Have you eve been called a coward?
By rosdimy
@rosdimy (3926)
Malaysia
November 22, 2008 3:29am CST
Have you ever been called a coward by anyone? When I was growing up I always tried to avoid physical confrontation though I remember having to defend myself twice. Several people called me a coward. At the age of 13, I was called a hermaphrodite. I just looked at my friend, not showing any emotion. I was not accepted into the hockey club for this reason. The name calling stopped when I joined the school's rugby club. They looked at me in a different light when I became the main instructor of one Malay martial art school.
What about you? Were you ever called a coward/chicken/wimp/sissy/boneless or whatever term having a similar connotation? What was your usual reaction? What is the situation now?
Any response may be greatly appreciated, and may even help those currently facing the same problem/
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3 responses
@iamfine (740)
• China
22 Nov 08
It is common that sometimes when we meet something trouble that is not easy to tacke, we would behave depress, frustrate or being at a negative attitude temperately, but that doesn't mean that we are coward, everybody would come across some trouble and it is such touble that makes us stronger. So called coward may sometimes be stronger than anyone else, as long as he learn something to tacke his troubles.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
22 Nov 08
First, sorry to all for the typo in eve(r).
Maybe I was picked up because physically I was small. I started growing up after I reached puberty, around the age of 15. I had friends, but there were times I preferred to be alone. I liked reading books. In short, I was sort of a weirdo.
You are lucky not to be called a coward for certain reasons. You can be considered as open-minded for not calling others cowards.
Thank you for your response.
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
Anyone who called me that did not know me and would soon be rudely awakened from his daydream because I don't think I have ever backed away from any confrontation. These days I do not confront these conflicts with other people. I am more in conflict with myself when I have to choose a way to live my life. Sometimes we have to face our weaknesses and choose the brave way. Cheers!!
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 08
In my society you would be called the tiger which has its claws hidden. Jungle tigers tend to run away when they are surprised by something like a loud shout or a hit on the head with a stick. But do not think it is afraid. If it was a single shout the tiger would come back to see what caused it. Also never chase a running tiger unless we are well prepared. When cornered a tiger would turn back and fiercely defends itself. Do you fit this description? 
@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
22 Nov 08
This is a pretty good discussion and I am sure there are a lot of people out there who do not believe in violence or do not believe in using violence to solve a problem accept for a last resort,and I am sure they have been called a coward by different people in their lives,and I am sure out of those people there are some who do not care what people say,and let what they say go in one ear,and out the other without giving it so much as a second thought,and then I am sure out of those there are people who believe that they are cowards because people call them a coward and let it bother them and second guess themselves,or they have low self esteem because of what others say or think of them,and then I am sure there are people who think violence solves everything,and they are the first to turn to violence to solve their problems,so they have never been called a coward,but they probably call people who do not jump up to fight a coward so I am sure that both types of people run into each other and that is why people call others a coward,which turns into a never ending cycle,and that is cool when you were growing up you always tried to avoid physical confrontation,but you remember having to defend yourself twice,and that sucks that you were called a coward,and that you were called a hermaphrodite and I am glad that the name calling stopped and that gained the respect you deserved,when I was growing up I was always called all kinds of names that I did not like and they sometimes caused me to have a low self esteem and to think badly of myself which I know is bad,and I grew up avoid confrontation because my parents raised me better than that,and I always avoided fights because I did not want to get in trouble,and I am sure I have been called a coward several times and at first it used to bother me because I wondered if I was a coward,and then after I made my friends made me feel better about myself,and made me actually want to stand up for myself,I still avoided fights,but I did not let it bother me when I was called a coward,I have never had to defend myself,and hopefully I never will have to,but I think I could if I had to because when I am mad I do not know what all I can do,and now that I am with my fiance she has showed me that I am a good person,and that I am worth something,so I do not let what others say about me bother me,because they are just stupid,and I know if someone was trying to hurt my fiance,I would fight to protect her,because I love her with all my heart and soul,and I would never let anyone or anything hurt her.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 08
As they say it do not judge a book by its cover. Unfortunately that is the reality in real life. People judging others from external appearances. The weak types tend to move in groups, daring others when they were money, but scuttling off when they were alone. Maybe you have noticed people who call others cowards tend to be cowards themselves. They were bold because they were in a group. On a one-to-one confrontation with no one to support them they did not appear brave. I have found the truth in the saying "barking dogs do not (or rarely) bite". It is the silent types that are dangerous.
