I feel so bad...

Here you are a wonderful Mother. That is number one. My son cried for three day's straight. Then he would stop and take a nap to start all over again. that went on for two months. There was nothing wrong with him. Thank God for Grandma's as I was going on no sleep. My Mother took my son and told me to go to bed. I told her that I could take care of my baby she told me you can't take care of you let alone him. You need sleep and I'm your Mother goodnight. She was right. I slept for over 24 hours. Here is the thing do you work? Do you clean the house take care of the baby and your Husband? Take the baby to your Mom or his Mom's and go to sleep. The fact that you yelled at him. Here so. He won't remember. Tell your husband to take him and leave you alone for once if he can. You my young friend just need sleep. You both have been though a big thing him coming into this world and you having to bring him into the world. Sometimes it takes a couple of months for a Mother to get her mind back. It will be OK. have a nice day. And don't be so hard on your self.

Hello Maroseqf,you dont have to feel bad about it....You must have been tired without proper sleep and has vented out your feelings on the child.But I must admit,you were a little hasty about it,since the baby is too small to understand your scolding.........Perhaps you should wait patiently a bit till the baby is older,because then mother and son will have all the time in the world to fight and to make up....he..he....

You look really young to be a mother, maroseqf. Your husband is right, patience is a virtue. And you should keep it that way, when it comes to your baby. Babies cry because they need something - they need food or milk to drink, they feel like they want to pee or poop, or they want you to carry them or just hug them because they feel cold. As a mther I think you need to be more sensitive to your child's needs. I know you can do more than that, as long as its for your child, you'd do anything.

I'm afraid that it will harm her mental later ... but just forget it, i think you must spend a lot of time with her, so she doesn't remember what you already did before, and will know you as a good mother not as scary mother, it will gives her time to know you better, i hope you keep your promise and just remember in mind that she is a baby, so you will have patience for her ... And i hopes everything will be allright Just be patience

ohhh dont be sad about it!!i know you didnt meanit, its just that maybe youre tired and lots of thoughts in your mind and he keeps on crying!!many incedents like that happen i even remember my sister screaming because she was up all night because the her baby didnt sleep and when it was morning and still the baby is not sleeping she was really angry, maybe she was really tireed and sleepy already so tht would be an excuse, just dont do it that often,lol

i think you do should have more patience,because he is so little so he don't know you are sleepy.but take ie easy ,he would forget it soon. but i think your husband should help you to look after your baby if you feel bad.

i guess i had experience that too..and felt guilty afterwards.. babies are still innocent and need our touch and hugs ..but sometimes we forget about it..the thing is we recognize our lapses and amenable not to do it again..

[i]Hi rose, we are only human being and I understand how you feel but at east you've realized that he is just a baby and he can't tell you whatever he needs or feels...So, maybe you just need to sing when you felt like shouting! and dance with him! [/i]

Don't feel guilty, I expect many parents have done this including me more than once. Babies are hard work, and after pregnancy when our bodies are still recovering we do not get the rest we need because we have to look after our baby. My children were awful as babies all they seemed to do was cry and cry and there seemed no escape. My daughter used to do it to the point where I just felt so frustrated, angry and useless that I wanted to leave. What I had to do to stop me shouting at her was put her upstairs in her bedroom and leave her to cry while I calmed down. I had a monitor and every ten minutes I would turn it up to see what she was doing and then once I had calmed down I would go up to her and pick her up. She would pick up on how I was feeling so if she knew I was upset she would cry all the more but once I had calmed down she would be fine.

I read from your other responses that you just got married and your baby is just a few weeks old? am I right? shouting is intangible to a baby who is less than a month old. Maybe he will be surprised(gulat is more appropriate in tagalog=but surprise is the nearest equivalent, I presume).,but your shouting wouldnt mean anything so it is useless to shout...yes, you said it yourself...you shouted at an innocent infant...the next time it happens, the crying I mean...find out why...babies cry only because that is their language to get to their parents...check out right away the cause of the crying.give yourself time too. find time to relax...and unwind.good luck

it's normal to be irritated especially when you're very tired and/or sleepy... the good thing is that you realize what you've done is not good and what you may do is make up for your little angel... :)

sorry, i put my response somewhere else, i guess. i just wanted you to know, it's ok. you are not a bad mom!! we have all been there. i believe this is why we don't remember our infancies, this and vaccines ;) so tramatic for a baby (vaccines, i mean). anyway, if he has been fed and changed and you know there is nothing wrong with him, it's ok to just let him cry in his crib. try and go somewhere in the house where he's not so loud and just do something for yourself. give yourself a chance to calm down yourself and then go to him. if you are calmer , he will be too! this is probably the most frustrating time with a baby this young, because he has no verbal skills other than crying. it will get better, i promise!! don't be too hard on yourself, you are probably doing nothing wrong!!!

I think you didn't know your son's need . you should more try to find out what he need . also you don't have to feel you are guilty. According to my experience, that's not a big problem and I guess most of parents do something like that. Don't worry but Please little more effort.

Don't beat yourself up. we all lose patience once in awhile. I am a mother of two boys they are 16 nd 19 now, my 19 year old was colocy and cried all the time, I learned that when I couldn't get him to stop crying I would lay him in his crib and walk away for a couple of minutes then would go back to him after I calmed down. Now I am raising my 4 month old grandson and I have realized I have even less patience now so really have to walk away for a few minutes, when he is crying. The older you are the less patience you have. so don't beat yourself up it happens to everyone.

Don't be to hard on yourself. But try not to yell at the baby again. He is to young to undertsnad what yelling is. When babies are that young they cry for a reason. As they can't talk or communicate any other way yet. I know it can be hard. I have three kids myself. babies a month old will cry when they are hungry..babies eat about every 3 to 4 hours. Some eat even sooner. It is like clock work, or the baby needs a diaper change, its little tummy could be upset because he needs to burp. Or it could be as simple as the baby wanting to be held and coddle close to you. babies that little like to hear their mothers heart beat. It smoothes them and eases their fears. Hint : No amount of yelling will make crying stop. It will however make the crying get louder and longer. As yelling scares a baby. So yelling si never a good thinga at baby so young. You surely don't want to hurt the little ones ear drums and affect his hearing , do you?

I am guilty of this too. There are times when I'm really tired and sleepy and my baby just wouldn't stop crying or would want to watch cartoons as early as 4am when she wakes up. Sometimes I lose my patience and shout but feel guilty later. I try my best to make it up to her but I know it's not enough because I should not even have shouted at her in the first place. I realize now that motherhood is really something that demands not just time but a lot of effort, patience, understanding, wisdom, etc., etc., etc...

This also means that you're under some tension, I guess. Anytime I'm under tension I tend to lose control. No need to feel guilty. Besides, you're human and this will happen again, that's for sure. Stop feeling guilty and go hug your angel.

poor baby.. be more patient, girl..=) i know your exhausted and all but don't be harsh on your baby as he/she doesn't know what he/she's doing.. if you can't attend to his/her needs then ask your hubby to check what the baby needs..

hello maroseqf, your baby is not even a month old yet and you are shouting at him. he is crying for a reason. maybe he is hungry, or maybe he needed to be changed, maybe he is not feeling well or maybe he just wanted to be picked up. next time try to be more patient with your son. like i told you before you should sleep when he sleep to get better rest. i have five kids. so i know what you are coming from. take care.

Poor baby. Well, I know you didn't mean to shout at him because, you probably were too mentally and physically exhausted yesterday. But if you do it again, I suggest that you quit your other online jobs and just focus on your baby and mylot! LOL!!! Kidding aside, try to see if your baby's wet, hungry or too full that he needs to burp, or if he feels too cold. Crying is their only way of communicating so it's up to you to figure out what he is trying to tell you, ok?