My boyfriend give me money without asking me. What its mean?
By miamhae
@miamhae (339)
Philippines
November 24, 2008 1:05am CST
After my fiance and I we're been together for half day and the hardest time is saying goodbye. He call his service taxi to drive me home, because he can't able to drive me home its talk an Hour, for me its okey, but when he pay the taxi and the taxi drive give a change to him, he pointed on me to give the change. I couldn't speak because I'll almost cry when I let him go in my hand. Then he said to the driver of taxi "Take care of my wife" its make me happy but the money in my hand make me feel offend, its feel me that he pay for having spending time with him.
I didn't call him that day then when he call me in another day I told him that he hurt me for giving money without asking me. And he say Sorry...
Well I guess he didn't meant it to hurt me that's why I forgive him.
What do you think my co-mylotters, What I feel is right or I just too sensitive? Do you think there is more meaning for giving a money after we having a good time?
Thanks
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5 responses
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
Well I guess you just over reacted to his gesture of good will. The fact that he already called you his wife means that you just deserved to get the money already. I guess you don't need to judge so fast what your BF means by leaving you the change. It may just simply means that he cares for you and money was his way of showing he cares.
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
9 Dec 08
It's hard to make up an opinion on what he means with this gesture because I don't know your fiance. It depends on his behaviour on other occassions aswell. If he is generally very loving and giving, then I would say this case shouldn't be very different. I saw in another reply you said that your fiance was telling you that you needn't work because he can supply for you. Perhaps that was what he was trying to do? Take care of you financially, perhaps even spoil you a bit because he loves you. If he had given you roses, would you have been offended?
Perhaps he just saw it as a gift, like the roses would have been, and didn't realize it could offend you.
I think it's a very good thing that you keep these things discussable.
That way you know what the other thinks and you can work out misunderstandings or conflicts.
@MKBORA (80)
• India
24 Nov 08
hi miamhe.
in our country in villages it is a tradition to give money or something to the near and dear one when we are seperating.
may be your friend also think so.
and as you said that the situation was very emotional so may be his brain and heart were not in right place and this money matter happens without any intention.
don;t suspect any foul play, you both love each other and you should forget all this small things..
ok. take care and do one thing, keep that money safely with you always, and at times when you are alone somewhere, see that money...
you will feel everyhting afresh...
@hibiscus_mel (719)
• United States
24 Nov 08
I don't see anything wrong with that. I think he didn't try to insult you or anything. Maybe he trusted you. Don't be oversensitive with things. Good luck.
