love between age gap!
By julia_cordk1
@julia_cordk1 (98)
Philippines
November 23, 2008 9:44am CST
Do you believed that aged limit can stop relationship between two lovers? how does the effect of the relationship? and how can you treated someone or a lover who is older than you? because I am younger than my hubby and I don't care of our aged gap as long as we love each other.
what about you? how can you handle age gap? do you have a limitation for entering the relationship?
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24 responses
@Grace030174 (741)
• Qatar
24 Nov 08
i guess age doesnt matter in a relationship.
as long as they love, respect and trust each other;
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@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
24 Nov 08
People would discriminate you when you are younger than your husband or your wife. It is because they does not know what true love really is. There are things happening unexpected. I am 20 year younger than my husband. First, he was the one who really felt worried for both of us how will our marriage life work together. But if you are sincere for what you feel to each other things will work out totally fine. Adjustment is a need for each other also.
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@despompa (472)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
[i]my husband is also older than me. we have this 17 years gap, i am now 25 and he's 42. age gap is not a problem within us. it's not an issue either. we just enjoy each others company.
being in a relationship with someone doesn't have to have boundaries nor limitations. you just have to be yourself and enjoy the moment that you're with that person. as they say, "you can only pass that way once" so enjoy the time spent with that person. who knows and no one can really tell what's going to happen.[/i]
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@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
24 Nov 08
hey,
well, i don't think it is impossible as long as you guys are in love and do understand each other pretty well...
to me, my guy is only 6 years older than me, and we do have some habitual differences in between..
i believe that, relationship is not successful if it lacks respect, appreciation, understanding, and love...
smiley,
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@zalilame (880)
• Malaysia
24 Nov 08
I don't think age matters. I have 9 years old gap between me and my husband and we came from arranged marriage. We are happy now and we love each other. My mother and my father has 25 years old gap and they were called the love bird in back were I come from. They understand each other and support each other. I still think that my mother still remembered him even though he was gone. She always sleeps with my father's radio beside her. I just want to be like them. A true love till the end.
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@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
23 Nov 08
Well, of course there are exceptions and if you are already married and it's working you are one of them. It also depends on what age group you're talking about. It just seems to me that when you are similar in age you have more in common, you grew up in the same time period. Then there's the maturity level, although that deviates between people too, and this is where the age group comes in. A person who is 35 should probably should not have an 18 year old lover. But a 55 year old having a 37 year old lover dosn't seem as bad. I'm 51 and I would probably not want anyone younger than 35.
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@ericajoyce (1746)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
Hello julia_cordk1. For me there is no problem with the age gap between lovers. Just as long as you both love and respect one another then there is problem with that.
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@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
No matter what age are you and your partner. In love there is no limitations of what are you, who are you, and how does your age compare to your lover. Age doesn't matter. Well my husband is much older than me too and nothing strange happened so far. We are in equal position in many things inside the house and decision making. For as long as we love each other we still going on what we promised in front of the altar when we got married. We are now 18 years of marriage.
@maroseqf (3657)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
All of my past boyfriends were younger than me. My husband is 6 years younger than me. We just got married last January. I don't think age is a big issue between two people who are inlove. But others feel that there is a hidden agenda on the part of the younger partner if the age gap is like of a parent-and-child. Probably, what they could do is prove to the world that love conquers all.
@julia_cordk1 (98)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
Hello Everyone!!
Thanks a lot for this wonderful responses I do appreciate it. Now I knew that aged doesn't matter when it comes for love.
happy happy lotting!!
@cathya (704)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
There is no boundaries in love for as long as you are happy together and you by heart that you love each other then theres no problem with that.
It is not necessary that the older one should just for the younger one. As we all know that love is a give and take relationship, then there were instances that the older should give in with the younger or vice versa. It really depends on the situation the two of you deal with. What matters in this kind of relationship is patience and understanding. You should be patient to one one another in order for you to learn the things he gets into and adjust yourself for him. But of course it is not always you who should make an adjustments, as i have said there were instances that he should also adjust for you.
As for me, I don't put barriers when i enter in a relationship for as long as I know that the guy loves me and i love him too, i just go on and enjoy. You know it is not the people around us will decide for our happiness. It is only YOU who will know what's the best for you. Just go on and be happy.
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@tklich (391)
• United States
24 Nov 08
I don't think age matters between two people. There are 12 years difference between my husband and I, and we are very much so in love. My maturity level is high for my age, therefore I pretty much was required to marry someone that was older than I was in order to find someone I was compatable with. I know lots of people that are together that have several years age difference between them, then there are others that are very close in age. They are all very much so in love, and I think that's all that matters. It's different if someone is 14 or 16, and the other person is in their upper 20's or something, for one that's illegal. I think as long as both people are old enough to understand and know their true feelings, there's nothing wrong with it.
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@ankita_gosalia (106)
• India
23 Nov 08
No love is possible between two person of diffrent age but as i think that not possible for a long time..
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@donnieleong (5)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 08
i havent marrige yet. but i prefer someone who older than me rather the peers.because i always think that peers are too childish and lack of life experience which would help me know the meaning of life. for me the age is not the problem, the real problem lies in communication not just vovcall but mentallyif there is someone who make feel comfortable to be with, no matter what age he is ,younger or older than me, i dont care about it.
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@kambing92 (53)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 08
age doesn't matter in life.
but some of them will mind at it.
As long as you really love each other it doesn't matter.
And..
when a girl is older than their hubby I don't think so it matters?
As for me I maybe mind that if my bf is younger than me^^
It just depends on yourself.
As girls are earlier to mature,
so we don't need to worry much..
as long happy^^
@snoopie123 (79)
• Malaysia
24 Nov 08
As we all know, "love is blind". Relationship can absolutely continue even if the gap is far apart. There wouldn't be a problem if the girl is younger than the guy. But as for a guy who is so much younger than the women, people just can't keep their mouth shut. There will be lots of gossiping and bad-mouth going around.
My uncle is 10+ years older than his wife, it seems like there isn't any problem till now. So, I personally think that it wouldn't affect the relationship.
@Yori88 (1465)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
Age, as the saying goes does not matter when you are in love. It only matters if one or both parties are minor. There are a lot of couples now who have big age gaps but are still compatible with each other. I myself is 16 years younger than my husband but it doesn't mean that we have also a big difference when it comes to likes and wants. What matters is we love each other. Our relatives and friends have nothing against us and we are very much compatible. If a man seems like a grandfather to his girlfriend, then I think it's quite awkward but it is still okay as long as they are happy.
@Yori88 (1465)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
Age, as the saying goes does not matter when you are in love. It only matters if one or both parties are minor. There are a lot of couples now who have big age gaps but are still compatible with each other. I myself is 16 years younger than my husband but it doesn't mean that we have also a big difference when it comes to likes and wants. What matters is we love each other. Our relatives and friends have nothing against us and we are very much compatible. If a man seems like a grandfather to his girlfriend, then I think it's quite awkward but it is still okay as long as they are happy.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
24 Nov 08
Well, the sad part is (as one person has mentioned here already) the shorter TIME you have together, but it depends on how one understands time.I choose a short, but happy period filled with love rather than long one, but empty and boring with someone you don't want to be with.
You know, we won't stay young forever, but we can be in love forever.This life or another.In heaven or in hell.
I say it because I live with it in my heart.
@huyangsky (37)
• China
24 Nov 08
Well,I have been lived with my better half for 3 years. And I am older than my honey. It's no problem.I believed that nothing is impossible in the world. So,Money/power/ability/age/degree and so on,can't stop any people fall into the love river. As a common people, don't think too much beyond your affording,you will be happy and enjoy the life.