Talking to a sibiling, rivalry... and all

This is a pretty good discussion baby and I am sure there are a lot of people who have different relationships when it comes to their siblings,I am sure there are some people who might be closer to their siblings then others,and are close friends with them,and talk to them everyday,or see them everyday,and then I am sure are people who are not very close with their siblings either because they have never gotten along or because they do not like their siblings or because they are jealous of their sibling or their sibling is jealous of them,and I am sure that a lot of people suffer from sibling rivalry and I can understand why people would or would not get along with their siblings because everyone thinks differently,and some people are raised differently when it comes to their siblings,especially if one is spoiled,and I think another big thing is age difference because some people do not like their siblings if they are a lot younger or a lot older than them,and I know you are going to have your sister as your Matron of Honor in our wedding which is set for September of next year,just like my father is going to be my Best Man,and I know you have said you have never been close to your sister,and I know you have not talked to her that much about the wedding,and it does seem that it might be hard to figure out how she would react and it is hard to know when she will be home,and I know you were closer with your brother,and that you could ask him anything without fear of what he would say and your brother is a great guy,and I liked him,and he did seem easier to talk to then your sister,as you know I only have one actually sibling who is my half brother since me and him have the same dad but different moms and he is eleven years older than me,so me and him have never been close because I did not grow up around him,which me and him do get along when we talk,and I will talk to him,like that one night I talked to him for a half an hour,me and him just never have much to talk about,but we are always friendly and get along when it comes to holidays like Christmas,and me and him have never had a fight or an argument over anything which I know is a good thing,and I am sure he will come to our wedding just like he came to my high school graduation I love you with all my heart and soul.

[i]Hi SomeCowgirl, My sis and I were very close yet we also fight a lot..LOL! We were playmates since Mom will not allow us to go out from the house and play with other kids when we were young..We were renting an apartment during our High School up to College and away from Parents during those times and this situation help us to become very close, but as I've mentioned since we're only 1 year apart, we also argue often! LOL! [/i]

I only have one brother and his line of work has turned him into somewhat of a hermit. Our mother was the same way but was also in the same line of work. They both liked to be at home rather than out in the public after working around people all the time. However my brother is easy enough to talk with. He has a good sense of humor and you always know if he isn't in the mood for socialization.

I think, you need to make the move to become closer to your sister. Ask her to go out, give her little stuff that she like. ask her to have dinner with her fave restaurant, something like that. You know what, no matter how hard your sister with you, at the end of the day, she can't take her back on you because whatever happens, she is your sister. Stay away from topics that you both don't agree to avoid arguing.

I have one brother I can talk to and another I find hard to understand. I sort of tiptoe around him and just agree with him as I would end up arguing. I would just ask your sister out right. Tell her she is going to be your Matron of honour. She will be pleased. I think as you get older you might find that the closeness with you might come. My two older daughter used to not get along and fought alot. Now they are great friends. I think going out together say for a meal might help you talk and get to know each other, so I would invite her out then ask her then.

i also have the same problem.my oleder sister always a hurry mood,and she will be talk no end when you haven't stop your words.she will be happy to say something that is great,or she will say some angry words that blame me.i alwys has a fear when i want to say something to her, for i don't know what will she do.

I know how you feel,I was my sisters matron of honor,but really she should have let her best friend be....I love her,but we have nothig in common,other than sharing the same parents.We disagree over everything and cannot be around one another for a long period before we start argueing.We were raised the same way,but our values and morals are totally different.Our parenting,our disiplining our kids,everything is different.I am the older sister and I use to be envious of her when I was married at home with two little one and she was still single and going all the time...but I grew out of that.I find myself not liking the person she is and try to avoid all the drama that seems to surround her.I too had a brother (older) that I adored,he passed away six years ago and not a day goes by that he doesn't cross my mind..he and I were very close. I don't know where its written that your sibling has to be the maid of honor..if it is..then tear it out of the book and ask your best friend to be there for you,because a best friend wants you to be happy and everything perfect for you,and knows you well enough to know if you aren't..Would your sister know you that well?

Yeah, my sister is kind of like that too. I was always the quiet one and she was always the loud difficult one. Even to this day I can't stand talking to her sometimes. If you want her to be your maid of honor, I'm sure she's happy to do so. If not, she should tell you. All I can say from experience is to try and let her control the conversation. Throw up topics that she'd want to talk about then when she's all done, bring up the wedding stuff. Try to start with stuff that will put her in a good mood.