How do you tell someone your not interested?

my sister is in the same situation, they just had a talk. all well after that. maybe things will work the same way with my sister.

Simple: "Get the F- out."

I think he is trying to take advantage of your friendship. He might be the one who is acting like a jerk. A guy who thinks in these terms is a spiritual parasite and an emotional leech. I would not like to be around such a person.

Hints do not work. You say you have told him but have you really. You must tell him in those words that cannot be misunderstood. Tell him exactly what you told us and if he continues you have to sever the friendship as he is acting like a jerk if he continues to force the situation. You are both involved so he is creating problems for himself, you and your partners.

better confront him that you can't be more than friends and he should understand that you really love your friend, if he really loves you, he should accept your decision. and of course you have a daughter. and he dont like your decision so, better avoid communicating to him i think. he might be the reason of break up with your fiance. happy mylotting!

I would not use an excuse but I would be honest because theres no consequence for that =D

Some people are just being stubborn and are thick faced. They don't understand the 'no' or refuse to the no for an answer. In your case there is nothing much you can do but try to avoid this guy at all cost as he might pose a great problem to your present relationship. Just ignore him. After being ignored for sometime he will get the good answer by himself.

Hy tlb! I don't think that you can be any more clear than you have been! What else can you possibly say to someone except that you are not interested in them! It doesn't make any sense. He knows that you are involved and so is he, so why doesn't he just get it? I would have to say that you need to either get it through to him or stop hanging out with him until he gets it though his head that you are serious about what you say! If you have already made it perfectly clear and you are sure that you have not given him any mixed signals then you have to just not deal with this guy at all. If you don't somewhere along the line it could end up being a problem for you. Be careful!

If I were in that situation I would tell that person straight out that I am not interested in any thing other then friendship. If they can't deal with just friendship I wouldn't worry about being friends with them anyway.

I agree with redhotpogo... This guy is a jerk. It's okay to be nice to nice people. Not this guy though.. You can sue him for harassing you. Obviously, this guy just wants to get in your pants. The only way to tell someone like this guy that you're not interested is to spell it out to him bluntly : "I'M NOT INTERESTED!"... Kick him in the nuts if you have to to get your point accross... If this guy is a friend, then you better think about your fiance.. If getting rid of a jerk-friend is worth keeping your fiance, then ditch this guy! Cheers...

I agree with patriciaqualls and redhotpogo... Be nice to nice people, but this guy you're talking about is a jerk.. The more you keep being "nice" to him would only male him come on to you even more. Much worst is that you may give him the wrong impression that you're just playing hard to get. Be blunt about it, the only way to say you're really not interested to someome is to spell it out correctly : "I'M NOT INTERESTED!" If he keeps on pushing himself, that's harrassment... He can go to jail for that you know... It's obvious that this guy just wants to get into your pants, so if that's not offending to you, then I don't know what is...

Be honest if he does not take any notice ,tell your fiance if he won't take any notice of you or threaten to.

You have to tel straightly about your desire because its your life.Go ahead tell clearly or you can just avoid seeing the person.Life is to live ,live it happily as your heart says.....Cheers

What I do when I'm ask is....shrugged my shoulder and said...I dont know! And it made the person think that I am not interested and go away. I do believe that if you dont don any effort that make them think you like them...they wont bother you anyway. but if they do see even the slightest opportunity... they will keep on.

You have to tell them straight out in plain english. If they think that there's even a slight chance they will continue to harass you. Don't worry about being a jerk. The person is a jerk for going after someone that is engaged. Tell them to haul @$$

This happened to me before and until now is happening on me. He is just a friend for me but he develops a feeling which is more than that. I honestly told him that I cannot reciprocate the feelings he have for me but he is still insisting on it. I don't know why he still continue courting me despite the fact that he knows that I love my boyfriend very much. As of now, I am just trying to distance myself from him and always pretend to be busy even if not in order for us not to talk much.I understand what you feel. Maybe, there are really people who is not that sensitive about such thing and no matter what we do, they still continue to insist their feelings even if we are not interested on what they are offering.