Do you think that older people are wiser than younger people?
By rosdimy
@rosdimy (3926)
Malaysia
November 24, 2008 1:55am CST
When I was growing up I was told to listen to the elders in all aspects of life. The reason given was older people were wiser. Any further argument was brushed off with the saying that the elders tasted salt (life) earlier than the youngsters.
Even in my late teens I never accepted this as a general truth. I had met older people who were immature in thinking, narrow minded, and other characteristics which were inconsistent with behaviour of the wise. This is one reason why I never rejected outright the opinions of others younger than me.
Have you ever had difficulties in putting your points across when talking to older people? Have you met people who say they know better just because they are older? Do you agree to the opinion that old people are like wine, becoming better as they become older?
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24 responses
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
24 Nov 08
Many older people are wiser because of the experiences that they've had and learned life lessons from. Still, I understand what you are saying here. I also know many older people that seemed to have not learned much at all from their life experiences and I certainly would not go to them for advice on much of anything. Still others are very book smart but have lived such a sheltered life that there is no way that they could understand certain things. It all depends on the life they've led.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
25 Nov 08
Likewise, you should not be ashamed either. Your viewpoint is very realistic. I am in my 50's and I'm still always learning about different things. No matter how old I live to be, there will always be certain things that I could never ever relate to simply because I have not had the experience.
@venz_punk44 (113)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
i don't believe that oldest people are wiser than the youngest people, for me older is not matter to the wise people, people become wise because they're educated, they have lot of learned, many experience, or other,..
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 08
Wisdom is partly related to how we understand and utilise what we have learned or experienced. Among other things wisdom makes us more tolerant towards the viewpoints of other people. Unfortunately there are educated people who become more arrogant and look down on other people who do not share their views.
Thank you for your response, and we do not have to agree with each other to be friendly.
@ying_johnny (123)
• China
25 Nov 08
When I was still a child, I feel proud and often look down upon my parents as i often say and do what they don't want me to. But now, after I entered the society, I know clearly the distinguish between with them. I felt i am really a very foolish boy so I think older people are wiser more.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 08
Knowledge does not necessarily equates to wisdom. For example a wise person would not use his/her knowledge to create problems for other people. As for parents being full of wisdom, there are parents who are capable of teaching their children well, but treat their neighbours with contempt because the neighburs are poor. There are other examples which if given here may be taken as a personal attack. But the point they all show is knowledge and experience do not necessarily correlate with wisdom.
Than you for your response.
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@jordan04n (463)
• United States
25 Nov 08
Wisdom comes with age..what more is there to say...If you people posessed wisdom they wouldn't make so many stupid mistakes and lead such wreckless lives. It is Biblical and now with my increase in age I can say it is true. I believe in the written word not what such wise people tell me.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 08
I think the statement that wisdom comes with age has a general meaning. An older person may be wiser but only in things that he/she had experienced. This is not always the case because there are older people who have a lot of knowledge and experienced many things but fail to gain wisdom.
Thank you for your response.
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@morningstar369 (495)
• United States
25 Nov 08
Hi, I think it depends on how the person ages. Some get close to 50 and they seem to just give up, like they are waiting to die. Other people in their 80's are sharp and open to new things and try to understand whats going on. I am 63 and I like to discuss things with older people and I like to listen and understand what younger people are saying. I tye dye clothing and crochet hats, and make jewlery. I have great encounters with younger people and older people all in a day's work. I do not think that all older people are wise. Sometimes they get to a place where they just do not care. I have seen this happen with some of my Mom's friends. Unfortunately my Mom is in the beginning stges of Alzheimers and it is really hard for her and for me as well. So all these things have to be factored in. I have met some really young people that are wise beyond their years it seems. So it's an individual thing with young and old.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
24 Nov 08
this is not always true there are some intelligent. young people i have talked to some young people they are very smart you would not believe the things that come out the mouth of babes.wisdom don,t always come with age some people never really grow up.wisdom is power and power don,t alway be handle by responsible ones.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 08
Being smart does not mean we are wise though the arguments run along similar lines. It is also generally accepted that some people never learn from their experiences. Generally wise people do not seek power because they understand the responsibilities that come with power. Only the naive really believe they can make things change by having power.
Thank you for your response.
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
24 Nov 08
As a general rule, I have found that it is good to listen to those older than you. They have often gone through the same things you are experiencing, and they know what you should (or perhaps more importantly, what you should NOT) do in a lot of instances. Unfortunately, older often means more senile as well though, so you have to be careful about taking advice from SOME older people. However, I think your instincts will help you judge for yourself in most cases. In general, when taking advice from people, it is important to listen to people who are both better and worse off than you are. By listening to the ones who are worse off than you, you will learn what NOT to do...
This should not be made as a blanket statement, but in a lot of cases, the older people are wiser than the younger...
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
It could be true that there are people who become wiser as they grow old because the experiences they have had have taught them a lot. However, it does not necessarily mean all old ones are wise and wiser than young ones. I've seen a lot of older people who never really learn. But there are younger ones who definitely are very wise despite the young age. So I should say, it is a case to case basis.
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
24 Nov 08
Hello
Yes, I think that older people do know alot more and advice is ually really good , and they go on what they have been thru . When we are older we learn from our mistakes and we also open ourselves to a much bigger word. That is why the saying you learn from mistakes comes to mind . Hopefully , if you are lucky you learn young enough and can move on . If I only knew what I know now comes to mind now too .
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 08
I have to disagree with you on learning from our mistakes. There are people who never seem to learn from their mistakes. They also have excuses for the mistakes done. More often than not they blame other people for the mistakes and also for their woes. When they become older, they also think they are wiser than most. The only thing that we can learn from them is try not to have the same attitude.
Thank you for your response.
@medney1988 (560)
• United States
25 Nov 08
i think that everyone is different. i'd like to think that older people are wiser but that doesn't necessarily mean they are smarter. the reason we like to think they are wiser is because they have experienced more than younger people. some people dont always learn from their experiences. i think that being wise means learning from your mistakes and moving on. just because you've expereiced a lot in life it doesn't mean you're wiser you have to be able to walk away from all that a better person and take the positive and not the negative.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
24 Nov 08
I would partly agree with the saying that older people are to a certain extent wiser.but having said that they can be wise only in what has been their range of experience or exposure.Another thing i have noticed is that we may misjudge people easily, with showing some understanding, many people surprise us , by turning out to be quite different to what we expected them to be .
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
25 Nov 08
I don't know about that. It really depends. kids today are provided with tons of knowledge that was not available long ago. Being an adult doesn't mean you know everything. You are still learning about life even as an adult and sometimes the younger people can teach you things you would never think of.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 08
Kids today are provided with tons of knowledge that was not available long ago but they still need guidance so that they can utilise the knowledge properly. Kids are relatively good at using computers but without any form of guidance they tend to carry out unrecommended activities using computers and the Internet. Here is where the wisdom of the elders may help a lot.
Thank you for your response.
@Cerego (117)
• United States
24 Nov 08
I definately believe the saying, "with age comes wisdom", but not all older people are wise. I've met a lot of ignorant, immature, close minded older people. Not as many as I have younger people though. In general, I do believe we all grow wiser as we grow older, or at least thats the way it should be.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 08
It is true that we should grow wiser as we grow older. Unfortunately many of us prefer remaining in our shells instead of opening our eyes to the vast horizon beyond our surroundings. In Malay people like these are said to be similar to the frog that has been living all his/her life under a coconut shell.
Thank you for your response.
@timou87 (1638)
• Singapore
24 Nov 08
i dont think anyone can deny the fact that the older one gets, the more life experiences one goes through. however, the fact that one goes through so many experiences may cause one to believe that their way is the only right way, and this seals them off from considering other possibilities. in this sense, it could lead to older folk being more conservative and narrow-minded in their thinking. but i beleive that if people maintain an open mindset, they will have a lot to offer to the younger generation in terms of wisdom and knowledge.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 08
Each person goes through different experiences in life. As I have always said the area of experience determines to a certain extent the wisdom gained It is easy to quote examples in this modern world, particularly with regard to understanding other cultures and religions with an open mind.
Thank you for your response.
@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
24 Nov 08
Yes and no. Older people have more life experiences and they've seen the economy grow over their years. However I have had some difficulties putting my point across to my elders, not because they're dumb but because things are different now and they might not be 100% up to date with the language I use, or the references I use. I've met lots of people who say they know better 'cause their older and I always argue that they don't, just because they've experienced things from the past, doesn't mean they're experienced in the woods, y'know?
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 08
Yes, I understand you. They may have taken only a few steps into the woods whereas a youngster might has explored deep inside in a short time. But the youngster should remember that in hastily moving deeper into the woods, he/she may not notice the surroundings in details.
Thank you for your response.
@unusualsuspect (2602)
• United States
24 Nov 08
Getting older doesn't necessarily make you wiser, and experience doesn't either. What about all the older people who get scammed out of thousands of dollars, or who give advice to younger ones, based on experiences that have nothing to do with the way the world is today. I'm over 70, and I can say that I meet just as many stupid, ignorant fools among older people as I do among the young. If you're a stupid person to begin with (and I'm not talking about IQ), then you're probably going to stay that way all your life. I've read amazingly mature and sensible writing on the web that turned out to be by teenagers, and completely ignorant, and bigoted stuff by people who should know better. Some people don't learn anything by their experiences, they just have them and move on.
@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
24 Nov 08
I would probably say so by the very fact that they have lived longer in years! They have had to deal with life's problems for a lot longer too! I guess there's a lot that can be learnt from the older generation! I take a few tips every now and then from an elderly friend. I must admit that there's the occasional veteran that it would be absolutely impossible to communicate with, I guess on this occasion it would be best to go your separate ways! Andrew
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 08
There are s few things the younger generation can learn from older people but not all of them can be relied on at all times. After a certain age old people start to lose their memories and the wisdom they imparted may no longer be relevant.
Thank you for your response.
@eyes4u (6)
• Canada
24 Nov 08
I think older people are wiser because they are far more experienced then youngsters. They have lived their life and know what's best in some aspects. I am not saying that they are wiser in everything, I just think they have the most advantage than teens. I also think some of them are narrow minded or immature in thinking because that's the way they are brought up. To me listening to their advice is good, it is showing respect. However, I am not saying to follow what they are saying. Keep in mind the advices they give, but make your own choices because you are the one who is going to live with the choices you made in the long run.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 08
Listening to other people's advice does not mean we have to follow the suggestions given. At the very list it gives us an opportunity to share viewpoints based on our perceptions. There are many adults who are immature and narrow minded and accuse youngsters of being stubborn brats. In reality their narrow mindedness prevents them from listening to other viewpoints.
Thank you for your response.