Where do broken hearts go?
By julia_cordk1
@julia_cordk1 (98)
Philippines
November 23, 2008 5:55am CST
I got a call from a friend today she ask if im not busy because she need someone to talk. Im busy actually but I felt through her voice she needed a friend and sounds she hurt.
I knocked her door, she opened me and look straight while crying.I ask her to get inside to talk and said " something wrong ? she didn't talk but continue crying and when she felt alright I talked to her and just to find out that her fiance was died from accident yesterday. I was shock! don't know what to say while she started crying again..Its the second time she cried like this since her 1st boyfriend left her and marry someone else. she thought this second guy is meant for her and that is why they plan on getting married next month of December. but too bad her fiance died. I knew how hard to feel this way but I keep beside her and listen her pain I have nothing to do except to comfort her..she is a good friend of mine and very honest never heard she betray me we close like a sister until now and whatever problem I have she is there for me and so I do to her.
Today I realized that she needed some friend who understand her and shade her broken heart.
because I knew how it felt of losing someone you love..only family or good friends and God that can shade our heartached.
Did you experience broken hearted? and where did you run first?
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10 responses
@zhengyu (61)
• China
23 Nov 08
sorry to hear that , hope she will break away from the sadness .
Although I haven't experienced the same accident to her , I experienced a heart broken , it's that my girl friend abandoned me , now , I have broken away from the shadow , I hope your friend will be fine soon .
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@julia_cordk1 (98)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
hi
thanks for comments, Im sure she will be fine and she must be strong this time infact she done it before been breaking but only different is this time is worst.
she can handle this problem just like she handle the first moment.
thank you again..
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@socizpub (14)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
i feel so sad for your friend, what she needs ryt now is a shoulder to cry on, please do take care of her... having such problem is not easy to overcome, as you'd said, it was his 2nd boyfriend and eventually they were planning to get married, but circumstances came along, and all of their plan was suddenly gone...
I'm hoping that she can move on... i pray for her...
@spike12_ph (254)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
That's so sad. All you can do is be there for your friend. I have friends who lost people they love and they open up to me about how they feel. Sometimes I really don't know what to say to them because I haven't experienced being in a relationship, I just usually hug my friends and let them feel that I'm always there for them anytime that they need me.
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@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
24 Nov 08
I felt sorry for your friend. It is really a disaster for her and hoping she can move on. Though it will be hard for her but she have to continue her life. Regarding with your question, when I was broken heart I felt that everything is just too unfair. But the first person or people I run to are my friends. They were the one who witnessed the burden I felt. They were they giving me comfort, guidance and help me to move on.
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@chiaeugene (2225)
• China
24 Nov 08
there are two ways i would go and this is my own experiences only. i had been to the seaside as it was quiet and i need some time to think and gather myself together and start afresh or to see if i can still savage the situation. second way is to get myself drunk to avoid the problems and i would hit the pub and disco with my buddies and leave the problem as it is and it would be over the next day and i would be alright
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@venz_punk44 (113)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
hellow good noon to you, well, i'd experience being a heartbroken, on that time i was lost and depressed from the awful truth, so i run to my very very close friend to talk, then i got drunk with my fried,,,,,,
have a nice day tell your friend that life goes on...
tell her too that don't be sad...
godbless you all...
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@manunulat (604)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
Living a life is not about experience eternal bliss, being happy with the people we love, nor share with the strangers we encounter each day... it's not all about that. We should realize that this world is a world of impermanence yet we should always see the good things in everyone and thank the Great Creator for giving us the opportunity to experience this wonderful journey, love and be loved. Hurt, be defeated and stand up to battle for victory again. I understand how your friend feel about that lost but in order for her to go through a grieving process, she must experience what she is going through, she must get over it, she must move on and let time take its course. Your role is to be an active listener, that's one great thing you did and the key for her to ventilate is to be a friend who could lift her spirits and help her move on with that stage. Happiness is not confided with solely for a man but happiness is vast that it is shared with everyone so priceless that it starts with a smile.
@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
i experienced it before and i just want to be alone at that time.when i accepted it then that's the time i can talk to my friends regarding that breakup without any anger, self pity and crying moments..
@mapuang (612)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
yes i experience heart broken, but instead of calling someone i just want to be alone rather than to cry to someone else. then when i move on, that is the time i talk to my friends about the breakups so that i dont feel that they are pity on me instead they happy on me coz i move on already
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@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
That was happened to me since when I was single. My first boyfriend married other woman. The whole world for that time was broken and I feel to get into ending my life. But that was nonsense my friend was told me. And because since that was happened I run to my best friend too and cried all day. That was my first but another time it was happened again and it was not much painful as like the first.
Anyway too hurt to be broken hearted and that was the feeling of no other thing to do but to cry all over. Time will heal and another love will knock again to our door. Do you agree?
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