Does everyone flee when you start to clean?
@highflyingxangel (9225)
United States
November 22, 2008 6:19pm CST
I'm not sure why but no one at my house seems to clean. This house is a pigstye most of the time and I think that's even putting it nicely. My mother is the worst one. She just refuses to do anything. One she thinks that because she works all week it's OK for her to sit around the house and do absolutely nothing but it's alright for everyone else to pick up after her. And, she refuses to do anything because she has this issue with my grandfather and she says she refuses to do anything for him. However I know it's just her excuse for being lazy.
I'm home for one week for Thanksgiving break, as I attend school the rest of the time and I haven't been home in about 6 six weeks, or at least that's what everyone has been telling me. So I've been cleaning up things today. I did my laundry and have been online awhile today, but I have done other things. I've wiped down tables, picked up things, thrown away things and finally cleaned up a few things in the living room even though I created another mess entirely but that's OK. I can and will clean that up sometime.
My mother busied herself doing other things that actually wasn't important at all. She seemed to miracously come back when I was finished. She doesn't want to be around me while I'm cleaning but she has to bother me the rest of the time while I'm doing things like Mylotting. Do the ones you live with tend to flee when you start cleaning? How do you solve that problem?
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@CJay77 (4438)
• Australia
23 Nov 08
Hi highflyingxangel! Its just me and my husband in the house and most of the time when I do cleaning his in the office. He does help me though, specially on the weekend, he likes to do cooking and sometimes wash the dishes as well. I normally do general cleaning when I'm alone so I can just enjoy and concentrate to what I'm doing. Thanks!
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@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Well at least your husband seems to actually help you around the house! He sounds like a dream really, because he likes to cook and doesn't mind washing the dishes on occasion. That kind of help would be nice.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Yep, Happens all the time. Or even if you mention about cleaning they seem to suddenly have other things that they gotta go do. It is the easiest way to clear a house for sure..lol You sound like me when i go to visit my moms house over night I spend the majority of the time cleaning while she sits and reads or talks about how it is everyone else's fault that that house is in shambles. But as I tell her even a little helps some but she only does dishes when they are alldirty most the time. I can say my step dad is a pig and he leaves or throws stuff everywhere and if it misses the trash it stays there. My mom has given up on trying to clean up after him she says. I figure we should put our foot down on some rules and make sure they are carried through and take pride in our homes and what they look like. And not make excuses for why it is dirty nothing more embarrassing then having a bunch of visitors pop up when your house is a mess. Rules is best if someone thinks your going to throw a major fit everytime they are nasty or leave a mess then they are sometimes less likely to leave that mess atleast that is true for some that aren't truly stubborn. Well, I wish you luck...
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
17 Jan 09
Thanks for the best response I really appreciate it alot.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
23 Nov 08
My fiance and I do. Flee that is, but it's not to get away while his mom cleans, it's to get out of the way. I'd be fine with cleaning, but i'm the type you have to tell to clean, if it's not my house, I don't touch.. you know what I mean? If it's my mom or grandparent's house, clean away, even at my fiance's great grandmother's house, I'll clean.. well the dishes, but here.. I just won't.. I will if I'm told though.
I like a clean house..
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@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
23 Nov 08
It is just me and my husband. When he starts cleaning, which is rare, I will get up and start doing something as well. I feel funny sitting doing nothing while he is trying to clean. When I start cleaning, he will say leave that I'll get it, but I know better and continue doing what I am doing. Oh yeah, he will move his feet so that I can vacuum where he is
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@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Oh that drives me crazy! I hate trying to clean and vacuum and no one will do anything except move their feet when you're pushing the vacuum. I'm not looking for that kind of help I want you to get off your butt and do something!
@Nadia818 (77)
• United States
23 Nov 08
My Gosh the cleaning subject. I have two little girls a dog and two roomates. I'm by almeans not a neat freak. But I sure enough do like to live in a clean uninfeted area. What I hate is when I do the dishes and then one of these damn men will cook of just get sumthin to east or drink thgen put their crap on the counter. It's like damn you couldnt wased then after you used then? It's like I have a house full of kids. And what is with the piss on the bathroom floor. Seriously how can u miss you get to aim it.
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@k1tten (2318)
• United States
23 Nov 08
My father seems to do that. He disappears but he does do a few things around here. He can clean a bit when he has to. My sister though pisses me off because she'll only clean her room and nothing else. I seem to forget I even have a room sometimes when I'm focusing on cleaning other things.
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@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
30 Nov 08
I don't like cleaning that much, but I actually prefer to be by myself in the house when I am cleaning. That way I don't have people looking over my shoulder, telling me what I should do next, or that I am doing something wrong; and also I am not getting in the way of the television for someone, or being too loud with the vaccuum while someone is on the phone. I feel like I get done much sooner if I don't have anyone around, so I rather be by myself when I am cleaning.
@AngelNicki (412)
• United States
23 Nov 08
I'm a little guilty of that because I'm a really disorganized person. I think I've gotten A LOT better since I've had the small children in my care. I try really hard to clean up after their messes, and to clean up after them a little bit. For instance I'm constantly getting on the 5-year-old to put away her toys, and I pick up after the 17-month-old (she does help, but obviously doesn't do that thorough of a job, being an infant and all!) I can make the house really clean. But if someone ELSE, such as my mom or my sister, is cleaning, I want to make myself scarce as quickly as possible. Why? Because they get REALLY CRABBY when they clean and start hollering at everyone, and if I try to help nothing is good enough.
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@mamaafrica9 (108)
• United States
23 Nov 08
I like a clean house and the people I am around does not. they may clean once a month to only last an hour and back to the filth. I am here shortly but it seem forever. If I say sometime can someone else wash the dishes they just look with an attitude and walk away. I buy all the cleaning stuff in the house, and do most of the clean other then there bedroom, which is scary. When they cook they actually expect me to clean it up and if I only clean after myself, there dishes will sit there for months. They can't see how nasty they are and don't want to hear anything you have to say about them or it gets worse. My mind hurts trying to figure out how the mind of a person will not clean and live in filth.
@gaylesglimpses (164)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Actually, I usually opt to throw everyone out when I start cleaning. My husband is no good when it comes to helping. He tries but he's just so clueless it's comical. My daughters are great and will help when they come home from school. I just like being able to plow through the mess and get it done without distractions. For me, it takes less time if everyone's out of the way.
My mom was like yours though. She never cleaned. Now that I'm older I can see that she was very overwhelmed and had no idea how to set priorities. That actually made me sad for her when I realized that.
@mandytaylor48 (374)
• United States
23 Nov 08
i agree i agree i agree , i am a clean freak and i can not stand anything out of place but when i do let it go for a day or 2 it seems like when i ask for help everyone all of a sudden disapearslike magic, but you know i would rather tham be out of my hair that way i can go it fater and know it is done right rather than them do it and i have to go back and redo it
