Unplanned pregnancy

Personally I dont want any kids and would be taking precautions to avoid it. But, for the sake of argument, I would not let my boyfriend tell me how I should handle the situation. If he demands that I have an abortion regardless of how I feel about it, then clearly I've made a huge mistake in who I was sleeping with in the first place. Considering it's my body, and I'm the one carrying the baby, I will do what I feel is best, not what my boyfriend wants me to do. I may try to salvage the relationship if possible, but if his attitude does not change, then I won't hesitate to kick him to the curb.

[i]Hi ellie, Personally, i don't like to abort and I am not ready also to have kids so I have to be very careful but if ever I am in the situation, I will not see myself following my bf, I will try hard to find a great job and prepare for my baby![/i]

If I was in a serious relationship with a man he and I would be using contraception. If this failed and I got pregnant I would hope he would be understanding and supportive. I would explain to him that I would never ever have an abortion. I would say that although I respect other people's decisions I have a high moral ground. Having my own unborn baby killed is not something that I could do. I would be shocked and upset if my boyfriend asked me to have an abortion. I am sure my feeling of love towards my boyfriend would change and I would split up with him. I would keep my baby or if that wasn't possible I would have my baby adopted.

If I didn't want an abortion, I wouldn't have one. But when the baby is born I would have him sign away any rights, and thus any resposibility to pay child support. However, if I was planning an abortion and the guy asked me not to, I would have to consider THAT opinion.

first of all i would not be involved with someone who does not value human life the same way i do. a pregnant woman shouldn't be scared to take care of her child because it might "threaten the relationship" that is ridiculous. if i happened to be involved with someone and i got pregnant i would keep the baby. if he didn't want to be in my life then fine but he would def. be financially involved. i could care less about the relationship. a baby is a beautiful thing and a baby needs someone to look out for them.

Simple send him packing to be selfish somewhere else,you are right you do hear of this happening and the poor woman has to live for the rest of her life wondering if the baby would look like or what colour eyes her baby had it is bad enough having a miss carraige to be forced into that situation is not right in the least.Dump them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

this is really a serious question, it is necessary for couples to take some precautionary measure before something like happens, it is well said that Prevention is better than Cure thanks

When I got pregnant with my 4th child, my boyfriend did tell me that he did not want children and asked me to abort. I gave it much thought. I opted to keep the baby and told him that he did not have to be a part of our lives....i'd deal with it one way or another. He left and did come back before the baby was born and did want to be a part of our lives. It didn't work. I don't know as any blame can be placed here...we tried. He does not pay support and he is a part of our daughter's life but it is very minimal. I do wish he were more involved for the sake of our daughter. It is nothing I can force. He does see her for a couple of hours per month....that's about it.

Firt of all, creating a baby is a two way affair, where both are equally responsible. If for some reason, an unwanted pregnancy occures, and he tells me to abort, I would know he is not willing to take the resposibility of a new life so Id know the type of guy I was sleeping with, and that would deninitely affect my relationship with him. I would do what I thought best and not let him dictate terms to me. He can go and get himself stitched up if he is so scared.

Having been in this situation I can't say i was shocked when he asked it i knew our relationship was heading south and if i had my child i would be doing it alone. I understood why he'd asked he already had other kids and i don't think he wanted more. We were on and off up until a month or so until i had my daughter by then it was over for completely other reasons all together. I was relieved when it was over at least i knew who i could turn to for support and who i couldn't. It took him several years to come around and start visiting with her but I still don't trust him and probably never will.

Well it would be difficult for me to answer this considering that I do not get pregnant. I will just put myself on the side of the boyfriend. I will definitely notn tell my girlfriend to abort. No matter what. There is a life inside and that life should be cared for not destroyed.

Hi there! I will definitely be hurt and angry if he told me that he wants an abortion! No way! I will never abort my baby. If he doesn’t want to be a part of his baby’s life then I will raise it alone. I have family and friends who will surely accept and help me to get through this. I just couldn’t bare the fact that he would say something like that when we are both responsible that there is a baby coming. Fortunately, I am so lucky that he is not like that. I have been with that situation.. like false alarm… and he stood by me… I know he is responsible and wants to have a baby someday but of course, we need to be stable for our future but just incase, it will be unplanned pregnancy, I will not worry because he will be there for the baby and me! Hehehe Good luck! And Thanks for the discussion! Happy Mylotting and Happy Holidays! Cheers!

Abortion is an act of murder and am not a murderer. If you ask me how would I feel if my boyfriend suggests to have the baby aborted, my answer is NO and I would certainly changed my feelings toward him. W/ such suggestion alone, it entails cowardness, immaturity and irresponsibility and I'd never like to be w/ somebody like that. If he leaves, I'll raise the child myself or ask support from my relatives or family or in some institutions that caters unwed mothers. There are a lot of options to be made. Chosing my child over my boyfriend I guess is still the best way if he refuse to handle the responsibility.

in this situation i think both of u should think wisely before doing that think..abortion is not the best way to solve that problem..the best solution is use a protection before both of u doing the thing..

I would tell him it would be murder and I would not even consider it.

I would not hesitate to beat his @$$! Let some guy, boyfriend or not, try to tell me what to do with my own body. I'm not the 'yes sir' type, and I'm definitely not going to stand around and let him decide what he thinks I should do. I'm all for pro-choice, but I couldn't go through that myself, especially not because some guy didn't want to deal with a baby he helped make.

It depends if it is an opinion that I shared. I would firstly think of myself, by myself, and work out if I could give the baby a stable and happy upbringing and if I could afford it alone if it came to it and indeed if I actually wanted a baby at that stage of my life - after all it is my body that is going through all this change. If the answer was yes I did want one, I could manage and could do everything to give the child the best start then I would discuss my feelings with the boyfriend. If he felt he wanted an abortion to happen then I would tell him that I am not prepared to and that he should walk away have some space and think very carefully, Nobody knows how they are going to really feel. If he came back and hadn't changed his mind then I would urge him to not vontact me again. Of course he may feel different if he were to see the baby, but I would want him to stand by my side during the pregnancy and go through all the emotions right to the end, if he couldn't give me that after some space apart then I would be happier to do it alone. You have to be honest with eachother so the child does not suffer. I myself had an unplanned pregnancy and luckily both myself and my boyfriend fel the same that at that time in our lives we were no where near ready or grown up enough to care for a baby and it would have not been the best start for a baby or the best thing for our relationship. We discussed with his mum and she supported our decision of terminating the pregnancy. However a few years later when I was single again and thought I would never find true love again I began to regret the decision as I felt I would never have the chance again to be a mother. It took until I was 34 until I had my daughter with my husband and I am so releived as this was the best time for me to go through a pregnancy with the man I am going to spend the rest of my life with.

It is my body, not his, if he wanted to share in MY decision ,perhaps that would work. But, ultimately, I would make decisions based on my body, and yes, it would change my feelings towards him if he could not abide by my decisions

Hi, ellie. I came through the unplanned pregnancy, my husband and i did not expect the baby. But it did happen to us. I think i'm quite lucky that the scenario that you described did not realize on me. My husband wanted to keep the baby, i was too shocked for the unexpected pregnancy, and became very moody, i faced lots of pressures at that time - family, studies, friends. Fortunately, we got the support from our families in the end. :-) I still continue my studies now but will stop for 2 semesters for delivery and adapting the new life of getting new born baby. I think if my husband asked me to abort the baby in the beginning, i would really get hurt and probably break up with him in the end, even i didn't want to be pregnant. In my case, my husband has already had the financial fundamental, so it is ok for him to keep the baby. :-) I feel lucky for that. If you asked me whether i will abort the baby after breaking up, i really don't know about this. But i'm definitely sure my parents will demand me to abort.

If my boyfriend "demanded" me to have an abortion he would no longer be my boyfriend. If he wanted to talk about it, then fine, even though I would never have an abortion, but demand it? I'd tell him to hit the road!