What reasons may cause people to be bitter in life?

It happens that past experiences have this type of effect on certain people. It's sad, and I do hope that your friend gets better, but sometimes nothing can really change them. It's sad, but unfortunately, sometimes that's just the way it is. All you can do is to be there for her.

ohh i hope your friend would be able to pass through her bitterness in life... it's so nice that you were on her side to brighten her days... just dont give up coz your friends need you. it's really hard for someone who's depressed and yet no one's around to be with her.

Yes it only takes a bad experience like that to make someone bitter but then one day it just may take a new person to come into het life and she will change, a friend of mine was like that and she never married and said she would never marry and I couldn't believe it when she rang me and told me she met a man and she got married at the age of 63...amazing, out of the darkness it just takes a little light to make you see...

Certain experiences in life can leave one bitter. For some being dumped is a hard thing to get over. It can be a trust issue.It is also a personal decision. She can decide not to try again. No one can make her choice for her. Or make her see things in a different light. That is all up to her.

I think she is wasting prescious time. It is easy for me to talk ofcourse, but there will always be negative things and it is how we react to a situation that makes us strong. If we choose to be bitter and back step awhile then that is exactly what it is-back stepping and wasing time. We haven't much of it in this life so it is good to buck up and move on. Counseling would probably help if she would go.

I think that many different kinds of experiences can make a person bitter. You can get bitter if your partner dumps you even though you sacrificed a lot for him, or if you get dumped for another woman like your friend. You can get bitter if you get hit by a drunk driver and end up in a wheelchair even though you never did anything illegal yourself. You can get bitter if you get seriously ill despite a very young age etc. I think bitterness is caused by a feeling that you didn't deserve the things that has happened to you. I have been bitter myself, and I think if is a pretty natural reaction in some situations. Avoiding bitterness alltogether isn't the most important thing, I think. The important thing is to be able to let go of that bitterness before it ruins your life. If you hold on to it, it'll hurt you.

I think there are lots of reasons that cause some people to be bitter in their life. Its not their life they are only affecting but also the lives of other people around them. Some people have experienced bad traumas in their younger years or either they were deprived of something in their life. The sad thing is that because of those experiences they were not able to enjoy their life to the fullest and they feel like there is something missing in their life that they could not fill in and because of that she wants also others to be like her that is why maybe she doesnt like people being happy around them. I think there are really people like this in real life and these people have already closed their minds and hears from being happy someday. Well im just happy that im not one of those people. :)

I feel sorry for her. I have a landlady before who had the same fate w/ your friend. She used to be a nice, warm person until one time her boyfriend left her for another woman w/o telling her anything. From that time she became mean and bitter and very inconsiderate. People who knew her told us that she was totally changed and that they never expected her to act like she did. It took her many years to find somebody (a guy 18 yrs her junior) to finally tie the knot w/. During their dating days I was so surprised w/ the changes I saw in her ( they happened to visit me at home one time). She was very happy, exciting and lively. She was a different person I used to know while I was still staying in her house years before. Love changes her. I have an "old maid" cousin whom I consider bitter and mean. Everybody in the family don't like her because of her attitude; perfectionist, meticulous and self righteous as well. She has a very stable job and seem to have evrything except a boyfriend. She's been in relatinship a couple of times but all failed. Most of the guy left her and that I guess is the reason of her bitterness in life. She feels very insecure most of the time and also jealous. There are a lot of instances that make a person bitter and mean but I guess most of the reason is the bitterness they had in themselves; the painful experience of failed relationships and betrayal causes them to have low self esteem and insecurity and being bitter is their defense mechanism to fight what they think is tearing them down.

I had a teacher in school who was left at the alter right before her wedding and she never got over it . They say somethings you just dont recover come, or in some cases you do and you always have guard up . You know life and what it throws at you can make a person bitter as well . Losing a parent, being made fun of, being poor,support a sick parent, being abused by someone . All these reasons and more can make a person . We all have a story Take care!

hey, i'm really so sorry to hear that.. poor her :( experiencing bad stuff usually stay on the subconscious mind for sometime and would never get away unless if the person himself wants too...well, i myself have been in such a situation before, but my situation is quite different from your friend as it deals with another way of betray. but i was able to move on although that situation comes to my mind quite often... so, try to be beside her these days to move on with her life.. keep on telling her that, she is able to move on if she herself wants to.. good luck, smiley

She really has been hurt. I think she needs to know that not everyone is like what she thinks. It is going to be tough convincing her also. She really needs to get over this. I read a few things about this and she needs to write a letter to her ex. She does not have to give him it of course, but she needs to let out all her anger.

When a woman grows to be bitter, it's usually because of something some man did to her. THEN men complain that women are so bitter and won't give them a chance!I was raised by a man who constantly complained about bitter women and that they wouldn't give him a chance, while at the same time, he screwed-up countless women and made them bitter. As far as your friend choosing to not enjoy life because some jerk worked her over, that's what she wants to do right now. If it's been a year or less, just let her do it. If it's been for 3 years or more, try getting her involved in something that will let her see the good in humanity (not necessarily the good in a man). She may get over it, she may not. The world is full of all types. Happy MyLotting!

I hope your friend will recover from bitter emotion .From your description,I think your friend is a perceptual girl,when she loves someone ,she may devote all her energy to this love.I think she only need time to forget the hurt the man brang to her .During the time ,I think she will realize that the man is not deserved her to feel bitter. As we know,misfortune may be an actual blessing.

They don't have God in their lives. And they don't appreciate other people who loves them. That is why they can't move on.

If the breakup was recnt (like within the last year or so) than I would say give her time...sometimes us women do go through the bitter side of things in order to get to the other side....but if it was over a year ago...well then she does need someone to bring this up to her. Because it is very unhealthy for her...especially if she used to be happy all the time. Just point out to her that he duped her once by breaking up with her for another girl....so don't let him dupe her again by ruining her life....he's the loser anyhow. Too many women (and men) allow crappy people to turn them into something they are not when the are long gone....

i don't think any of us have not had something happen in life that could have made us bitter if we had let it. bless her heart, she needs to let it go & get on with her life. that bitterness can eat her up. she needs to look around & see there is always somoen worse off than u are. i wish her luck in getting over this. it's past time.

hi, masmasika yup one bad experience can make a person really bitter. some recover quickly but the more stubborn ones either recover slow or run out of time. it is unfortunate that something like that happened to your friend. i think you should always be there for her and never give up encouraging her. and then, i guess, pray that she is just waiting for a man good enough to change her mind. have a nice day!