Ease the sorrow
By marmed
@marmed (38)
Sweden
November 21, 2008 7:05pm CST
My girlfriends cat died last week, do you have any suggestions on what I can do to ease her sorrow. She is really sad.
I truly understand her, because I remember how hard it was for me when my cat died. Yet I feel there must be something more I can do, besides listening and understanding.
Do you have any suggestions?
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
22 Nov 08
Well there isn't much one can do in a time like this, it is what we all have to go through at some time, you can only be there for her, assure her she gave her cat a quality life and maybe even suggest she could do the same for another cat in memory of her other one...a new little cat can always help the healing...
@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
22 Nov 08
Did she bury the cat or have him cremated?
Have you printed out the Rainbow Bridge poem? http://www.petloss.com/poems/maingrp/rainbowb.htm
I suggest you have a little ceremony, reading this poem, maybe making a little monument some place for her.
Then, talk about the good memories about her cat, funny things he did.
Then, tell her that when she's ready, and only when she's ready, that you will go with her to look for a new cat.
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@marmed (38)
• Sweden
22 Nov 08
Yes, the car is buried. I did give her the Rainbow Bridge poem, but it turned out to be a problem for me because as I was reading it, it reminded of my cat and I started to cry.
Good point, to remember the good memories of the cat. I will do that.
Thank you!
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@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I remember my babies that have passed too when I read it. Your crying wasn't bad, she might've thought you were crying for hers.
As an older woman, who has lost a number of beloved cats over the years, I can assure you that the good memories eases the pain of the new loss.
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