel comfortable?. Remember that between any 2 people who were once in love, there will always be a residue left in their hearts of 'concern' for each other. This residue can develop into anything. No wonder some relationships get rekindled 'mysteriously' years after breaking up.I highly recommend you maintain the stance of not dating your friends' ex-girlfriends.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
21 Nov 08
Dear friend,
Luckly I have not been in situation like that. If so I would give that girl for my best friend as long I am not in love. If she too love me more than my best friend, I hope it has to sorted out by just a marriage as soon as possible if the relationship with the girl is sincere. I may not date the girlfriend of my best as long as they both love each other and moreover I do not want to hurt my best friend. But if my best friend wants to date with her girlfriend may be witht his permission I may try that. 
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
21 Nov 08
Yeah I fully understand your rule. My friend and his girlfriend were engaged to get married and me and his girlfriend ended up kissing and making out a little bit. He didn't know about it but for some reason that night he freaked out and was slamming his head against a dresser. Me and some other friends picked her up to get her away from that scene. I was there to comfort her all night and we started to realize that we were falling for each other. The next day things got messy but everything ended up being alright. In the end I lost a good friend for what seems like the love of my life. So don't be afraid to pursue any woman because you don't know how it will turn out until you try.
