Love life or career? Difficuilt question for married one to decide upon..
By deepti15
@deepti15 (1190)
India
November 25, 2008 12:19am CST
When I asked same question to my sister in law she said, "If your love life is strong, then it will survive a career move. Career opportunities can come and go, but a good relationship is hard to replace. A real mutually supporting relationship is a beautiful thing. I would be hesitant to drop it for something as mundane as a happy well-compensated career. How ever your significant other should be supportive of your career move if h/ or s is putting you in a position where you have to make a choice, maybe your relationship is not as happy as you indicate."
and my sister said, "Will he go with you? You have to weigh, do you make more money or does he? Are you content with the amount you make now? Will you always look back and say,WHAT IF? How long have you been together? Has there been talk of marriage? If you have been together over a year and there has been no talk of marriage and he hasn't talked about following you..... I think I would go with career. Maybe he isn't the one for you and you will meet the one when you move to your new job. Then you have to ask yourself, will this job demand more of you than you are willing to give up. What if you want a family with kids. Will this new job allow you to have that? These are all things you will need to think about. there is no "easy" way. But ultimately the decision is yours. Once you have weighed the pros and cons, then decide, but do not make impulse decisions."
What would u say??
6 responses
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
25 Nov 08
these are all important question and I believe a person can only answer them when you are actually in that situation.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
25 Nov 08
I think it is a tough ask. Still if the partner is supportive, then career can go along way. plus it is also not very good for any partner to be very much career minded. But both are equally important. It can't be a pretext that women should leave career and job.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
25 Nov 08
There is much to be said on this matter but at the same time it depends on one's own experiences and situations in life.
As far as how i understand it, if there is true and a strong love then a solution is found very easily. Your decision making should be easy ,because of the understanding you have with your partner and also because you know what are your priorities.
@pkc3000 (1266)
• India
25 Nov 08
Hello deepti15 I have gone through your topic and really it is very tough question to give fruitful answer. In my opinion in the present scenario most of the women are career minded and for their career they can compromise and can go to any extreme. They want to self dependent. Earlier due to pressure of their parent they were forced to marry without any option but nowadays the scenario has been completely changed. Due to advancement in the society if both bride-grooms are employed they can maintain their family life harmoniously and peacefully. Women in the present days prefer their career in comparison to marriage and I think it is wise decision . Keeping in view the legal matrimonial dispute I think women should concentrate their career first. It is my personal view I may be wrong. If anybody differes with my views pl share /
pkc3000
@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
Hi deepti15.. A realistic dilemma that most women are facing at present. Your sister gave a good points and advice though sometimes when one faced in the situation its quiet different on how one dealt it. I would say before you decide to enter into marriage, one should assess not only your partner's financial stability but yours as well. I always have this personal disposition that if a woman is financially stable she can get through everything in marriage especially when a marriage will reach a point of separation.
