Is there something wrong?

Six months in? Gosh. Sounds like if you are already having trust issues, he needs to stop being so shady. My boyfriend goes through my phone while I'm sleeping because he has trust issues... But I have nothing to hide. The most constructive thing I can advise is to confront but don't 'attack' him... You don't want to have a huge arguement.

i think you'd better not read his SMS secretly,even if he lies to you.because thus he will dislike you,after all everyone have some secret.maybe he lies to you just because of your suspicion. but if you make sure that he have done something wrong i think you should have a talk with him to slove the problem.

When you are ready it's time for a serious sit down, just remember what is at stake this may end the relationship. On the other hand it may improve it. But truth is necessary in every one's life.

I think you have every right to be concerned! If a man has nothing to hide, he has nothing to hide. You are being betrayed by being treated that you're not worth being a part of his social life, or whatever it is he is trying to hide from you. I don't think you should deny that you're being treated unfairly. I wish you the best, but do not let this man continue to be like this! You know you have every right to know what is going on with him. It's not as though you're being unreasonably nosy. I think you should have a good, long talk with him, but some men just aren't worth trusting. I really hope you the best, but you know what you must do!

Pray changes thing and secondly, you can't keep anyone that does not want to be kept. Sit down an evaluate why you felt the need to marry this guy. Women are emotional and MOST men are physical. Many times, we can be in love all by ourselves. We pretend in front of others in fear of what they may think. If he being deceitful and lying 6 months into the marriage you will be a nervous wreck within a year, if you are not already. Please don't tell you married him because you have children with him. The children suffer more than we do. Your husband characteristic is what you children will seek in their future companion. You are not jealous, but don't let it absorb your spirit. A man can't do a woman wrong unless she allows him. Maya Angelou (The poet) says; If someone shows you who you are "BELIEVE THEM!" I am telling you what I know. Some call cheating men "Dogs", think about this, they can't be dogs. You know why? Dogs are LOYAL to the person who shows them love and affection. To pick your spirits up, check out "This Christmas" it's on DVD. Starring Delroy Lido, Loretta Devine, Regina King and Chris Brown. It's a great lesson to learn in this movie and it's funny. Regina King character is the woman of women, I gave five stars and a stand ovation. Let know how you liked the movie. Matter of fact it's on HBO or Starz Channel this month, it might be ON DEMAND. YOU SEE THE HAND WRITING ON THE WALL, NOW READ THE MESSAGE. Keep your head up. The greatest love of all is inside of you. check out my website www.withinthebox.org You will learn more about my life. email if you need me. Have a happy holiday!

i understand where you are coming from for i have learned a lot in my previous and present relationships...this is a personal and sensitive issue and since you're posting it publicly, you will be getting several advices...some might work, some will make sense and some wont, some you might not even want to hear...so just brace yourself and weight your options...first of all, it's too early in your marriage to be having these problems...how long have you known him and has he been like this since? if you've been together for a while now and this is something new, then i think he definitely is not being honest with you. he may be hiding something from you bacause his behaviour is simply not usual...also--lying is not right no matter how you try to justify it...have you tried talking to him about this? you may want to ask a common friend or relative whom you both look up to, to act as a mediator when you talk about this so that somebody can shed some light for both of you...i've been in this situation and my sinstincts were right...after this behavious, i found out my husband was cheating on me...i do not want to scare you any more than you already are...the best thing to do is communicate your thoughts and feelings...i am sure you will find the answers you're looking for. more importantly---pray...ask for His guidance and nothing will go wrong...goodluck!!

I would say that there is something wrong. I would also say that he may be having issues of finding it hard to have to answer to someone every move he makes. I definitely would not let my guard down. I would also have a talk with him and find out what he has to say. It really does not sound good.

I think what the pair of you shoulddo, is sit down and talk about both your trust issues. This is not only your hubby... it's you too. You don't trust him and it seems as though you read things into his actions, when maybe there is nothing to worry about. Sure... he could be cheating, or lying to you, but can you prove that? What I think you need to do is make him aware of your concerns without making a big fuss about it. Just ask him if you can talk about things with him and do it quietly and in a caring manner. Don't show any jealousy or great mistrust of him, or he'll be away faster than he came! After all, a mobile phone is a personal thing, and I don't blame him for not wanting you to read all his messages. I'm sure you would feel the same way if he read all yours. I save some of my messages, but you have to delete some because otherwise your message bank fills up and no further messages can get in. As for telling you he was going one place and ending up in another... consider this... could it have been that he received a sudden message requesting him to be at another place. Does he use his phone for business, or could a friend have been in trouble, that he detoured? You need to think rationally about all this. I'm not taking sides, but I also think it shows mistrust to be invading even your other half's space all the time. They need a bit of freedom, whether you're married or not. Therefore, I would advise that you do sit down and talk this through with him. Make sure your thoughts are correct, or if they're incorrect, you have to accept the fact, and loosen the reins a bit. As for the don'ts... definitely don't accuse without being really aware of the truth, and don't hold him so tight to you. He needs other friends, as, I am sure, do you. Brightest Blessings and good luck with your findings. Think positively and weigh up the good against the not so good. It works!

If you were checking his messages and emails and not finding anything wrong, I'd say you were being overly jealous. But if you are catching him in lies - yeah there is a problem and it's not you. You need to confront him with this stuff. If he won't knock it off then the relationship is not salvageable. You may have to consider counseling to figure out why he thinks this kind of behaviour is acceptable.

yes, there is.. you know, if your hubby isn't guilty of anything, he would let you see his mobile phone.. it's time that you talk with your hubby about it.. or make an investigation.. check his mobile phone while he's sleeping, things like that.. but be careful.. don't let him catch you.. my hubby and i are very open to each other, i mean we share stuffs, share secrets, share everything we have.. good luck..

How can a liar be trusted? Something smells fishy here, big time!

I know someone that is exactly like that! THANK GOD I am over him!! The reason he never let me see his phone and erased all the messages as soon as he got them was because they were from other girls ( usually sexually talking). He always said he was going to go get a movie from the movie store but would end up going to some girls house and screw her then run to the movies and grab a movie or he would come home and say I couldn't find anything good. Um ok your gone that long and found nothing.... Unless he is any different I would definitly say he is screwing someone else!! No doubts about it. I truely hope I am wrong in your case considering you just got married, but who knows...only him. You need to talk to him. Explain to him you two are married now there should be NO secrets. Tell him you feel he is cheating on you and tell him why you think that. If he isn't willing to work with you then there is something definitly wrong.

Your husband - as you have admitted - is a perpetual liar. Generally, I keep away from such liars - I despise them; I hate them! And I don't believe them even when they are speaking the truth!!He - your husband - is doing everything to harm you ... Please do not get caught in whatever he does or asks you to do or he says. While I am not suggesting or advising a seperation - the decision is up to you only; because you are married to him and his 'lies' may affect you psychologically - what to do with him is completely up to you only! No one in this world, either someone else or me, can do anything to solve this problem for you. But before you take the next step, ask the Almighty what you should do? The answer may or will not be forthcoming immediately; but it will rest all your present fears.

i think your hubby is jealous,not because he wants to protect you but he is scared that you may be playing the same game that he is playing.if he really loves you , he should not lie to you.secondly a lasting relation is built on trust ,so if he cannot trust you ,then your marriage is going to crash soonesst

I think this is a heads up for you. If this has been going on for a long time, there is a problem somewhere. Your situation sounds a lot like my best friends situation. Her husband has been lying to her for the past four years. He would disappear for hours at a stretch with out letting her know where he was, he would get calls that would hang up if she answered. Then he would be staying out over night and then telling her lies about where he was. It just finally came out that he was fooling around on her, and had been for quite awhile! It has blown the marriage apart, and now the only thing that my friend needs is the income to take care of herself. Start adding up the pieces, and prepare yourself for anything that might happen. It isn't jealousy it is opening your eyes to the fact that there may be a problem. I hope it isn't a "he's got a girl friend" issue, that maybe it's an extra special surprise for Christmas factor. I just have a sick feeling that it is the former--especially since you've been married such a short time. Just keep your eyes open, and tell him that if he can check out your cell phone you should have the right to check out his!

[b]He's cheating on you. His signals are deafeningly clear. Sorry to be so brutally blunt, but I've just seen too many spouses go into denial & get badly hurt ... so I'm asking you, why do that to yourself? Do the following: Document as much as possible, see a lawyer with the evidence, file for divorce, then confront him. Tell him he either goes with you to a marriage counselor & tries hard (with you working just as hard!) to salvage the marriage, or you'll divorce him. Even if he agrees & begins marriage counseling, he must earn your trust all over again. BTW, when he's asleep would be a good time to view his cell phone. Take down the names & numbers; they'll come in handy in court. Maggiepie[/b]

In marriage the couple take a sacred wow never to betray each other and to trust each other completely.Where there is complete trust there is love and only love can make the marriage successful. Now i suggest that you try this. Cook his favourite dishes, look presentable when he comes back from work,ignore the messages that come to him on his phone and show to him that you are least interested in who calls him.Don`t ask him where he is going and why he is late or anything of that sort.Now start living your life,go out with your friends and have a good time. slowly make him realise that you are an independant person yourself.If he gets angry then very nicely and gently remind him of his behaviour to you and try and make him understand where he has gone wrong. If he refuses to change then just pack your clothes and go to your parent`s house. If he genuinely loves you then he will try to make up and change and if he doesn`t then go to a marriage counseller along with him. If he still behaves the same then....i am sorry but it is better to exit from such a marriage rather than spoil your whole life living with mistrust, quarrels and misery.

In most cases, what we think is actually worse than what really is. Talk to your husband. You will get through these issues if you communicate! Good luck!

sometimes women are just too sensitive, but it is good to awere of something in advance. My parents also have experienced such a period, and i know the most efficient solution is to be frank. You can arrange a special night. prepare a rich dinner and be kind to him, say something through dinner to let him know YOU TRUST HIM. sleeping time is the best time to mention something you are worried recently, and ask for his advice through which you may know a lot about his feelings. And you may also ask him what you could do to be a good wife he likes. i think we women sometimes should sacrifice a little of our dignity before the person we love. Hope this will do a little help to you.Bless~~~~

Hello my dear raynejasper Ji, I think there is nothing wrong, everyone has their own habits and one must respect oythers habit. I know your feelings very well that a tranperency would be helpful between you both. But if he does not want , then bear it whoe-heartedly, after you do not show any interset, I am sure one day, he will open out to you have great time.