I am too angry..my hubby will be dealing with this one

I have noticed with my grad daughter in third grade - the nurse is basically nothing at her school. My GD has gone to the nurse for things and said the nurse just told her to lay down and hten go back to class. Bangs on her head, big scraps - i mean, like you said, kids will get bumps and bruises, but the serious things,should be attended to better and the parent called and asked if they want to come get the child and take to the emergency room or something. Hits on the head can be serious. The schools will say they don't have the money for anything better, but those salaries of these teachers in this area are huge and most likely even the janitor's salary is more than any I have ever made, not to mention their retirement and all - of which I have none - but, things won't change. Don't get me started on schools! They are so busy spending their money to protray themselves as great and wonderful, when that money should be accomodating the kids and their education. Heck, parents volunteer and do half the teachers work!

I would be pretty pissed off if I were in your shoes. I know I get upset when things like that happen with my son at school. When my son was in Head Start they sent a note home or every little bump and bruise. Anymore I don't get a note or a call about anything. I think schools are getting a little lax on things like that. I normally give the school a call if it is something big like that. A scrape I just let slide.

i can understand your concern.what the school people did was gravely wrong.lets hope for the better.hope she will be fine.

I would be really upset, hope you got it sorted! Strange I read this as today when I came out ofschool with my son one of his friends was crying, she was complaining of a headache and said she had it most of the day, she was really upset, anyway the school never phoned her mum or anything, to me that is also wrong as I'd want to know if my son was ill, I thought that was what they were meant to do!

I would be more than angry. Any head injury is dangerous and should be looked at by a doctor. Your child was probably suffering from concussion. You should be doing more than asking the school to notify you in future. The school has a duty of care. I am sure i won't be alone when i say that they have failed to provide this. I would contact the education department and inform them of this. You have more than enough grounds to take a bigger stand with this. My partner had a accident at work a couple of months ago. he split his head open and i was very angry. I felt that he should have been taken straight to the hospital. He was sent home. When he came home he was very disorientated at not acting himself. I took him to the hospital, he was given 4 stiches and had to stay in for a while because he had concussion. He should not have been allowed to drive home. So, if you wish to keep your child in this school i would jump up and down and make sure that they follow their duty of care. i would not take the risk of something more serious happpening and not being contacted again. You cannot replace your daughter, and this is just simply not good enough.

i'll be really angry at that situation, parents must be informed about these incidence!!!

I would definitely be upset with or without a medical history that warrants it. I was a kindergarten teacher till a few months back...and every incident of a fall or graze (however minor) would go as a written note to the child's home. I'm not sure if all the teacher's did that....but I did. I remember an incident last year where a child was bitten by another child...and an ice pack was put...the centre head instructed the teacher not to inform the parent since there were no signs. Though I had heard of the incident, I wasn't aware at that point of time that it was my son who had bitten the child. I thought it was wrong on the part of the centre head to try and cover it up and not let the parent know. Later on,I found out that the teacher concerned had informed the parent despite the centre head's instruction....and she also told me that it was my son who had bitten (which also was the right thing to do...because I feel as a parent, I should be aware of what my child does).

I am a mom too and yes this would make me very angry. If anything happens to my child then I want to know it. What if she would have hit her head and then had a seizure right there at school maybe hours later? It didn't happen but it could have. I would let them know about what happened when she was 18 months old as well. Tell them that anything that happens like that you need to know in case anything were to happen. I thought it was standard procedure to call the parents and inform them. I would definitely go up to the school or send your husband if he will be the nicer one. LOL I would probably go myself and show my butt though because that is nothing to play with especially since she had the seizure when she was younger.

Hi ersmommy, I wouldn't get angry and upset. The school doesn't really know what happened to your daughter when she was one and a half years old. They did their best and gave her first aid. I think your husband did the most sensible thing. The right thing is to inform the school about your concern about your daughter. I am sure they will inform your if such a thing happens again. Most probably they thought it is just another minor accident that always happens in schools. Cheers and happy mylotting

If our children bang their heads at school we have to go and fetch them and take them home. The school always alerts us to any accident that they may have so I am rather surprised for a fall like that you were not notified and yes I would be very upset if it was me. If your little girl had developed a problem it could have been very serious because a bang to the head can take a few hours to show any problems. I hope that she is OK now.

I read this one in my daily digest from MyLot. Looks like you hit a good discussion topic. As to the issue, it sounds like something that wasn't handled appropriately. You might, however, also understand that not everyone will really want to be told about every little bump. If the school nurse didn't think it warranted concern, then perhaps at least some confidence in her medical experience wouldn't be remiss. I would like to think, if the nurse were an idiot, that she'd have a lot of parents looking to get her fired already.

My daughter's school where she's been for a couple of months now have informed me when she bumped her head against her friend's; she was fine and didn't have a swelling but she was taken to see the school nurse and given a note to bring home to me detailing this. Like you said, it is standard practice so I would be fuming if I was not notified of an incident like that especially if it required an ice-pack I had a real go at the nursery she was in previously for not notifying me of one or two incidents and I removed her from the nursery after the second instance I am protective of her and I do not take things like that lightly as I like to have peace of mind if I am going to be leaving the most precious thing in my life in someone else's hands for a few hours a day... She is your child and you have the right to feel all sorts of things LOL:)

I'd be really pissed off. This is so dangerous, one should point that out to the school and also let them know how much a lawsuit would cost them. I hope your daughter is OK. Blessings

I would be extremely upset if my daughter had a fall and it had not been reported to me because if something else happened to her which could have been prevented due to being told the truth - then it would be a different story.Maybe that is being over dramatic, but I too am a mum to a 2 year old girl and do not have a cool head when it comes to these sorts of things. People do not want to take responsibility for anything these days and it is usually people who we are supposed to trust. Anything that happens to my child like that I would expect to be told about, and I could not just shrug it off. There are going to be many times when our kids fall etc but if it involves hitting the head then you should be told. Good luck.I hope your daughter is ok.

My mom has had to tangle with my little sisters teacher and principal many times because of this. At recess she was hit on the head with a stick and nothing was done even though my sister told the teacher. All was said when my mom called to complain about it was they'd deal with it but they didn't. And every few days she would come home with another bruise where a few kids were picking on her. And my mom went in there and told the principal off even though once again he said would deal with it. I think if our children are hurt we should know about it. When it comes to head traumas nothing should be overlooked as though it is nothing. So I think they should call and see if you want her to come home or be checked out by her doctor.

I don't have much faith in school nurese. Years ago the schools did check ups on the kids every year. They took their weight hight and checcked their teeth and for scilosis. This nurese kept telling my son of 6 or 7 years old that he had had his tonsels removed. Well he didn't have them removed. Yes I would be very upset if the nurse didn't notify me about such an enjury because you need to watch her. Granted when a person has this type head enjuy and a goose egg forms it is a good thing but you stll want to watch her for a while. if something happened you kneed to know what happen to report it to the Dr shoould you need to take her.

I agree that they should have notified you, whether they knew your daughter's history or not. What if she started getting really sick later and it ended up being a concussion or something. Hopefully it was just that they somehow overlooked it and someone forgot to call. There could have always been human error, so luckily your husband will be able to go in with a cool head and get to the bottom of this.

I would be boiling mad. There is no telling what could have come of that bump on the head, and it would be a good thing if you knew about it before she went to bed. She could have had a mild concussion, and sleep would have been the last thing she needed. I am responding to this late, so I am relieved that this turned out alright. The schools here are required to report anything that happens medically to the parents or an emergency contact. At the very least they have to send a paper home stating what happened. Even the home daycare providers in my county do this, so I am at a loss to why this wasn't reported. Its a good thing that your husband has a cooler head, I don't know what I would have done, but it would have been me to go up to the school and say something!

I share your anger at this. There is a big difference between a child getting a scrape or bruise and a head injury. That should be dealt with as a serious incident. Even applying an ice pack does not seem sufficient to me. Parents should be informed immediately, or as soon as possible, and further medical advice should have been sought. I really can't understand how a child could have hit her head and the parents not be informed. It should not be left to any child to inform their parents about a bang to the back of their head.

that's not right; they should have told you. I would be upset