would you divorce you husband if................
By koikoikeiji
@koikoikeiji (356)
Japan
November 25, 2008 5:52pm CST
Hi there mylotters and friends. A friend of mine divorced her husband last february, the reason is, her husband doesnt make love with her. she says that in a year they only have once or twice. The husband is not gay and he didnt even try to go to a doctor to ask his problem. They are only four years married. For me as an adult, once or twice a year is unbelievalble, its a way to show your partner how you love her/him. Do you think my friend did a good decision? Need to hear your views.
Thanks a lot and Have a nice day.
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9 responses
@kenchiprincess (5296)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
well that really depends on the person's decision and choices in life. let us just respect the decision of your friend and support the decisions that she made. that is what friends for always being there for the friend in need. 
@koikoikeiji (356)
• Japan
28 Nov 08
Hi there. Yes its been a tough years for her, so even though she lost her husband I am still here for her. I think she make the right decision, now Im just hoping that things would be better for her. Thanks for the response, have a nice day.
@kenchiprincess (5296)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
well let's just hope for the best with her.... she will be fine...
@efarmer (184)
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26 Nov 08
Well that is her own decision to make and we are no one to judge. Having said that I would say that it is really unbelievable. But is is believable if the husband doesnt love her. Because all of us are ready to go an extra mile just for the sake of our husband or wife. So if he really loved her then he would at least make an effort by seeing the doctor or talking to his wife about his problem. But he seems to have done nothing of the sort which only proves that he might not have loved her from the start and that leaves your friend in a poor position. so it is good that she divorced him. Maybe next time around she will be more careful as to who she gets into a relationship with
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@koikoikeiji (356)
• Japan
28 Nov 08
Hi there efarmer. I agree with you, I hope nextime she will be more careful. Thanks for the response.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
is he sick or something? myabe he is not feeling that well but the wife does not know. there are many reasons to this kinds of situation. but as a manspoint of view... maybe the guy finally realize that the wife is not the woman he likes to be with. or maybe the feeling is not there anymore. baka nagsawa na. ifthey talked about this and nothing changed then i think it is good for your friend to step out of the relationship already.
@koikoikeiji (356)
• Japan
28 Nov 08
I agree with you se7enthbird. I guess my friend also gave up.... nagsawa na rin, for waiting. Good day to you and to your son and to your lovely wife, davah.
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
26 Nov 08
Hi ,
I dont know if I would divorce my hubby right away . I would want to know why and maybe make him see a doc . it would be hard not to feel that closeness and i know i would feel not good enough if my hubby was not craving me . That is hard to believe only those few times a year and anyone would think maybe he is cheating or something .
@koikoikeiji (356)
• Japan
28 Nov 08
Hi metschica. I really dont know if the husband is cheating, but that would be possible. Im sure my friend think that would be one of the reason why her husband doenst feel making love with her, maybe her husband love somebody else, so divorcing him would be the right answer for that. Thanks for the response. Happy day to you.
@sambhavana (226)
• India
26 Nov 08
I think it is a very individual decision. It is about your priorities in life. What she did must be the last choice left. Without being in the same situation i cannot say anything
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@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
whoah... that's odd... making love is a part of marriage and showing your partner your love for him/her. I guess, if they have talked about it, her husband should have done something about it, so as to save their marriage. That was really a tough decision your friend had done...
@koikoikeiji (356)
• Japan
28 Nov 08
I agree with you.... thanks for your response, good day to you.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
26 Nov 08
[i]Hi koi,
I will talk to my hubby if I am in the situation and will help him to solve whatever health issues he have but I will not decide of a divorce rigth away!
But, if they talked about it and still the husband is not doing any action to solve and help her solve the problem, then I guess it is ideal for the to just separate and find their own happiness![/i]
@koikoikeiji (356)
• Japan
28 Nov 08
Hi there friend. Yes I hope they would find their own happiness, things are tought now with my friend, but she will get over it I know.... thanks for your response. good day to you.
@littleowl (7157)
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26 Nov 08
Hi koiko'..I really feel for your friend, it must of been hard for her, making love is a part of showing how much you love someone...it would actually make me wonder if my partner was straying...maybe she did make the right choice, but not knoeing her and what their marriage was like it is hard to say for sure....hugs littleowl
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@koikoikeiji (356)
• Japan
26 Nov 08
Hi littleowl. I guess you are right, we dont know for sure whats happenning inside their house. My friend might said that for her own good, we dont know the side of the story of the husband. Or maybe the husband is straying and my friend didnt say it just to save his pride. Anyway hope she would find somebody who is compatible to her. Thanks for the response. Good day to you.
@sambhavana (226)
• India
26 Nov 08
I think it is a very individual decision. It is about your priorities in life. What she did must be the last choice left.
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