Would you marry someone whos family had a bad history of health ..

Health doesn't matter to me. I mean my partner right now has slightly deformed bones- his elbows and knees are slightly twisted. He also gets knee pains, and slight back plan every so often - not too bad though. Diabetes runs in my family- likewise with asthma, depression, and something about heart attacks haha. We're pretty much messed when we come to have children, they're going to be deformed with every disease in the book :P so... I'm sure we'll be fine though- there aren't much things in his history as there is mine. But then my side isn't particularly ill.

I guess I would I have been married twice and neither time was the family's health history discussed before the marriage

The problem with relationships is that you can never tell who you will fall for and consequently which family you will marry into.As a result this has no easy answer.The best you can hope for is to know before hand the family's medical history so you can make informed decisions.By informed decisions I mean whether to avoid the person in question (if you havent fallen already for them )or get a medical opinion to the chances of the condition being transmitted to your child. Lets face it we may not know someone's family history before hand.Its not like you meet someone and the first thing you say is what type of disease does your family have, but with more information you can at least brace yourself for certain possibilities. So my answer in summary is I would avoid persons with a bad medical family history if I am aware of that beforehand and I havent fallen for them.In the absence of this information and I have already fallen for the person ,then I do the next best thing which is to get a medical opinion on the chances of transmitting that diesease and then prepare myself for the outcomes.

I'd look at the risks and discuss them with my doctor. The possibility of a disabled child is serious but should be put into perspective. Only a doctor can do that. But you also need to know that healthy people have disabled children every day. Nothing is guaranteed. Diseases happen. Not everything is genetic. Also, perfectly healthy children (if you do have healthy children) have accidents. Kids fall from trees, have sports injuries and wind up in auto accidents. Sometimes they are disabled because of it. I'm not trying to jump down your throat. Please don't take this post that way. When you are considering marriage and having children there are tons of things to consider. I think you are wise to look at everything. Too many people don't.

I think I will stay with the man I really love. But sth I had to considered before,I don't want to have the baby .

its a difficult question..mmm if I knew that my partner had an history of bad health in the family I would probably would not have children of our own, no because i dont love him /she enough or else, its for the fact that i could never bare having an unhealthy child to come and live this poorly life of missery, why would you? its not their fault, now if u can avoid it, then its for the best, If your partner loves you and knows the pain that runs in the family, he/she will completely understand you. Now if I didnt know, then I would accept my child and care for him as long as I live, bacause our lives have wonderful purpuses now there i would of found mine.