Sometimes it is so hard to make decisions~~~~

I have to make a decision as well. It is very hard but i feel i have to do what is right for me. What will help me and make me happy. Thats all there is to it.

PRAY ABOUT IT and talk to your friends too. It's always helpful to hear another person's point of voew

Hi Marcie Darlin, I pray about it, then follow my heart. If its a problem that I can't seem to figure out, I just hand it over to God and ask him to take care of it. I do have a special friend that I will talk things over with, she helps me out alot. I always feel better after talking to her. Good luck Marcie, I hope it all turns out ok for you.

By the nature of the word 'decision', it means you have several choices. Therefore I would break down the process and make a list of the good and bad points for each possibility. Then 'weight' those points on a 1 to 10 basis and add up the results. The biggest problem you will have is trying to be completely honest with yourself when deciding how many points to award each pro and con.

I do not really have anyone to talk to about things like that so I tend to have to make decisions for myself. I tend to mull it over for quite a while before I come up with my decision because I hate making decisions and find it one of the hardest things to do sometimes so I definately take my time over that sort of thing.

hmm, i think this is not easy, i mean i really can't make decisions , like whenever i do have to make one there are many alternatives for that particular decision and i have to chhose one from them , the good for me..... well yes do pray to God ask him to show you the right one and you will sure find the right one...

hi,dear,i was really wondering about your whereabouts.glad to hear you are fine. i dont exactly remember but i had to take many decisions.one of them was to choose my lifepartner.i really had to pray at that time for guidance as all the choices in front of me was good.today i am happy,HE helped me make the right choice.my life is not exactly a bed of roses but he has been really good for me.

Both praying and going to friends are good options. Praying calms your mind and helps you to analyse the situation better. Also praying sometimes makes you more kind, less selfish and more forgiving…this may also have a positive impact on your mind. Friends are good, as I said, but you must know your friend properly before seeking any advice. Some ‘friends’ take advantages of situations and should be avoided. However, if you have known this friend for a long time and are confident of his/her good intentions, you can go to them.

Whatever you decide it has to be something that you are entirely comfortable with because you are the one who has to live with the decision. Firstly get a piece of paper and write down all the pros and cons so you can look at clearly. You can of course seek advice from family and/or friends but listen to their reasoning on what you should or should not do whatever it is. If they have thought of something that you had not, add those extras to the pros and cons. Then leave the list for a day and check it again when you are fresh, i.e. not tired or stressed. If you make a decision when you are tired, chances are that you will not think the issues through clearly. By all means you should pray for guidance if you believe that will help you make the right decision. Once you have made your decision, stick with it and do all you possibly can to make sure that things work out as you want them to. Good luck with your decision and hopefully it will lead to much happiness for you.

I pray about hard decisions but I also make lists. The pros and cons of what I'm considering. For example this past year we moved into MILs house from a rental property. My husband and I talked around this for a few months, finally I listed the good and bad points about each place and although it is tough moving to MILs it would give us a better chance to move forward with our life. One thing I have learnt from my husband when considering buying something he would spend a long time researching what he was interested in. Good luck with whatever decisions you have to make. Jacks

[b]hi marciascott! i too sometimes find a hard time making decisions because i fear that if i pursue what i want to do, i regret something. whenever i am in a dilemma and have no any idea of what to do, i ask advice or help to my friends. i ask for opinions if they were in my position, what will they do. they can also help me with my dilemma for we know that our friends won't ever do any harm to us right. happy posting and happy mylotting![/b]

Well, if that makes you happy then go for it.. I'm sure that you're friends will understand it no matter what decisions you will make for as long as you don't hurt anybody else.. All of us have the right to decide for our self but make sure that in all of your decisions you always think what is right for you and no one will going to hurt it.. In my personal experiences, I am not scared to make a decision to myself.. I always pursue what i think is right for me even sometimes i failed and get hurt.. I accept all the consequences that might come to me since I know that in every decisions that I've made I know that not all of it have a good outcome.. Just be ready of your self and always think that no matter what may come along the way, you always be strong and have faith in it..

Well I hope by the time you read this you have already made your decision. It's good to seek out advice from other people just make sure that you have already explored all the options and know the consequences of your decision. Whatever your decision will be I hope it will be good for you.

I really just go with my gut instinct or first instinct. Usually this one is best and correct in most instances, and if you end up thinking too much, it ends up weighing down everything else and bringing your day down. Hopefully you don't stress too much. Keep your head up, it will all work out.

I generally am NOT one to go to others to help make a choice...I am more inclined to analyse the hell out of the situation then come to a decision that way...In fact its very rare that I'll go to others BEFORE making my decision...I just dont like doing it....Unless its something that has me really stumped then I might go to my husband with it for his input or maybe one of my dearest friends back home but they both know how my brain works and would be able to give me sound advice becuase of it ya know...

I always pray about it and always get an answer. However I listen to my friends but I do not act on their advice as I never usually asked for it in the first place.

Hello, marciascott. Our life is a matter of decision. You are where you are right now because of decisions you have taken in the past. Be it small and unnoticed decisions or big decisions. It is not easy to choose. People are afraid of choosing wrongly. And, honestly, there is no way to know if your decision will be the best. You can't predict the future. You cannot say: "I am taking this path because, in the future, I know that it is going to make me rich". It is a matter of risking. You have to choose one path in which you don't know what will happen exactly, and this is what scares people the most. The secret on making decisions is: is it going to make you happy? Is it going to harm somebody? Do you see future in your decision? I mean, it is not good to choose something that you know it isn't going to work. And you should not decide something that will hurt somebody, unless it is already hurting you. Decisions are hard, really. But you have to be strong and choose them. There are no bad things to the point that they cannot be fixed. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

marciascott, Making decisions are never easy however, I have learnt that none of us are perfect and we can never arrive at the best decision where it can please everyone all the time. However, that should not discourage you from making it. Besides, you need practice to make this (almost) perfect. There is an old Chinese proverb that goes: “A wise man makes his own decisions, an ignorant man follows public opinion” so, just don't be too mindful of others' feeling and opinions. Do whatever you feel is right and comfortable, it may not have to be best for one or two however, if the majority (including God) could approve, agree and be happy about your decision, then how wrong can you be then? In conclusion, I'd like to share this from Tom Robbins: “Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.” Take care and have a nice day.

Hi friend, I think it is right.It is really hard to make decision very easily.We have to think a lot about the situation.Sometimes we have to feel stressful too.Sometimes it seems very easy.It all depends upon the situation we are facing in order to take them. Sometimes instead of us some other took a chance of taking the decision.Some time by mistake we take decision.Taking decision is not in our hand hehehehehe...... Have a nice day

Hello marciascott I nearly always ask my mum. She is wise and helps me out with my decision making. I also ask my dad, depending on what it is as he doesn't always know's best! My closet friend comes in handy in times of need of decission making. Of course I have been known to ask my friends on mylot for advice too! Good luck with the decission you make